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How to Sleep Better and Get the Rest You Need to Thrive

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Hiya Gorgeous!

Good morning, sunshine!

Or… is it?

When was the last time you got a good night’s sleep? Got to bed when you actually wanted to or had time to wind down mindfully in the evening? Woke up feeling rested and didn’t hit snooze seven (or seventy?) times?

This post is the fourth in my 5 Pillars of Wellness series, which means we’re focusing on optimizing how you’re resting (the fourth pillar).

If you’re an Inner Circle Wellness Member, then you know how passionate I am about sleep. It’s integral to how we think/feel/focus/move/live, yet it’s a major challenge for many of us. That’s why I’m excited to share my top 10 tips for how to sleep better.

I know from personal experience how frustrating it can be to toss and turn, try everything under the sun (or moon?!) to get better sleep and STILL feel exhausted. You might even start to think something is wrong with you or that you’ll never get a good night’s rest again.

Of course, if you think there’s something medical going on, please consult with your doctor. But keep in mind that sleep troubles are common and not always your fault. Don’t make things harder by beating yourself up. That just breeds stress and you guessed it—more lost sleep.

Resting isn’t just about sleep.

While we’re focusing on sleep, please remember that there’s more to rest than snoozing. Rest should happen during our waking ours, too. What do I mean by that?

In today’s 24/7 go-go-go world, it can be tough to slow down. Many of us spend our precious waking hours feeling stressed, overwhelmed, etc. But the thing is, we can’t count on sleep for 100 percent of our rest. That simply leaves us with too many crazy, non-stop minutes per day.

Whether it’s meditation, breathwork, mindful breaks or something else entirely, find a simple practice that helps you rest when you’re awake. Doing so will help boost productivity, mood, energy, focus and can even help set you up for better sleep at night.

Why is sleep so important?

Many major restorative functions occur while we sleep. For adults, the biggies are muscle growth, protein synthesis, and tissue and cell repair. For infants and children, hormone production and brain development are key (which is why they need so much more sleep than adults).

But perhaps the most restorative function of sleep has to do with a neurotransmitter called adenosine. While we’re awake, our neurons fire and cells power us through the day, this process produces adenosine. It builds up all day long, leading to a decrease in dopamine—the neurotransmitter that keeps us alert and focused. So as adenosine goes up, dopamine goes down, resulting in that sleepy feeling you get at night.

While we sleep, we clear adenosine from the body and start fresh in the morning feeling alert (study). The more sleep you get, the lower the level of adenosine and the more alert you’ll feel in the morning.

If you want to learn more about what goes on in your brain and body at night, check out this article (fascinating stuff!). But for now, know this: If you’re cutting yourself short in the sleep department, you’re also cutting your overall well-being short. Inadequate sleep can increase your chances of developing type 2 diabetes, heart disease, respiratory disorders and health challenges. It can also negatively impact your mental health, fueling problems with substance abuse, memory, stress response and more.

How much sleep do you need?

The number of hours you should sleep depends on your age, sex, lifestyle, current health and simply how you feel. So it’s different for everyone, but usually between 7.5-8 hours does the job.

When it comes to sleep timing, the most restorative window is typically between 11 p.m. and 7 a.m. because your circadian rhythm is likely at its lowest point. Your circadian rhythm is influenced by your environment—namely light. It controls many of the physical, mental and behavioral changes you experience in a 24-hour cycle, including your sleep pattern. Paying attention to your circadian rhythm and going to sleep when you feel drowsy means you’ll hit deep, restorative sleep more rapidly (National Sleep Foundation).

If these numbers make you feel a little panicked, don’t worry. Many of us have trouble getting sufficient Zzzs. That’s why I’m sharing these tips for how to sleep better—because you have more power to set yourself up for sleepy success than you might think.

How to Sleep Better: 10 Must-Have Tips for Healthy, Restorative Sleep

1. Rest in cozy comfort.

A quality mattress, soft blankets and cool temperature will reduce annoying distractions (too hot! achy back!) and help you relax. If you need help finding the perfect mattress for you, check out my guide on the comfiest, most sustainable options.

2. Turn on some soothing sounds.

Use a sound machine or a fan to drown out what may be preventing you from falling asleep within 15 minutes of laying down. Certain types of music, such as binaural beats, may also help you relax and let go of racing thoughts.

3. Doze in complete darkness.

If your room isn’t completely dark, consider a sleep mask or room darkening curtains. Darkness stimulates natural melatonin production, which is not only a wonderful sleep inducer but a great cancer fighter as well.

4. Enjoy snooze-inducing smells.

Lavender lotion or using a diffuser with lavender essential oil may help you hit deep sleep sooner. Plus, who doesn’t love the smell of lavender? Ahhh… (For more on how to use essential oils for sleep, stress, etc., check out this helpful post!)

