Kris: So back in my acting days, I had a teacher. Her name was Diane Ainsley, and she was absolutely wonderful. And she would make us to an exercise before class or before we started a scene where she would make us do something called “Calling Conditions.” Calling Conditions. And you would do this to get your instrument ready, to feel ready to tap into your emotions. And you would get up in front of the class and you would just say, tired, stressed, annoyed, hopeful, peaceful, happy, sexy, sassy, cranky… Whatever was coming to mind, but it was one word. It was just one word, and you were just getting your system warmed up and warm and maybe even getting some stuff out of your system so that your instrument as an actor was ready to go. Because that’s what you have, you have your emotions as an actor. You’re becoming people, you’re embodying other people’s emotions, so you need to be in touch with your own. And so the other day during the “How Are You Feeling?” section, I was like, I don’t feel like writing full on sentences, so I started to call conditions. I was having a tough day. So I’m going to read to you some of the things that I wrote: Tired, less resilient, scattered, sizzled, resentful, blaming, frustrated, bored, negative, annoyed. Over it. Alone. Unsafe. Uncertain. Untrusting. Skeptical. That’s how I was feeling that day.

But what’s interesting is once I got this out of my system, it was like my instrument was ready to go. And the next question was, “List Three Things You’re Grateful For.” Oh! It turned it around! And then intention, and then affirmation. All of a sudden, all those emotions, they’re in the rearview and I’m ready to go to get back into my success mindset. So I’m just sharing some things from my own life, in my own practice, in the hopes that it helps you.

So I’m going to sing for you right now. And I’m not a great singer, but here we go. “Getting to know you, getting to know all about you.” That is what this Success Mindset is all about, is getting to know yourself, getting to know all about you. Because you when you create that deeper relationship with yourself, you become more resilient. But this is something else that’s so, so important that we tap into right here. It helps you create deeper emotional fluency and honesty and transparency with yourself, right? So when you can be honest and clear with yourself about what’s going on, you are then better able to be honest and clear with other folks about what’s going on for you and what you need. And you’re going to say it in a way that’s healthier. You’re going to say it in a way that’s open hearted and vulnerable and real and truthful. And you’ll probably inspire somebody else to speak that way, too. Right? To really stand in their own truth, in their own power. When you are able to become more emotionally fluent with yourself first and foremost, and then with others. And when you are with others, you’ll likely sing in a way where it lands as opposed to it comes out in ways you didn’t necessarily mean, and you overreacted or you’re mean, or whatever these things happen. So I think that’s one of the other powerful byproducts of this simple Success Mindset practice.

You’re truthful with yourself and then able to speak your truth and ask for what you need with others in a way that lands.