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11 Life-Changing Tips for Cancer Patients

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Hiya Gorgeous!

The eleven tips you’re about to read have been life-changing for me.

Some of them may seem simple, but I come back to these practices whenever I need to get grounded and remind myself that living with cancer can be healthy—it can even be vibrant, abundant and filled with beauty.

Whether or not you’re living with cancer like me, these tips are universal. I know you’re going to find something (or maybe a few things!) that resonates with you.

So, let’s dive in…

During my teens and twenties, I celebrated (or avoided) Valentine’s Day. Each year had its own flavor. Heartache, romantic plans gone awry and some very sweet moments, too. But, February 14, 2003 changed that day forever. That’s the day I was diagnosed with an incurable, stage IV cancer.

Life stopped… and then transformed.

Valentine’s Day is a very spiritual celebration now. I call it my “cancerversary,” a day of deep self-love, reflection, gratitude and re-birth. It took me over a decade, post-diagnosis, to get to that sacred place. But, I’m here now and if you’re newly diagnosed, trust that you will get there, too.

For many patients, cancer is no longer a death sentence.

Really take that in. The first doctor I spoke to suggested a triple organ transplant, the second gave me 10 years to live. Thankfully, both were wrong and I didn’t listen. If you’ve been given statistical projections or an expiration date, there’s a good chance your well-meaning doctor could be wrong, too.

Once I found a better oncologist for my disease, my entire world opened up. As you may know, I have a weird slow-moving (could get aggressive one day) sarcoma. And though I’m living with cancer, I do it in a healthy, harmonious way. In fact, today I call myself a cancer thriver and I bet that no matter what your personal, medical or emotional pickle is (cancer or something else), you can be a thriver, too.

I would never say that life with cancer is easy, but it can be quite stunning and rich, even in the midst of the pain. These tips have helped me feel better and get stronger along the way. I think they’ll be useful for you or someone you love, too.

11 Tips for Healthy Living with Cancer

1. When the going gets tough, take a really deep breath.

This is the first (and most important) move you can make when the shit hits the fan. There will be endless ideas, advice, theories and even some medical bullying slung your way. Your breath is the gateway to your intuition—it will help you navigate the noise. Breathe and listen. Your breath also has the power to reduce stress (more on that below). When we’re in prolonged fight or flight mode, it’s hard to make decisions and easy to get depressed, anxious and exhausted. Breathe.

2. Find the best oncologist for your disease.

If I had listened to the first doctor, I wouldn’t be here today. Thankfully, I was willing to travel to find the best oncologist for my sarcoma. If you’re newly diagnosed (with any medical issue), I highly suggest you do the same. Your life is in their hands. Do they have experience and access to the latest research? Are they tapped into a network of colleagues who can discuss your case? Your local hospital may not cut it. My oncologist at Dana-Farber Cancer Institute understands all the current traditional treatment options for my disease. I still haven’t had any conventional treatment, but should my disease become aggressive, he’d be my first stop (but not my last).

How to find an oncologist: Start by Googling the top 10 cancer hospitals in the U.S. Also, use the resources below to explore the best oncologist for your specific cancer. In addition to these tips, network! I’ve found the best support by asking my doctor, family and friends.

3. Your oncologist (or other doctor) probably isn’t enough.

Build an integrative team. Integrative and functional medicine practitioners treat your whole body, not just the symptoms. How do they do that? With dietary recommendations, targeted supplements, IVs, stress management tips and other integrative therapies that improve your overall well-being, including boosting your immune system.

How to find an integrative MD: Check out the directories below. Again, network your butt off. Ask around and interview the prospective healing candidates—that’s right, they work for you.

4. Reduce inflammation. Eat plants.

In a nutshell: Embrace gorgeous greens, beans, legumes, nuts, seeds, whole grains, sea veggies, fruits and vegetables galore. Crowd out inflammatory, hormone-filled dairy and other animal products (even organic) by filling your plate with plant-strong, whole foods. And while you’re at it, dump the processed white stuff, especially sugar (it feeds cancer and other bullshit). Speaking of sugar, choose low-glycemic fruits and desserts. If you’re not interested in going full tilt vegan, make plants your main dish and think of everything else as a condiment. If you don’t ditch animal products, reduce your consumption to 2-3 times per week and avoid factory farm products at all costs. For delicious recipes, check out our recipe section at Kriscarr.com, Crazy Sexy Juice and Crazy Sexy Kitchen.