5. Turn off tech.

Plan to put your phone and other devices away at least 1 hour before going to bed. The blue light emitted from your phone, computer, etc. can interfere with sleep by suppressing melatonin production, so consider enabling features like Night Shift (which automatically adjusts your display to a warmer, less blue light) while you’re winding down in the evening. Then, keep lights dim and read or meditate to help get your brain and body ready for sleep.

6. Skip or reduce caffeine.

Caffeine makes it harder to fall asleep, but it doesn’t stop there—it can also interfere with the quality of your rest. If you’re having trouble getting or staying asleep, stick with decaf, herbal tea or one cup of coffee early in the morning. (Have more coffee questions? Check out this post!)

7. Go easy on the alcohol.

Alcohol feels like a sedative at first because it slows down motor and brain function, often leaving us relaxed and worry-free. But as it’s metabolized, acetaldehyde is produced, which acts like a stimulant in our bodies. This is what wakes us up in the wee hours of the morning, unable to get the restorative sleep we need. So for a good night’s sleep, peel back on alcohol and drink it earlier in the evening with food (or not at all).

8. Avoid nicotine.

Nicotine is similar to caffeine in that it’s a stimulant and may cause insomnia. It can also decrease slow wave sleep, which means it’s less restorative (study). Tough love: Stop smoking—for SO many reasons, not just better sleep. (I adore you too much not to say this.)

9. Exercise.

Research shows that exercise can help you fall asleep faster and improve the quality of your rest, so do your best to fit in 30-45 minutes four to five times a week. (Need help making exercise a habit? Check this out!). If you’re doing more vigorous exercise, try to avoid right before bed because it might amp you up. But relaxing stretching or restorative yoga can be great ways to wind down in the evening. Do what works best for you!

10. Clear your mind.

If you’re tossing and turning after switching the lights off, you may need to hit the mental reset button. Here are a few things to try: Before going to bed, journal—get those thoughts on paper and out of your head. Listen to a guided meditation or try Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique tutorial here). If you can’t fall asleep after lying in bed for 15 minutes, get up and do something relaxing for 15-30 minutes before returning to bed. (It’s best not to stay in bed frustrated because doing so can actually train your brain to see bed as an unrestful place.)

Here’s to better rest—day and night!

I hope you’re feeling motivated and empowered to prioritize rest, dear one! You have a busy, beautiful life to lead—and you need rest to squeeze every ounce of joy out of it.

Please be gentle with yourself as you explore the tips for better sleep and rest throughout the day. This is a process and every step you take (even the stuff that doesn’t work for you!) is worth your time. You’re taking care of yourself—nothing is more worthwhile than that.

Your turn: Do you have any helpful tips for how to sleep better? Please share what works for you in the comments below!

Peace & counting (less) sheep,

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  1. Lea says:

    Hi kris!! Adore your blog (we’ve got all your ingredients to whip up some dirty penne tomorrow!!) and completely admire all you do. Such sunshine! Just one question- I’m having the worst trouble finding a good sleep mask. Any suggestions?!? For those of us in NYC, I am certain this would help us all get a good snoozer going!

    Thank you in advance for your help!!!

    Lea

  2. One thing that readies my mind for sleep is keeping a small notebook by the bed to jot down at least three things I am happy about, or grateful for, from the day. Also, if I wake at night, writing down dreams (briefly with a dim light on) can clear my mind to resume sleeping. If I cannot go back to sleep in bed (at 2 a.m. after waking), sometimes walking around, getting some water, and returning to sleep in a different location will do the trick. (In my case, its my cozy sofa where I have already set out pillows and blankets.)

  3. Helen Bannon says:

    Thank you Kris for your ever positive outlook and advice. Personally I have found simply formulating a mental ‘thank you’ note, to remind myself of all the great things and people I have in my life, can help me to end the day in a positive mindset. Remembering that I am blessed helps me drift off into a peaceful sleep more easily. It may sound a bit corny and harder some days than others…but give it a go! Sweet dreams.

  4. Michelle Ross says:

    A beautiful hot bath with Epsom salts and 20 drops of lavender oil just before bed really helps me. Relaxes all my muscles and my worries seem to melt off in the bath water! Regularly taking a night time formula of magnesium orally (tablet or powder) helps too in the relaxation quest!
    Thank you Kris for first rate tips always!

  5. Mary D. says:

    My nighttime ritual is to have a cup of warm coconut or almond milk with turmeric, cinnamon, ginger and a little manuka honey. This helps me stay asleep a little longer, I use to wake up almost every hour. It also helps with aches and pains. I have suffered with insomnia since I was young and have tried so many different herbs, tea’s ect and this seems to help. Everything I use is organic.The turmeric helps with inflammation, cinnamon regulates blood sugar, the ginger is good for digestion and the manuka honey helps the immune system If you suffer with insomnia it is worth giving this a try.
    Sweet Dreams!

