Hiya Gorgeous!
The first-ever Healing Cancer World Summit was a beautiful, healing, heart-expanding whirlwind. I loved chatting with many of you on social media, and in the comments here and over on the summit site. Your curiosity and commitment to your health never cease to amaze me! Using the results from this event, I compiled a modern-day guide for navigating cancer that you can find here.
This experience reminded me that together, we can fill up the universe with hope and love—for cancer patients, for people struggling and for ourselves. Hope is what we really need, and we have the power to choose it over fear. Isn’t that comforting?
I’ve long dreamed about creating something like this for you. I was so focused on making it the most valuable, uplifting event about cancer you’ve ever attended that I regularly got caught up on my role as interviewer and producer. I often had to pause and remind myself that I’m a patient who needs this information, too. And once I did that, I learned so much.
I could go on and on about my many takeaways, but one in particular stands out from the rest. It caused me to take a long, hard look at my healing priorities. And the new commitment I’ve made as a result has become my current health focus. I’m sharing it with you today because I hope you’ll make this commitment, too!
I’m promising to do everything I can to drastically reduce stress in my life.
You’re my witness! I’ve known for a long time that stress leads to inflammation and inflammation leads to disease. But because I’m so stubborn, and don’t always apply what I teach to my own practice, I needed the reminder.
I get caught up in work and life and future tripping just like anyone else. And when I forget to do what I need to reduce stress, it really takes a toll on me. It impacts my sleep, I don’t exercise as much, my diet isn’t as great and I forget to prioritize what really matters (nature, my friends, family and sanity). The result: My joy shrinks and my immune system tanks. When I’m in that place, it feels like I’m standing at the foot of an unscalable mountain and I might never get to the other side (I bet you’ve been there at some point, too).
Not convinced yet that stress is serious business? Almost every single one of the 20 experts I spoke with for the Summit—doctors, wellness experts, nutritionists, spiritual teachers and patients alike—echoed this truth in some form. These quotes in particular were huge a-ha moments for me, and I think they’re gonna resonate with you, too.
The moment Iyanla dropped this powerful nugget of wisdom, I knew it would be with me forever.
If we spend our precious time stressing, we can’t possibly be truly living. So, take a moment and check in with yourself. Is stress eating up your life? How often do you experience that unmistakable feeling of cortisol flooding your system—the blood pressure rising, the knot in your gut?
Now, to be clear, I don’t want you to stress about stress. It’s completely normal and sometimes you just gotta let those feelings flow. But taking simple steps to reduce stress, even in ways that may seem small or insignificant, can lead to big shifts. Because remember, you are a wonderful being with so much magic to share with the world and stress does nothing but dim your shine.
Not sure where to start?
Here are 4 Simple Ways to Reduce Stress:
1. Meditate
I know you’ve heard this one from me before, but even 5 minutes a day can make a difference in your life. Iyanla’s Summit lesson (and several other sessions, for that matter!) includes an amazing meditation that you can use again and again.
2. Tap
Nick Ortner, my good friend and CEO of the Tapping Solution, was another one of my fabulous Summit guests. EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques or “tapping”) is a quick, simple way to get grounded and turn down the volume on your stress. Nick even walks you through a couple of quick tapping exercises in his lesson!
3. Use essential oils
This is my go-to way to reduce stress in a pinch. Lavender may not address the root of an issue, but it does wonders for restoring balance and clearing my mind when I need to reset.
4. Spend time in nature
My daily walks are a tried and true stress reducer. They range from anywhere between 10 minutes to an hour. The length of time doesn’t matter, the consistency does. When I don’t take time in nature to clear my head and center my thoughts, I’m less stress resilient.
I love this quote from my wise dad.
Many of us spend a lot of time anticipating tomorrow, next week, next month, next year. But the truth is that no matter how much sleep we lose, it’s not going to change the outcome. All we do by creating these stories is distract ourselves from living in the present moment.
