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How to Sleep Better and Get the Rest You Need to Thrive

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Hiya Gorgeous!

Good morning, sunshine!

Or… is it?

When was the last time you got a good night’s sleep? Got to bed when you actually wanted to or had time to wind down mindfully in the evening? Woke up feeling rested and didn’t hit snooze seven (or seventy?) times?

This post is the fourth in my 5 Pillars of Wellness series, which means we’re focusing on optimizing how you’re resting (the fourth pillar).

If you’re an Inner Circle Wellness Member, then you know how passionate I am about sleep. It’s integral to how we think/feel/focus/move/live, yet it’s a major challenge for many of us. That’s why I’m excited to share my top 10 tips for how to sleep better.

I know from personal experience how frustrating it can be to toss and turn, try everything under the sun (or moon?!) to get better sleep and STILL feel exhausted. You might even start to think something is wrong with you or that you’ll never get a good night’s rest again.

Of course, if you think there’s something medical going on, please consult with your doctor. But keep in mind that sleep troubles are common and not always your fault. Don’t make things harder by beating yourself up. That just breeds stress and you guessed it—more lost sleep.

Resting isn’t just about sleep.

While we’re focusing on sleep, please remember that there’s more to rest than snoozing. Rest should happen during our waking ours, too. What do I mean by that?

In today’s 24/7 go-go-go world, it can be tough to slow down. Many of us spend our precious waking hours feeling stressed, overwhelmed, etc. But the thing is, we can’t count on sleep for 100 percent of our rest. That simply leaves us with too many crazy, non-stop minutes per day.

Whether it’s meditation, breathwork, mindful breaks or something else entirely, find a simple practice that helps you rest when you’re awake. Doing so will help boost productivity, mood, energy, focus and can even help set you up for better sleep at night.

Why is sleep so important?

Many major restorative functions occur while we sleep. For adults, the biggies are muscle growth, protein synthesis, and tissue and cell repair. For infants and children, hormone production and brain development are key (which is why they need so much more sleep than adults).

But perhaps the most restorative function of sleep has to do with a neurotransmitter called adenosine. While we’re awake, our neurons fire and cells power us through the day, this process produces adenosine. It builds up all day long, leading to a decrease in dopamine—the neurotransmitter that keeps us alert and focused. So as adenosine goes up, dopamine goes down, resulting in that sleepy feeling you get at night.

While we sleep, we clear adenosine from the body and start fresh in the morning feeling alert (study). The more sleep you get, the lower the level of adenosine and the more alert you’ll feel in the morning.

If you want to learn more about what goes on in your brain and body at night, check out this article (fascinating stuff!). But for now, know this: If you’re cutting yourself short in the sleep department, you’re also cutting your overall well-being short. Inadequate sleep can increase your chances of developing type 2 diabetes, heart disease, respiratory disorders and health challenges. It can also negatively impact your mental health, fueling problems with substance abuse, memory, stress response and more.

How much sleep do you need?

The number of hours you should sleep depends on your age, sex, lifestyle, current health and simply how you feel. So it’s different for everyone, but usually between 7.5-8 hours does the job.

When it comes to sleep timing, the most restorative window is typically between 11 p.m. and 7 a.m. because your circadian rhythm is likely at its lowest point. Your circadian rhythm is influenced by your environment—namely light. It controls many of the physical, mental and behavioral changes you experience in a 24-hour cycle, including your sleep pattern. Paying attention to your circadian rhythm and going to sleep when you feel drowsy means you’ll hit deep, restorative sleep more rapidly (National Sleep Foundation).

If these numbers make you feel a little panicked, don’t worry. Many of us have trouble getting sufficient Zzzs. That’s why I’m sharing these tips for how to sleep better—because you have more power to set yourself up for sleepy success than you might think.

How to Sleep Better: 10 Must-Have Tips for Healthy, Restorative Sleep

1. Rest in cozy comfort.

A quality mattress, soft blankets and cool temperature will reduce annoying distractions (too hot! achy back!) and help you relax. If you need help finding the perfect mattress for you, check out my guide on the comfiest, most sustainable options.

2. Turn on some soothing sounds.

Use a sound machine or a fan to drown out what may be preventing you from falling asleep within 15 minutes of laying down. Certain types of music, such as binaural beats, may also help you relax and let go of racing thoughts.

3. Doze in complete darkness.

If your room isn’t completely dark, consider a sleep mask or room darkening curtains. Darkness stimulates natural melatonin production, which is not only a wonderful sleep inducer but a great cancer fighter as well.

