Hiya Gorgeous!
The eleven tips you’re about to read have been life-changing for me.
Some of them may seem simple, but I come back to these practices whenever I need to get grounded and remind myself that living with cancer can be healthy—it can even be vibrant, abundant and filled with beauty.
Whether or not you’re living with cancer like me, these tips are universal. I know you’re going to find something (or maybe a few things!) that resonates with you.
So, let’s dive in…
During my teens and twenties, I celebrated (or avoided) Valentine’s Day. Each year had its own flavor. Heartache, romantic plans gone awry and some very sweet moments, too. But, February 14, 2003 changed that day forever. That’s the day I was diagnosed with an incurable, stage IV cancer.
Life stopped… and then transformed.
Valentine’s Day is a very spiritual celebration now. I call it my “cancerversary,” a day of deep self-love, reflection, gratitude and re-birth. It took me over a decade, post-diagnosis, to get to that sacred place. But, I’m here now and if you’re newly diagnosed, trust that you will get there, too.
For many patients, cancer is no longer a death sentence.
Really take that in. The first doctor I spoke to suggested a triple organ transplant, the second gave me 10 years to live. Thankfully, both were wrong and I didn’t listen. If you’ve been given statistical projections or an expiration date, there’s a good chance your well-meaning doctor could be wrong, too.
Once I found a better oncologist for my disease, my entire world opened up. As you may know, I have a weird slow-moving (could get aggressive one day) sarcoma. And though I’m living with cancer, I do it in a healthy, harmonious way. In fact, today I call myself a cancer thriver and I bet that no matter what your personal, medical or emotional pickle is (cancer or something else), you can be a thriver, too.
I would never say that life with cancer is easy, but it can be quite stunning and rich, even in the midst of the pain. These tips have helped me feel better and get stronger along the way. I think they’ll be useful for you or someone you love, too.
11 Tips for Healthy Living with Cancer
1. When the going gets tough, take a really deep breath.
This is the first (and most important) move you can make when the shit hits the fan. There will be endless ideas, advice, theories and even some medical bullying slung your way. Your breath is the gateway to your intuition—it will help you navigate the noise. Breathe and listen. Your breath also has the power to reduce stress (more on that below). When we’re in prolonged fight or flight mode, it’s hard to make decisions and easy to get depressed, anxious and exhausted. Breathe.
2. Find the best oncologist for your disease.
If I had listened to the first doctor, I wouldn’t be here today. Thankfully, I was willing to travel to find the best oncologist for my sarcoma. If you’re newly diagnosed (with any medical issue), I highly suggest you do the same. Your life is in their hands. Do they have experience and access to the latest research? Are they tapped into a network of colleagues who can discuss your case? Your local hospital may not cut it. My oncologist at Dana-Farber Cancer Institute understands all the current traditional treatment options for my disease. I still haven’t had any conventional treatment, but should my disease become aggressive, he’d be my first stop (but not my last).
How to find an oncologist: Start by Googling the top 10 cancer hospitals in the U.S. Also, use the resources below to explore the best oncologist for your specific cancer. In addition to these tips, network! I’ve found the best support by asking my doctor, family and friends.
- National Cancer Institute’s Office of Cancer Centers
- American Society of Clinical Oncology’s Cancer.Net Cancer Specific Resources
- Cancer Treatment Centers of America (CTCA)
3. Your oncologist (or other doctor) probably isn’t enough.
Build an integrative team. Integrative and functional medicine practitioners treat your whole body, not just the symptoms. How do they do that? With dietary recommendations, targeted supplements, IVs, stress management tips and other integrative therapies that improve your overall well-being, including boosting your immune system.
How to find an integrative MD: Check out the directories below. Again, network your butt off. Ask around and interview the prospective healing candidates—that’s right, they work for you.
- Find a Functional Medicine Practitioner
- American College for Advancement in Medicine
- American Association for Naturopathic Physicians
4. Reduce inflammation. Eat plants.
In a nutshell: Embrace gorgeous greens, beans, legumes, nuts, seeds, whole grains, sea veggies, fruits and vegetables galore. Crowd out inflammatory, hormone-filled dairy and other animal products (even organic) by filling your plate with plant-strong, whole foods. And while you’re at it, dump the processed white stuff, especially sugar (it feeds cancer and other bullshit). Speaking of sugar, choose low-glycemic fruits and desserts. If you’re not interested in going full tilt vegan, make plants your main dish and think of everything else as a condiment. If you don’t ditch animal products, reduce your consumption to 2-3 times per week and avoid factory farm products at all costs. For delicious recipes, check out our recipe section at Kriscarr.com, Crazy Sexy Juice and Crazy Sexy Kitchen.