5. Juice your ass off. Not sugary juices.

Avoid store bought processed juices and choose fresh, green, healing juices that you make yourself. Organic is definitely best if you can afford it. If not, check out the Environmental Working Group’s (EWG) Dirty Dozen and Clean Fifteen for guidance on avoiding chemical-laden produce. Without a shadow of a doubt, my daily, low-glycemic green juice practice has allowed me to thrive in spite of my obstacles. My basic juicing rule for patients is a 3:1 ratio—three veggies to one low-glycemic fruit. You can also add lemon, as it has very little sugar. Ginger rocks too. Juices are nutrient dense, hydrating, energizing and medicinal. If you only have a blender, that’s great, too. Make green smoothies instead. Cheers!

 

6. Choose safe personal care and cleaning products.

The average person uses 9 personal care products per day containing about 126 chemical ingredients. But, the FDA doesn’t review or approve the majority of these products before they go to market. In addition, companies aren’t required to test their products and are allowed to leave hazardous chemicals off their labels. So, it’s no surprise that many of the chemicals found in personal care products have been linked to increased risks of cancer, infertility, birth defects, hormone disruption, etc. Babies, children, teens, adults—we’re all exposed to these chemicals on a daily basis and there’s still much we do not know about their long-term health effects. The same holds true for household cleaning products. Is your laundry detergent safe? Find out. Use the EWG’s Skin Deep Database and learn about toxic chemicals and body burden here.

7. Sedentary lifestyles are actually dangerous.

While it’s important to rest, lack of exercise actually speeds up muscle wasting, weakens your endurance and immunity, and creates more fatigue. Your body needs to move and stay strong. You’ll handle cancer treatments and other medical procedures better and recover faster when you have more muscle tone and flexibility. Did I mention proper bowel movements? Yeah… movement helps with that, too (pun intended!). Exercise also reduces inflammation and growth stimulators like estrogen, insulin and IGF-1. Studies have shown that even short bursts of exercise can have impressive results for your health. You don’t need a lot of time or fancy equipment to make a difference. But, you gotta get out of your chair and commit to some form of moderate exercise on a regular (almost daily) basis. Light weights, yoga, dance, martial arts—whatever rings your bell! Start with 10 minutes a day and see if you can work up to 30-60 minutes (do your best and always listen to your body).

8. Sleep like a champ.

A proper night’s sleep, especially between 11 p.m. and 7 a.m., will help you heal—for real. Not only will you be able to respond to treatments better, but restful sleep activates your body’s own regenerative abilities. You don’t have to enter monastic life and stick to perfect sleep hygiene, ya just need to create the conditions for more sleep on a consistent basis. Keep your room cool, block out all light, dump the coffee by noon—or switch to green tea (coffee = 140 milligrams of caffeine per serving, green tea = 25 milligrams)—peel back on the alcohol and drink it earlier with food (alcohol disrupts melatonin and blood sugar), give yourself time to wind down and set a loving intention: May I be peaceful, calm and sleepy!

9. Wrangle your stress.

Stress releases a cascade of hormones in your body. This is all well and good when you need to run or move out of the way quickly. But when the source of your stress is prolonged, like a cancer diagnosis that takes years or even a lifetime to manage, stress can become your number one enemy. Being diagnosed with cancer is one of the most traumatic events that can happen in anyone’s life. But, there are ways to manage the panic so it doesn’t weaken your immune system, disrupt your sleep and create more illness in your body. Meditation, hiking in the woods, pottery, yoga—anything that gets you out of your head and into your heart/body. In addition, you may need some good ole professional support. Yup, a shrink. Figure out what works for sweet you, and don’t forget a good ole massage from time to time. We hold so many issues in our precious tissues.