4. Enjoy snooze-inducing smells.

Lavender lotion or using a diffuser with lavender essential oil may help you hit deep sleep sooner. Plus, who doesn’t love the smell of lavender? Ahhh… (For more on how to use essential oils for sleep, stress, etc., check out this helpful post!)

5. Turn off tech.

Plan to put your phone and other devices away at least 1 hour before going to bed. The blue light emitted from your phone, computer, etc. can interfere with sleep by suppressing melatonin production, so consider enabling features like Night Shift (which automatically adjusts your display to a warmer, less blue light) while you’re winding down in the evening. Then, keep lights dim and read or meditate to help get your brain and body ready for sleep.

6. Skip or reduce caffeine.

Caffeine makes it harder to fall asleep, but it doesn’t stop there—it can also interfere with the quality of your rest. If you’re having trouble getting or staying asleep, stick with decaf, herbal tea or one cup of coffee early in the morning. (Have more coffee questions? Check out this post!)

7. Go easy on the alcohol.

Alcohol feels like a sedative at first because it slows down motor and brain function, often leaving us relaxed and worry-free. But as it’s metabolized, acetaldehyde is produced, which acts like a stimulant in our bodies. This is what wakes us up in the wee hours of the morning, unable to get the restorative sleep we need. So for a good night’s sleep, peel back on alcohol and drink it earlier in the evening with food (or not at all).

8. Avoid nicotine.

Nicotine is similar to caffeine in that it’s a stimulant and may cause insomnia. It can also decrease slow wave sleep, which means it’s less restorative (study). Tough love: Stop smoking—for SO many reasons, not just better sleep. (I adore you too much not to say this.)

9. Exercise.

Research shows that exercise can help you fall asleep faster and improve the quality of your rest, so do your best to fit in 30-45 minutes four to five times a week. (Need help making exercise a habit? Check this out!). If you’re doing more vigorous exercise, try to avoid right before bed because it might amp you up. But relaxing stretching or restorative yoga can be great ways to wind down in the evening. Do what works best for you!

10. Clear your mind.

If you’re tossing and turning after switching the lights off, you may need to hit the mental reset button. Here are a few things to try: Before going to bed, journal—get those thoughts on paper and out of your head. Listen to a guided meditation or try Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique tutorial here). If you can’t fall asleep after lying in bed for 15 minutes, get up and do something relaxing for 15-30 minutes before returning to bed. (It’s best not to stay in bed frustrated because doing so can actually train your brain to see bed as an unrestful place.)

Here’s to better rest—day and night!

I hope you’re feeling motivated and empowered to prioritize rest, dear one! You have a busy, beautiful life to lead—and you need rest to squeeze every ounce of joy out of it.

Please be gentle with yourself as you explore the tips for better sleep and rest throughout the day. This is a process and every step you take (even the stuff that doesn’t work for you!) is worth your time. You’re taking care of yourself—nothing is more worthwhile than that.

Your turn: Do you have any helpful tips for how to sleep better? Please share what works for you in the comments below!

Peace & counting (less) sheep,

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  1. Josh says:

    By the age I have started to feel during my waking hours how bad was my sleeping. Since then I’m following all the tips to provide my energy during the day.

  2. LaEsha says:

    Thank you for these great tips. I’ve dealt with insomnia for years and, after I got married ( a year ago), it became worse because I wasn’t used to sharing a bed with anyone. I look forward to trying some of these methods to see if I can get some much needed good sleep at night.

  3. Kristin says:

    Great article!I especially like the advice to power down your technological devices!

  4. Sheila says:

    Thank you for the concise and helpful list! Wonderful! I especially like #10 as a teacher of EFT. I have been meditating, counting blessings, etc. to fall asleep faster, but sometimes nothing seems to help. Getting up after fifteen minutes and doing something relaxing is a new tip for me! I will try it! I didn’t want to wake our doggie, etc. and don’t want to turn on the light to read, so I’ll need to get a bit creative to figure out what relaxing activity to try… I know the benefits of a good, deep and restorative sleep. Blessings to you in ALL ways!

  5. It’s really incredible how much better you sleep in real darkness! But it’s some effort to run around the room with duct tape to cover all the LEDS from electronic equipment and so on ;D Good point also about not exercising too close to bedtime, since it’s easy to get energized and amped up a while after a nice workout. I also meditate or write a short note in my journal before bed if I need to unwind.

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  7. Guy Gardener says:

    My ex wife’s sister used a lavender smell to help her sleep. I had always thought about trying it, because I have troubles going to bed. Also, didn’t know that alcohol was actually a stimulant of sorts.

  8. marie says:

    Great Post. also higher levels of omega-3 DHA – the group of fatty acids commonly found in algae and seafood – are linked to better sleep.