5. Juice your ass off. Not sugary juices.
Avoid store bought processed juices and choose fresh, green, healing juices that you make yourself. Organic is definitely best if you can afford it. If not, check out the Environmental Working Group’s (EWG) Dirty Dozen and Clean Fifteen for guidance on avoiding chemical-laden produce. Without a shadow of a doubt, my daily, low-glycemic green juice practice has allowed me to thrive in spite of my obstacles. My basic juicing rule for patients is a 3:1 ratio—three veggies to one low-glycemic fruit. You can also add lemon, as it has very little sugar. Ginger rocks too. Juices are nutrient dense, hydrating, energizing and medicinal. If you only have a blender, that’s great, too. Make green smoothies instead. Cheers!
6. Choose safe personal care and cleaning products.
The average person uses 9 personal care products per day containing about 126 chemical ingredients. But, the FDA doesn’t review or approve the majority of these products before they go to market. In addition, companies aren’t required to test their products and are allowed to leave hazardous chemicals off their labels. So, it’s no surprise that many of the chemicals found in personal care products have been linked to increased risks of cancer, infertility, birth defects, hormone disruption, etc. Babies, children, teens, adults—we’re all exposed to these chemicals on a daily basis and there’s still much we do not know about their long-term health effects. The same holds true for household cleaning products. Is your laundry detergent safe? Find out. Use the EWG’s Skin Deep Database and learn about toxic chemicals and body burden here.
7. Sedentary lifestyles are actually dangerous.
While it’s important to rest, lack of exercise actually speeds up muscle wasting, weakens your endurance and immunity, and creates more fatigue. Your body needs to move and stay strong. You’ll handle cancer treatments and other medical procedures better and recover faster when you have more muscle tone and flexibility. Did I mention proper bowel movements? Yeah… movement helps with that, too (pun intended!). Exercise also reduces inflammation and growth stimulators like estrogen, insulin and IGF-1. Studies have shown that even short bursts of exercise can have impressive results for your health. You don’t need a lot of time or fancy equipment to make a difference. But, you gotta get out of your chair and commit to some form of moderate exercise on a regular (almost daily) basis. Light weights, yoga, dance, martial arts—whatever rings your bell! Start with 10 minutes a day and see if you can work up to 30-60 minutes (do your best and always listen to your body).
8. Sleep like a champ.
A proper night’s sleep, especially between 11 p.m. and 7 a.m., will help you heal—for real. Not only will you be able to respond to treatments better, but restful sleep activates your body’s own regenerative abilities. You don’t have to enter monastic life and stick to perfect sleep hygiene, ya just need to create the conditions for more sleep on a consistent basis. Keep your room cool, block out all light, dump the coffee by noon—or switch to green tea (coffee = 140 milligrams of caffeine per serving, green tea = 25 milligrams)—peel back on the alcohol and drink it earlier with food (alcohol disrupts melatonin and blood sugar), give yourself time to wind down and set a loving intention: May I be peaceful, calm and sleepy!
9. Wrangle your stress.
Stress releases a cascade of hormones in your body. This is all well and good when you need to run or move out of the way quickly. But when the source of your stress is prolonged, like a cancer diagnosis that takes years or even a lifetime to manage, stress can become your number one enemy. Being diagnosed with cancer is one of the most traumatic events that can happen in anyone’s life. But, there are ways to manage the panic so it doesn’t weaken your immune system, disrupt your sleep and create more illness in your body. Meditation, hiking in the woods, pottery, yoga—anything that gets you out of your head and into your heart/body. In addition, you may need some good ole professional support. Yup, a shrink. Figure out what works for sweet you, and don’t forget a good ole massage from time to time. We hold so many issues in our precious tissues.
10. Accept where you are right now.
Unconditional acceptance is the path of the spiritual warrior. It takes courage to embrace your current situation—to be present and loving toward yourself exactly as you are. You are your reality. You are your truth. Can you change? Absolutely! But, even talking about change puts us in the future. And while there’s definitely a time for that, building a strong foundation in the now will allow you to consistently love and care for yourself. Stop for a minute. Give yourself props. Take in your good. If you’re hell bent on strategizing about all that could be better, then you must promise to give equal time to what’s amazing right now.