10. Accept where you are right now.

Unconditional acceptance is the path of the spiritual warrior. It takes courage to embrace your current situation—to be present and loving toward yourself exactly as you are. You are your reality. You are your truth. Can you change? Absolutely! But, even talking about change puts us in the future. And while there’s definitely a time for that, building a strong foundation in the now will allow you to consistently love and care for yourself. Stop for a minute. Give yourself props. Take in your good. If you’re hell bent on strategizing about all that could be better, then you must promise to give equal time to what’s amazing right now.

When I was first diagnosed, my burning goal was remission. Anything else seemed like colossal failure. And, even worse—my fault. Over a decade later, I’m a master at my own advice. I accept wonderful me, cancer and all. Does that mean that I’ve given up on my health? Of course not! It means I love and respect myself no matter what.

Acceptance is different from quitting. It means that no matter what happens, you won’t abandon yourself in your time of need. And, here’s the part that contributes to your overall well-being: Acceptance allows you to rest, renew and replenish.

11. Educate yourself.

Here are three powerful books that have been cancer lifelines for me:

1. Life Over Cancer by Keith Block M.D. (This is a must-read by my integrative oncologist.)
2. Anticancer Living by Lorenzo Cohen, PhD and Alison Jefferies (This book is outstanding!)
3. Crazy Sexy Cancer Tips by Kris Carr (Yours truly—writing that book rescued my life.)

I hope you’ll give these tips a try. Remember, you don’t have to transform your life overnight. Small, manageable changes go a long way when it comes to feeling better.

You are a treasured member of my virtual family, and I love you. Keep taking care of yourself.

Your turn: What tips and tricks have helped you along your health journey? Share in the comments below!

Peace & thriving,

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  1. Anni says:

    Dear Kris, I read your book Crazy Sexy Diet about a year ago and it had a really huge impression on me. I transformed my eating habits and I try to change a bit other areas of my life too. I have to tell you that I can’t thank you enough for your inspiration and support and really admire you!!! I wish you all the best and happiness from Europe. 🙂
    My father in law has just been diagnosed with an agressive brain tumor and we feel more than horrified. I immediately advised him to change his eating habits and lifestyle.
    I have seen that you are treated at Dana-Farber Cancer Institute. I would like to ask your adivice about the hospital. Would you recommend the Institute as a whole (no matter which oncologist) or would you recommend a practitioner in particular that you know?
    I would really really apprieciate your reply – also by e-mail if that’s more convenient for you.
    Thank you in advance for your time and thanks againg for your wonderful book.
    Love, Anni

  2. Eva Mandel says:

    Kris, thank you for your wonderful inspiriation.. I certainly could use it. I was recently diagnosed with endimential (cancer in the uteris). I have undergone 5 chemos, sorry I am not as strong as you are to forgo the chemo. I have purchased 3 of your books, read your emails. I may be asking a lot of you but would it be possible to call me at, 347 525 5748 or 718 236 3091 EST and give me some clarity. Or I could call you at your designated time. The diet and juicing you mention in your books are new to me. I, of course, would pay you for your consulting time. I am also looking for a oncology nutritionist who will not tell me to eat anything I want. Thank you

  3. Caryn says:

    Thanks so much. Your blog helps me on my “cancer” travels.
    I am curious to know more about possible “alternative” ways to monitor “breast cancer” . I am very fortunate to have Stage 0 – but evenso doctors are pushing to have full mastectomy with radiation. No thanks….
    My family doctor agrees but I am insisting on “watch and wait”. She recommends an MRI every 3 months but again this just isn’t sustainable. As I gain more confidence along the way I am wondering if anyone knows anything about blood cell analyis or thermography as a way to monitor.? Thanks all.

  4. James butler says:

    Very nice top tips! I think this tips very important for cancer. I say who cancer Patients they are abide by this 11 tips. Thanks for cancer tips.

  5. Steve says:

    Thank you. My victory over this dis-ease is the Courage to take it on that said. Action is a function of performance, No action,No performance. So there are actions that I Indeed need to take. 3 main areas are Lifestyle, Dietary Intake & a Daily Weekly Monthly Schedule/Routine.