That doesn’t mean that we don’t have agency over our futures—we absolutely do! But positivity and love are far more powerful than stress. So, from now on, every time I catch myself worrying about what’s next, I’m going to do my best to replace those thoughts with positive affirmations. Will you join me?
Try saying one of these affirmations (or one of your own!) out loud next time you need to reduce stress:
- “I will be ok, no matter what.”
- “Everything is unfolding exactly as it needs to.”
- “I have the love and support I need to get through this.”
There was a lot of talk about how important it is to reduce stress throughout the Summit, but a few guests really drove home how much damage it can do to our systems if we don’t. One of those brilliant individuals was Penny Block, PhD, co-founder of the Block Center for Integrative Cancer Treatment and expert in biobehavioral health. That means she’s super knowledgeable about how our thoughts impact our health, and she could not have been more clear about chronic stress—it wreaks havoc on our systems.
Stress can influence everything from the way our genes behave to the success of our healing efforts.
The simple truth is that no matter how much kale you eat, how many vitamins you take and hours you spend exercising, you can’t be truly healthy if you’re constantly in fight or flight mode. That’s why I’m hoping you’ll join me in thinking of stress reduction as an essential part of your healing or prevention plan—right up there with green juice and surrounding yourself with super smart docs like Penny.
And there’s one final quote I want to leave you with. This one isn’t from the Summit interviews themselves, but from our very own Summit angel—Louise Hay. She was by my side through all of the planning, strategizing, interviewing, filming and writing. During my interview with Robert Holden, PhD, a Hay House author Louise adored, his lights started flickering. You can hear it happen in our interview from Day 6. It was an unforgettable moment and we both got crazy goosebumps. No doubt, Louise was with us then and still is today.
Louise always encouraged me to take my healing further, and I hope this gem does the same for you:
“I realize that stress is only fear. I now release all fears.”
Isn’t it wild how something so simple can turn your perspective on its head?
Next time you’re in the stress weeds and feel like you can’t find your way out, I hope you’ll remember this. Yes—stress is scary. It can be quite sneaky and convincing. But you don’t have to believe those thoughts. You can release them and ask the universe for something else—for love, for strength and for whatever you need to protect your precious self.
Your turn: Can we make a pact? I’m committing to do everything I can to reduce stress in my life—will you join me? Give me “I’m with you!” in the comments below.
Peace and sweet relief,
I am with you!
I’m with you <3
I have been enjoying listening and learning from your wonderful summit – and have enjoyed your books, card deck, and emails.
Thank-You for being your amazing self and sharing these gifted messages with us!
I have been effected by cancer in my life as well … my grandma, mother-in-law, friends, aunts, uncles, and even two of my furbabies, either have or had cancer.
I chose to listen to your summit as one who wanted to hear how to help ease fear, grief, stress, and how to improve my nutrition, and increase self-love. The messages I have heard came at the perfect divine time in my life, I am very grateful and appreciative!! I'm with you on the stress stuff! My own body and mind have been on a roller coaster ride of poor health this year due to my own stubbornness … hee hee … and my own denial, stuffing of emotions and allowing the gremlins ( as wonderful Brene Brown would call them ) to override.
Listening to your summit and vulnerable ah ha moments and life experiences, has reminded me to trust, believe, know I'm not alone and to have faith in my own healing.
Thank-you again Kris, you are a beacon of Love and Light!! XOXO
I’m with you! (I’m sure putting on this massive summit wasn’t stressful at all was it??? HA)
I totally agree about the walks outside no matter their length!
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and your love as always.
I’m with you!!
I love that last quote., “I realize that stress is only fear, I now release all fears”. That is also biblical., God says in the Bible, “turn all your worries and fears in to me”., easier said than done right.? But like you said, we need to make a conscious effort reminding ourselves to do that. Another wise statement I love ? is, “give no attention to things we cannot change “. Peace to all of us ?
Totally recommitted! I’m with you❤️
I am with you, Kris. I so need stress relief, too. Thank you.