  9. Thank you for this vital article. I know I need to really establish my sleep ritual and remain consistent with it. The consistency is my struggle. I find I sleep worse and have unpleasant dreams if I dare shortly before (within 3 hours) of going to sleep too.

  10. freedom junkies says:

    All your tips are true…My one concern is that my youngest son sleep only for 1-2 hours and he awakes for 5-7 hours…I need your advice because i’m worried…thanks

  11. Bill says:

    Great tips here Kris. I personally like to wind everything down around 9:00 at night and have a really scheduled ritual of walking the dogs, feeding the cat, and brushing the dogs teeth. After this it is our turn to get ready for bed as well as the kids. A little reading and then I go to sleep.

    I try to make sure that any stresses of the day have been dealt with by 8:00 or so and then I have trained myself not to go to bed with any stresses. What the heck can I do about a work problem all night except for stew about it, right?

    I have very little trouble sleeping now that I have put these habits in place and love all the tips that you put up here, especially the lavender oil which I have tried using a few times

  12. These are such fantastic tips, Kris- thank you. As someone who used to have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and spent hours upon hours in my bedroom, I know the tips you mentioned work every time!

    I always have trouble with keeping the room cool, as I instinctively like to feel cosy and tucked up, but finding the right temperature definitely helps!

    Thank you! xx

  13. stacy says:

    Any tips for sleeping with pain. I have extremely painful knees and hips (in need of a knee replacement) so my mind can sleep well, however, the pain keeps waking me up almost every half hour to turn over!

  14. Lakshmi says:

    I find that when I’m in bed at 9, and fall asleep before 10, I always wake up refreshed at around 1 am. Then I’m in bliss when I discover I have at least another five hours of bed time to go! There’s something great in shutting those peepers at least two and a half hours before midnight. It’s like sleep is the thickest then.

    Other lovelies: lavender essential oil, a hot shower, dim lights.

    Thanks Kris!

  15. Kris says:

    Kris, I also am a cancer survivor/thriver. My last chemotherapy session was Nov. 7. I’m still experiencing neuropathy in my feet and legs, sometimes in the torso, and a little in the finger tips. There seems to be a fear of falling asleep. I fight going to sleep sometimes, and sometimes the only way I can sleep is to leave my lamp on.

    I’ve found that it helps if I massage my feet and legs just before bed, then I sleep pretty well. I love my essential oils, so my blend is basil, lavender, ylang ylang, orange, geranium and vetiver in sweet almond oil.

    Thanks for all your tips. There are a lot of good reminders, and some new things to learn, too.

    Aloha no wau,

    KRIS

  16. forrest says:

    dont eat after 7 pm
    no pop or coffee after 3or 4

  17. This positively works. Inhale to count of. 4. Hold. To count of 7. Exhale to count of 8

    4. 7. 8

  18. Ankit Mishra says:

    Think about what all you did the whole day write from waking up, and you will not notice when your mind turns off and you go to a deep sleep mode.
    It has worked for me well, should give it a try but I am not sure whether it will work for other people as well.

  19. Susan says:

    Thanks for the tips. I have got myself to a point where I can fall asleep but I can’t stay asleep. I wake up about 3 or 4 every morning.

  20. Stephanie Parry says:

    Love your great tips! I have found that listening to books on CD helps me relax and fall asleep in a dark quiet cool room. Comfy socks on my feet helps too. Critical is exercise , body scan, eye mask, ritual of washing off make-up and clean teeth great cotton sheets and pjs. I can’t tell you what a treasure my silk comforter is. It has totally eliminated night sweats for me. They are pricey but worth every penny. Sleep is a very important investment in health. This would make a great Valentine gift you could suggest to your husband. My wonderful husband found mine at Costco. Try out different pillows to find the perfect one for yo A silky type pillow case helps you sleep better too- especially if you have sensitive skin. I travel with one because hotel pillow cases cause my face to burn(detergent issue). Cover all blue, green or red lights from electronics. We travel with a fan to block out hotel noise and out of courtesy to neighboring rooms (husband SNORES in a big way) and I use soft foam earplugs. When we can’t take a fan I use an app with white noise and ocean waves sounds mixed. Some are free. Make sure if you get up to go to the bathroom at night that you memorize the path. Never turn lights on and the socks on the feet will stop the cold bathroom floor from shocking you awake. Once on a car trip we used some black trash bags we had in the car to block a window that had bright light shinning in. Wrap some duct tape onto a popsicle stick, pop in your suitcase and you are prepared for anything. These are things I have learned over the last 60 years. I am a cancer survivor and I know how healing sleep is.

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