  6. Counting backwards from 999 three numbers at a time…999, 996, 993, etc. Hard to think and count backwards.

  7. Amy says:

    Some devices support an app called f.lux which makes the screen more yellow/orange than blue as the sun goes down. (The blue light keeps us awake and prevents the whole melatonin business from happening.) I have it installed on my laptop.

  8. Louise says:

    Great tips and reminders Chris thank you so much!

    The last couple of nights I have gone to bed super early around 7pm. A big thing for me is simply giving myself permission to down tools, jobs and tasks and slope off to bed when I need to. I am a pretty busy and active person BUT these days I am really trying to listen to my body more and take much needed zzzz-time when my body says “HEY Louise I need to REST”!

  9. Andrea says:

    I like to take advantage of adaptogenic herbs to induce restfulness. A product I use called Ionix Supreme contains several of these herbs. Adaptogens are amazing- there are only about 30 different herbs that have these properties and they encourage the body to use its own homeostatic mechanisms to get what it needs. This is unique! Many herbs out there attempt to regulate the body by forcing it to do something (for example, diuretics say to the body “pee more” and that’s what the body does). Adaptogens help the body do what it is intended to do and don’t force it to do anything. Consequently, I can take Ionix in the morning and mid-afternoon for a natural energy boost and then take it again right before my head hits the pillow to promote restful sleep. No wonder adaptogenic herbs have been a popular component of Ayurvedic medicine for centuries.

  10. Kriss says:

    Drinking 1/2 cup of natural pineapple juice just prior to bedtime really helps me.

  11. Sarah says:

    Falling asleep isn’t a problem for me. Its waking up between 3 and 4am and not being able to go back to sleep. Either because of my daughter, my dog, or my bladder, it doesn’t matter. If I wake up between 3 and 4 I can’t fall back asleep until 6am or so, and then it’s time to get up. Should I just be staying up? Taking a nap? I’m at a loss. It’s hard to get up and do things because I don’t want to wake my whole house up.

  12. Catherine Cullinane says:

    Thanks Kris,
    These tips are a great reminder of what I already know but
    it is such a good idea to remind one’s self of all of these 10 tips,
    Thanks again, Catherine

  13. Kandy says:

    When I go to bed and am unable to drift off I get very still and imagine my favorite place…the ocean with the waves crashing, smelling the ocean, a gentle breeze blowing and it doesn’t take long and I am asleep. I use this technique also when I have to have a PET scan…relaxes me very well!

  14. I couldn’t sleep the other night and I remembered a little trick my dad taught me. Heat up almond milk(or milk of choice) turmeric, cinnamon, and nutmeg and stir. Sip warm, it’s like instant snooze ville!

  15. The best shift I made to help me get a better night sleep was having my last meal 3 hours before bedtime. I would get to bed with an empty stomach, but not feeling hunger pangs. It allowed me to fall asleep and stay asleep (and have a deeper sleep). Thanks for the post and tips!

  16. G says:

    Production of natural melatonin, the body’s master antioxidant, is affected by light and dark cycles via the pineal “third eye” gland. Therefore, it’s extremely important for cancer patients and survivors to get 7-8 hours of sleep + darkness. Bathing with lavender and Epsom salts helps me unwind. I take organic valerian root and triphala every night, too. If I can’t sleep or need to go to the bathroom, I keep the lights off or low and the room darkened for uniterrupted melatonin production. I agree that it’s very important to not shock your “third eye” with light from electronics during the night because you need your light-sensitive melatonin to neutralize carcinogenic free radicals while you sleep. Also, Bill Maher got it right. Cannabis not only fights cancer in five ways, it supports the pineal gland’s mission to protect nerves, regulate hormones, regulate circadian signals, and reconnect the body, mind, and spirit.

    http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pineal_gland

  17. ms. sandra silva says:

    go to bed at a regular time each night and wake at a regular time in the morning.
    try to do this for 21 days and see if you still have a problem with sleeping.

  18. Linda says:

    I am 64 years old and have had insomnia for years. I live a very healthy lifestyle, but in desperation I’ve used sleeping pills at different times. I have done and continue to do all of the above to try to sleep. They do help to some degree. A few months ago I visited a homeopathic practitioner and she gave the treatments that have had me sleeping soundly. I love it!!! This is another option and maybe it could help for others. As it isn’t covered my medical insurance it is pricy, but so worth it!!

    • Cris says:

      Hi Linda,

      What were the treatments your homeopathic practioner prescribed, if you don’t mind sharing?

    • Maria Morelli says:

      The whole point here is to help others , if something you have discovered has helped you then
      You should share your experience pls.

  19. SueISeman says:

    Tart cherry juice has naturally occurring tryptophan & melatonin. Small cup during the day has helped me sleep through the night, despite menopause!

  20. Kiyomi says:

    i recently bought an app called “iSleep Easy”, and it’s helped me immensely over the last several days! i’m usually borderline insomniac, but i was put into a heavy sleep through these meditations. i highly recommend it!!

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