Have you ever had one of those days when you just felt good about yourself? Maybe it was a big win at work or you were tingling with excitement over an upcoming vacation. Or, it could’ve been as simple as an outfit that made you wanna stare at your tushy in the mirror. There’s nothin’ quite like a good butt day to make you feel on top of the world, am I right?!
On days like that, it’s not a huge stretch to be gentle with ourselves—to speak kindly and practice patience. We might even remember to recognize our awesome selves with a rousing pep talk or some extra self-care. Our negative self-talk is a whole lot quieter (or even non-existent) on those days.
But I think I can speak for all of us when I say that most days aren’t that simple. It’s usually a big ol’ mix of highs and lows, wins and losses. Then sometimes we’re hit with a really tough day—or a whole bunch of them. After all, adversity happens and stress doesn’t keep a schedule.
On those days, it’s not so easy to be nice to ourselves. It’s different for everyone, but I know that when my anxiety and fear take over, negative self-talk kicks into high gear. When that starts to happen, I try taking some deep breaths and focusing on the positive. Sometimes that works, but sometimes that nasty little voice is really, really persistent.
Here’s the thing about negative self-talk: The more you let it blab, the more time you have to listen to it. And the more time you spend listening to it, the more likely you are to start believing those lies. Not only that, but it can also do serious harm to your health. Negativity breeds negativity, and that kind of stress on your system can lead to inflammation, depleted energy and other disease-promoting conditions.
So, a little while back I was having one of those days. The negative self-talk was especially loud and all I could hear was, “You’re not good enough.” Then, all of a sudden I heard another voice, and what she had to say totally changed the game. That’s when this surprisingly effective trick of mine was born.
Now I use this simple method all the time and I’m so excited to share it with you. Press play below to find out how you can tell negative-self talk to take a hike!
I hope this tip helps you silence the mental meanies when they’re trying to rain on your parade. Because remember: You are wonderful, smart and beautiful from the inside out. The people in your life are oh-so-lucky to have you (and I bet they’d agree with me!). You are uniquely you, and you deserve to be just as sure of that as I am.