When I was first diagnosed, my burning goal was remission. Anything else seemed like colossal failure. And, even worse—my fault. Over a decade later, I’m a master at my own advice. I accept wonderful me, cancer and all. Does that mean that I’ve given up on my health? Of course not! It means I love and respect myself no matter what.
Acceptance is different from quitting. It means that no matter what happens, you won’t abandon yourself in your time of need. And, here’s the part that contributes to your overall well-being: Acceptance allows you to rest, renew and replenish.
11. Educate yourself.
Here are three powerful books that have been cancer lifelines for me:
1. Life Over Cancer by Keith Block M.D. (This is a must-read by my integrative oncologist.)
2. Anticancer Living by Lorenzo Cohen, PhD and Alison Jefferies (This book is outstanding!)
3. Crazy Sexy Cancer Tips by Kris Carr (Yours truly—writing that book rescued my life.)
I hope you’ll give these tips a try. Remember, you don’t have to transform your life overnight. Small, manageable changes go a long way when it comes to feeling better.
You are a treasured member of my virtual family, and I love you. Keep taking care of yourself.
Your turn: What tips and tricks have helped you along your health journey? Share in the comments below!
Peace & thriving,
Kris,
I have adenocystic carcinoma – a similar slow grower which can just to decide to take off. you mention to network so here I am networking with you. Can you share the name of your integrative MD? I am in CT and willing to travel. Thank you
Keith Block in Chicago honey. Google him!
Dearest Kris…..Your book Crazy Sexy Cancer and the documentary was the first time i actually smiled and KNEW I was on the right track! That was almost five yrs. ago and although a lumpectomy and then a double mastectomy followed…the love and so smart info I have followed from you my dear has made a huge difference in my continuing thriving…….Thank you Thank you You help so many of us and we LOVE you big time!!!!!!!
Kris,
You are such an inspiration to me. I was diagnosed in August 2012 with stage IV colon cancer with metastasis to the liver. I had 2 major surgeries in March 2013. In July of that same year, my cancer returned to my liver and I was devastated. Within a few weeks I started to make major shifts in my life like you have done. I am in chemotherapy but do so much more than that. Dietary changes, juicing, supplements, yoga and mind/body connection etc… Thankyou for putting such valuable information out there for people to read. Cancer can be beaten. We are living proof!
Sincerely,
Carol
Carol, keep up all you are doing! I was diagnosed 2-22-16 with stage 3 colon cancer, tumor was removed but it was found in lymph nodes so chemo was started in April. In three wks I will finish chemo. I tried to follow Kris’s dietary advise but I am struggling. Then I had to resort to eating ‘whatever’ I could get down to keep from losing to much weight (nausea). Now I am on a quest to get back on track. Thank you for sharing your story. Keep up the good, positive vibe work.
Laurel
Hi Laurel,
I was diagnosed this past July also with stage 3 colon cancer with one postive lymph node. I am only,on my 2nd chemo treatment and wonder how I am going to get through this. I too wanted badly to dollow Kris’s healthy way of life but also list weight and now eat whatever I can stomach ti keep up my energy! Just wantes to say Hi and send hugs to you! We can do this!
Susan xoxo
Thank you Kris, just woke and read your email , popping up now to do my meditation a great way to start my day.
Was only diagnosed 4 months ago with stage 4 lung cancer with secondly tumours in my brain surgery was attempted in my brain but was to risky . My chemo and radio treatment has finished and Iwill have scans in a few weeks then results,
I have found my way to your story thru my organic grocer,you are so inspiring and I feel scared but good . Thank you again
Love Debra
Kris, Thanks for all your healthy informative avenues. My husband and I have watched your documentary on cancer, and now we have read your book, Sexy Crazy Cancer and most recently ordered your new recipe book. Three years ago I had started to read your book because my brother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Unfortunetly he passed away 5 months after being diagnosed. I recently picked your book up and have been following your suggestions. We have been making smoothies, eating entirely a plant based diet and even started daily yoga. Previously we were Pescetarians. Bless you for all of your research and success. Thank you for all your love, sharing and caring. Congratulations on your 11 year cancerversary and may there be many more years.
Congratulations on your cancerversary Kris! I love your posts and read every one. These tips are excellent and need to be in every cancer survivor’s toolkit. I’m not a cancer survivor but I lost my younger sister to lung cancer four years ago. I don’t know if knowing about you back then would have saved her, but I know it would have helped her tremendously….she, sadly, did NOT have a good oncologist. By the way, your tips above are sage advice for everyone desiring vibrant health. Those of us without cancer who love your blog can just disregard tips 2 and 3 and breathe in gratitude in their place! xx
Thank you Kris for sharing your journey with the world, you’re quite an inspiration. I’ve bought your books for everyone in my family (2 of which are cancer thrivers). Basically, wanted you to know…I’m a fan! Wishing you well.