  6. richard panzer says:

    HI CHRIS MY X WIFE HAS BEEN DIAGNOSED WITH BREAST CANCER.SHE IS PRESENTLY UNDERGOING CHEMO.I HAVE TRIED TO BE HER CHRIS CARR BUT NOW SHE HAS DISCOVERED THE REAL CHRIS CARR.I’M THANKFUL FOR THIS.
    LOVE YOU TOO

  7. Brenda Burchell says:

    Hi Kris, The book Radical Remission by KellyTurner has helped me so much in my present journey of cancer survival. I was diagnosed 1 1/12 years ago with stage 3-4 ? peritoneal cancer. After 4 months of self treatment, including 1 month in Mexico which included Hipec surgery and many alternative treatments, I read the book and knew that I was doing everything in all 9 chapters that she talked about. But that isn’t enough….there are so many more details to everyone’s disease, body type, reactions to treatments, etc. I’m still learning and am sure I always shall be….it’s the “shift” in my life’s journey and it has been wonderful.
    Thank you so much for everything you do to keep people informed….it’s all so helpful and free! You’re a blessing.

  8. Margaret says:

    Kris, you are an inspiration. This mission you are on has helped me through my diagnosis. In fact, I started following you long before I was diagnosed with breast cancer this past summer. I write to you now after a bilateral mastectomy and going through reconstruction while taking tamoxifen. Even though I wasn’t lucky enough to avoid cancer all together, I was lucky to avoid chemo and radiation at this point.

    The one thing I feel is important to mention is that cancer does not discriminate. I spent my life before my diagnosis healthier than most: doing yoga, walking regularly, very active, healthy eater, loved my sleep, etc. You could call me a health nut. I spent my life doing everything “they” told us to do to avoid getting cancer, but it didn’t matter. As healthy as I was, as I am, cancer still found me. And that is what I want to point out.

    It is a aggravating to hear a conversation where the people are insisting that the person with cancer did something to cause the cancer or to read an article to avoid cancer you need to do these things. It’s not possible. Of course, any person can benefit from a healthy lifestyle. I am not saying we are all doomed, but I do wish that when we talk about cancer, that we also confirm and validate that cancer does not discriminate – a cancer cell will grow when it wants to. Be real with it. The odds are that one in eight women will get breast cancer. The statistics are there. Not much can be done about that. We can make healthy choices that battle it, but the reality is cancer is real and it does not harbor in those less healthy than others. Cancer does not discriminate: healthy or not, we are all at risk. Let’s keep it real. (But maybe my new diagnosis is making me a tad cynical?)

  9. Edythe Hughes says:

    My mom just told me last night that she was diagnosed with Leukemia on Friday. I’m very sad but encouraged that this email landed in my inbox this week.

  10. Debra says:

    You are amazing! Thank you for your honesty, sharing, and tips.

  11. I really like your tip to find the best oncologist for your disease. There are so many different types of cancer, and you can often find an oncologist that has more experience with your particular diagnosis. That specialty experience will provide a higher level of care and confidence that is so needed when battling cancer.

  12. Marcia says:

    Kris, you are a dear, dear soul. I have a suggestion. Would you write a book, a blog, or something about your advice, experience or learning about handing love relationships? I have a life partner…we are supposed to be engaged ..for 10 yrs I might add…and I describe us as having a very good relationship with some very bad problems. We are seniors and both of us ARE therapists. I would still like to hear your thoughts in general. I have to say in all honesty I don’t know but maybe one couple in my entire life that has a great relationship! All the others..pts….other therapists pts….friends relatives …even a Quinta cessation are in different stages of not what I would say is a truly close, able to really talk and deeply connected relationship. I really think the major problem is a state of real inequality that still exists between men and women. Part of it I think is at a deep cultural level. What have you learned? I think you are much younger than myself. I think I recall mention of your doing some work around relationships as part of your healing. I hear a great deal of wisdom in one your age. Thank you for your so on target sharing related to healing in general.