I’m with you.
I commit, to work daily, on reducing and learning to manage the way I react to stress in my daily life.
Being a single, senior mom, of a special needs adult child, causes an enormous amount of daily stress. Constant fear, of breast cancer recurrence, causes an enormous amount of stress. Low income, causes a huge amount of stress. Managing it throughout the day, is nearly impossible. I do try, but getting there, has not happened. ?
Amen! I’m so with you and all the others who realize we can do this! Bless you and our beloved Louise! Thank you so much all of your love you continue to share with the world, Kris.
I’m with you, Kris!
I am with you.
I have been dealing with stress all my life. Thank you for your words and thank you for the Summit. You maybe don’t know, but you are my teacher and I really believe in everything you say. ❤️
Love from Chihuahua, México.
I listen to a few of the interviews and they were wonderful. It is so amazing how stress/joy are so important to our health. I am currently at yoga therapy student and have been exploring teaching yoga for diabetes/prediabetes. The focus is all on stress reduction because of the cortisol production produced from yoga and it’s tools. I had no idea how powerful/ detrimental too much cortisol was until I started my program and Start exploring my own healing journey with being prediabetic. Daily, I am making shifts in my life. But now I realize the Reduction of stress and focus on joy and love are truly the most important shift to make! I love the affirmation you posted in your blog. To take it a step farther, a friend of mine told me an acronym that her grandma taught her when she was little girl:
FEAR. False. Evidence Appearing Real. This is something I have been reminding myself ever since I heard. Going through divorce and a bankruptcy and starting life all over at 55 there has been much FEAR that’s been through my mind. Sometimes I go a little too far down the “rabbit hole“ with it. But this quote has really help me get through trouble times. Just wanted to share with you. Thank you for this truly mind blowing somebody put together. It was absolutely beautiful. You are blessed angel on earth. Love, Nina
Stress (anxiety) is a major concept in Bowen Family Systems Theory which I have been studying for the past 25 years. It is another avenue in understanding how stress is a significant component in our lives.
I’m with you.
I am with you! So powerful and blessed to be a part of this summit! Thank you, Kris
I’m with you you Kris!
I’m with you!! I love and trust you so much, Kris!!
Love you right back, Trish! xo
Dear Kris
I want to thank you for the wonderful gift you have bestowed upon us with this summit and I want to say how very much I admire you for the sharing and work you do.
I had a mastectomy 27 years ago and when I left the hospital I was invited to talk with other cancer patients and share my experience. Unlike you I was too fearful to do this.
I have wept through every day of the summit and have learned so much not only about illness but about myself and I thank you with all my heart. Some speakers I was able to listen to twice and some I missed altogether but this week has been an incredible learning experience
I am not able to purchase the programme just now but wanted to thank you for all you do and the beautiful soul that you are. May blessings abound for you.
Thank you for your sweet words, Marjorie. Please remember that it’s ok to feel fear—I’ve been there! Let your intuition guide you. If and when the time comes that you’re ready to help other patients, go for it! Or, you can help by sending lots of healing thoughts into the universe. Whatever you do, the world is so blessed to have you in it. xo!
I am with you!!! Diagnosed with breast canser on Sept 21st – several biopsies and scans and tests. Had surgery on Oct 15th – and then your summit came out on the 17th. I bought the program and will follow it all to the best of my ability. Love you, Kris
I’m so sorry you’re facing this challenge, Karen. My heart goes out to you and I’m sending you lot of positive, healing thoughts. I hope the Summit brings you some helpful tips and inspiration. Lots of love and hugs!
Thank you Kris! (And Louise Haye ) ? Your interview with Robert Holden really spoke to me yesterday. You and Hay House authors are a true inspiration and grateful the universe sent them my way ❤️.
Isn’t Robert just the best, Monica? I love his message of self-love and acceptance. I’m so glad to hear you felt that way, too. Sending you lots of love.