Dear Kris,
Thank you so much for your work, books, advices, recipes and for building this fantastic loving virtual family. Every week I am thrilled to read your newsletter. I wish you all the VERY, VERY BEST for EVERYTHING!!!
I have never let a comment before. I haven’t been inspired or too shy or thinking that I have nothing special to write here. But today, I can not stop myself 😉 I would love that everybody on earth speak English to be able to read you every week as well as watching Marie TV! I am a B-Schooler from last year and have listened and loved the Spotlight Course.
In fact, I am watching and reading you, Marie Forleo, Marianne Williamson, Danielle Laporte…, working to build a better, greater world, and this is the most inspiring thing I had read/followed so far. You are amazing women and I fully believe in Danielle Laporte when she said that the Dalai Lama said to her that the future of the world is Women 😉 I am not feminist at all, but am convinced that women were not present enough on the Public area so far… Our way of thinking is so different… the world needs it!
I am living in London and won’t be able to support Marianne Williamson on her way to the Congress but my heart is with her, with you all!!!
Much love, Fred x.
PS. Have you read “The Female Brain” by Louann Brizendine? A must read (and great fun) book about women!
Kris, Thank you! I love you! thank you! Health for you!
Kris, thanks for the post. One book I found helpful in my treatment was “Anticancer: A New Way Of Life by David Servan-Schreiber”, seemed to resonate with me somehow. I look forward to your next anniversary post. All the best.
My most hopeful book too!
Interested in hearing what you have to share about starting up an internet based business.
Kris, you are SO inspiring! Thank you for your blogs; it makes my day when I see them pop up in my email. Keep doing what you’re doing….you’re obviously doing it right. Congratulations on your 11 year cancerversary!!!
Kriss, Thank-you for giving us the empowerment to make some positive changes in our diet. I do not have cancer, my precious daughter, Arthina age 37 diagnosed at age 33, does. I think when we read these blogs everyone interprets them differently. I embraced the idea of juicing and your delicious smoothies as a way to incorporate vegetables and fruits into my non-existing veggie and fruit eating habits. We too searched out the best oncologists to fight my daughter’s rare form of kidney Cancer called xp11.2 translocation renal cell carcinoma. We were told to take her home and that was not good enough for her, her twin sons, or her family and friends; that was 4 years ago also on Valentines Day! I used the My first advise to others fighting cancer is to do your research. I used U.S. News 2013 Edition to find Arthina’s dr.’s in Arizona at Mayo, who specialize in Kidney Cancers and is 4th on the list of top 50 cancer hospitals. Educating ourselves is not “false hope.” Thank-You. Sandi
Congrats on truly LIVING with cancer! Love this post–no matter what type of cancer one has or at what stage, it’s so important to take back one’s control. There’s hope in just being able to do loving things for oneself. Look forward to getting your emails every week!
Congratulations on your “anniversary”. Thanks for sharing so many well researched and documented tips. You are truly courageous. Keep up the good work.
I have enjoyed reading your posts about the juicing… I had no idea about your diagnosis… BUT as you have proven – JUICING DOES THE TREATMENT JOB!!!… GOD BLESS YOU and may you CONTINUE WITH GOOD HEALTH
What’s so important also, is how with the exception of #s 2 and 3, people who desire changing their lives for the healthier should be implementing this entire list into their daily lives. It’s a work in progress for me, to be sure, but every time I read stuff like this, it hits home because I know deep in my soul, that I will feel better and live a longer, healthier life by taking an integrative approach. Thank you so much for posting these!
May God bless you
Am beginning to plan for my future and am going to live longer, thank you
Kris, thanks so much for this and everything that you do! I was diagnosed with borderline ovarian cancer two years ago, a week after turning 30. After surgeries and two years of hoping it would go away (it didn’t), I “randomly” came across Crazy Sexy Cancer Tips and read it cover to cover. I can’t express how much you’ve helped me to shift my thinking from passive to proactive. Thanks!
Kris,
I have adenocystic carcinoma – a similar slow grower which can just to decide to take off. you mention to network so here I am networking with you. Can you share the name of your integrative MD? I am in CT and willing to travel. Thank you
sorry this came in the wrong spot
thanks chris, you are veryinspiring!!!!,
You are an amazing woman! Thank you for being so real and for sharing the way you do! 🙂 xo