  13. Heather says:

    Fabulous reading as ever, thanks Kris. Big hug xx

  14. Diana says:

    I researched when I was diagnosed with BC .. which to this day seems like there must of been a mistake…. but I juiced took supplements (pushed into chemo… ) denied radiation ..(by then I had more confidence from my research) I work out .. drink very little cocktails.. and eat organic food… not to mention installed a RO drinking system in my house. And changed my soap powder,bleach,cleaning products…. and I have stop taking so much crap from people. oh and I have learned how to say NO … Thank you for your books and helpful hints! YOU ROCK! hugs!

  15. Janice Mardell says:

    Hi Chris,
    I to am a cancer thriver as I was diagnosed with stage 3 cervrical cancer in 2010…they could not operate as my large tumour was behind my uterous and next to my bowels. So right in the middle of my body. So lots of pelvic radiation instead for 6 weeks and a cocktail of chemo once a week…then 5 treatments of radiation up inside me! Good news is that the original cancer is just scar tissue now. Bad news is that it did spread into my lymph system….my cancer now sits inside some very small lymph nodes deep in my chest cavity…there are 2 or 3 very tiny..but they do light up when I get my CT scans every 4 month. Still, I l am lucky that for 3 yrs now there have been no changes. I am down to 1 chemo treatment every 5 weeks! I dog walk a few times a week and have so many things that I look forward to every day. I love nature and try to get out into it every day. Have great friends, a wonderful husband that makes me laugh…a grown son that makes me proud and I have learned to really and truly live in the moment! I surround myself with positive people and practice meditation thru out my day…taking that cleansing breath is my salvation. I try to eat well…fresh fruit and veg..very little dairy ( I did have ice cream this summer) and I don’t drink except maybe the odd watered down one or 2 at social gatherings. I do go dancing every Friday night…I do say “Yes” to life and “No” to things I do not want to do and I have learned to not feel guilty about saying No. I take vitamin D and the B’s with folic acid. Oh and lots of Hemp seed! On my porridge and in my smoothies in the morning and on my salads and in soups at lunch! Gives me energy!
    I was not surprised when I was diagnosed all those yrs ago…I was soooooo stressed, working at a job I hated and trying to take care of everyone and everything. Deep down inside I was always thinking ” something has got to give and it wil not be good”. So here I am 6 almost 7 yrs later and I can truly say that I am a very happy person, I really don’t dwell (like you) on my health. I LOVE MY LIFE and I will never let this disease take my moments away from me! If you ever come to Toronto, Canada lets go dancing!

  16. Peter says:

    I am Peter Loveday
    I have stage 4 pancrus cancer -All masses across the Liver & pancrus .
    One mass bigger than a pop can that was on the outside of my rib cage.
    Total of 8 masses.
    They told me I had 2months tops.
    Im 9 months past my expiry date . 🙂
    I can actually see the mass in my stomach shrinking ,
    1side faster than the other.
    I already lost 52 pounds ,down to 160 now.
    I feel great ,woulndt even know I had it.

  17. Bettina says:

    Dear Kris, I am a very grateful follower of yours – and though I know about the above tipps from you, others and my own experience, I love to reread them from time to time. In order to either reassure myself or to remind me to become better in some respect. What helped me most – and still does – are four guidelines from two wise doctors: 1. It is as it is – and it is good (triggering the question ‘what is good in having cancer?’ For me, for example, it made my life richer and happier by boosting my personal development). 2. Everything is possible (empowering myself, opening up to possibilities instead of only seeing the limits!). 3. The healing starts in your brain (the way of seeing things). 4. And it lies in your heart (don’t only think but feel!).
    Love to all the beautiful cancer thrivers!

  18. Victoria says:

    Thank you for this great article. I think this is a great article for anyone dealing with a chronic disease. My husband has been dealing with Meniere’s (an inner ear disorder) for 6 years and these tips are spot on.

  19. Ginny Hicks says:

    I keep hearing conflicting advice regarding eating beans, grains and legumes. Some say to avoid as they turn to sugar. I take supplements, eat lots of greens. What should I do about grains etc? I’m in year two with stage 4 lung cancer. I was not a smoker.

  20. Susan Bensen says:

    Thank you so much for this! I was diagnosed last April and am working on all of this! Such great reminders. Kris, you are a gift to all of us and a model for me!

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