Self-care is such a sweet concept. But it can be so difficult to practice consistently, can’t it?
True, life is busy and there are a lot of demands on your time. But what about those rare days when you have nothing on your schedule—but also no drive to take care of yourself?
Tell me I’m not alone in this, tootsie!
I can’t be the only one who’s finally had a free Saturday, only to hunker down on the couch, forgetting self-care exists. Whether your distraction of choice is a Netflix binge or a Facebook scroll, the core challenge is the same. Plenty of time. Zero motivation. Ever been there?
(My guess is that you may be finding yourself there a lot lately. For most of us, all of our weekend social commitments disappeared overnight. But we also have a lot of unexpected stress sapping our energy. You’re not alone in that, dear ones.)
You just can’t seem to make your actions align with your intentions.
Anytime I’ve noticed that happening, I treat it as a prompt to check in with myself. (Cue the sirens!) I look under the hood to try to find the Why hiding behind the What.
So why the motivation drain? What is the cause that trips us up from practicing consistent self-care and living the healthy, beautiful lives we desire? There can be a lot of contributing factors: Lack of time, lack of energy, plain ol’ procrastination.
But the underlying cause of them all is often a mental barrier. Somewhere deep down is a broken belief. You believe self-care has to be all-or-nothing. You don’t believe in your own ability to be consistent. Or you feel like it’s self-indulgent to hold space for self-care.
But you matter, beautiful. And that means self-care matters too much to let the wrong mindset hold you back. So let’s examine the underlying beliefs that may be draining your confidence today.
It’s Time to Boost Your Self-Care Confidence Level
If you were to get really honest about the soundtrack of self-love objections that sometimes cross your mind, what would they sound like?
“I’m too busy, too old, too fat, too weak, too tired; I’m not disciplined enough, healthy enough, pretty enough, or strong enough; I tried before and it didn’t work; I just don’t have what it takes to succeed with self-care…” Yuck. Just writing this list makes me want gin. If you’re struggling with any of that crap, I’m here to give you a little love blast and reminder of your greatness.
Here’s the deal: No matter what your life looks like today (and it looks imperfect for us all right now!) you’ve still got what it takes to thrive.
Real self-care isn’t about striving, pushing or fixing yourself. It’s not about having perfect health, a perfect body or a perfect daily routine. In fact, it’s less about self-improvement (I’m not enough) and more about self-love (I’m worthy and phenomenal, just as I am).
Sounds delicious, right? So how do you get a piece of that thinking?
The key is to consistently cultivate positive, flowing energy in your body and spirit. In short, it’s about shifting your thinking to boost your self-care confidence level. I want to offer you two powerful tools to help you do just that:
- First, I invite you to join me for my free 5 Day Self-Care Kickstart. Each day over our week together, you’ll complete a quick self-care challenge and fuel up with helpful tools and affirmations. It’s my foolproof recipe to skyrocket your self-care confidence level! =) It’s 100% free and you can sign up here.
- Second, I whipped up what I call The Thriver’s Manifesto filled with 15 positive affirmations for self-care. Think of it like a declaration of intentions for how you will cherish yourself moving forward. You can check it out below. Use it to replace all that negative thinking with self-love and rewire your brain to thrive. Enjoy, sweetheart!
The Thriver’s Manifesto: 15 Positive Affirmations for Self-Care
1. Regardless of my circumstances, I have the power to thrive—at any time on my journey!
2. When I’m thriving my energy is flowing—body, mind and spirit. I’ve got pep in my step, peace in my mind and joy in my heart. If I’m not thriving, it’s a sign to redirect my focus.
3. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to self-care or to thriving. My version is right for me and it changes as my needs change, therefore I refrain from comparing myself to others.
4. I choose thoughts and beliefs that support my health, personal goals and highest good.
5. I listen to my body and trust my intuition, because I know what’s best for me.
6. I feed my body clean food because I’m worth it. Improving my diet improves my life.
7. I understand that self-care is health care and I practice it daily.
8. I support my immune system by lessening my exposure to a toxic environment.
9. I practice progress, not perfection in my pursuit of vibrant health and happiness.
10. I ask for support when I need it and I make time for my friends. Community = longevity.
11. I love and accept myself just as I am today—not down the line when I create some mythical better version of myself. Self-love has no prerequisites.
12. I can’t please everyone, and that’s OK. People pleasing drains my energy. And when I’m too focused on living up to other people’s standards, I forget to raise and honor my own.
13. I practice gratitude on a regular basis because it puts me in a positive state, boosts my confidence level and reminds me of what’s already great in my life.
14. I understand that healing isn’t linear. It happens in seasons, zig and zags, steps forward and backwards. Therefore, I am patient, loving and supportive of my body and life.
15. I say yes to my life and make time for me, and for the people, animals and experiences that matter most. I give myself permission to live like I really mean it, starting today!
You Deserve Some Simple Self-Care
You matter, sweetheart. I know you’re busy taking care of everyone and everything else. But self-love never looks like self-neglect.
You deserve to take a few minutes today to love yourself.
I hope this collection of positive affirmations has helped you believe that you really can practice consistent self-care. And if you ever find yourself in need of a confidence boost, just pull out your Thriver’s Manifesto to remember what you’re aiming for—and how much strength you already have to make it happen.
I believe in you, sweetheart!
And I want to remind you of the special resource I have to help you skyrocket your self-care.