Hiya Gorgeous!
Does your life ever feel like a treadmill?
You’re running and running—trying to take care of your loved ones, pets, home, career, community (and maybe love on the planet a bit, too).
Plus, you have a never-ending list of self-improvements to apply: Lose weight. Get stronger. Workout. Meditate. Improve gut health. Whiten teeth. Smooth wrinkles. Drink water. Sharpen mind. Learn new skills. Be kinder. And on and on.
That treadmill can sure get tiring, can’t it, sweetheart?
Too often, self-care feels like just one more thing to keep you running. Another task on the to-do list. A response to the constant pressure to improve. But what if there were a better way?
Real self-care should feel nurturing, not nagging.
So if the idea of self-care feels like a burden, recognize that it’s probably because you’re putting pressure on yourself to do “all the things”. Instead, give yourself permission to simplify. Start by focusing on just a few healthy habits to help you love yourself the easy way. That’s what I want to explore with you today.
Now let’s explore a few healthy habits you can try.
6 Simple Self-Care Practices to Love Yourself with Today
1. Start your day with introspection
Here’s how I greet each morning: I wake up, light a candle and meditate for 10 minutes. Then I make tea, write in my Results Journal and maybe read something uplifting. That’s it. When times are stressful, it’s easy to turn on the news or pop open social media and feel the energy seep right out of your body. Instead, make a vow to start your day by filling your well. If you have to get up 15 minutes earlier, do it. That time of sweet self-care will be well worth it.
2. Nourish your body first
What you eat is who you become. By choosing to nourish your body first thing, you’re setting the tone for the rest of the day. Water, green juice and avocado toast (or a hearty smoothie!) will give you a boost of sustainable, nutrient-packed energy. If you love coffee, guess what? You don’t have to give it up. Instead, just try adding in a smoothie or some green juice first. Give your body a healthy burst of nutrients, alkalinity and antioxidants, then sip the joe.
I call that my add-before-you-subtract principle, by the way. So much nutritional guidance hinges on deprivation—on what you give up. But I believe true health is about abundance. It’s about piling on the good, deeply-nourishing stuff. Once you add enough goodness to your plate (or your life!), the mediocre is naturally crowded out.
3. Talk to your cravings
As your day unfolds, notice if you find yourself battling cravings. Maybe it’s cookies, chips, a mindless hour of Facebook scrolling, or a smoke. Those cravings aren’t always about the sugar, caffeine, or whatever it is you’re jonesin’ for. In fact, they rarely are. More often, they’re a plea from your higher self. Instead of mindlessly acquiescing to the urge, ask yourself what desire it really represents.
Do you need more sweetness in your life? A time out from stress? Some love? An apology? A chance to rest? What’s the craving attempting to fill for you? And what could you do to satisfy that itch (and your soul) instead? Remember, you’ll get better results if you add something to serve that deeper desire than if you try to subtract the craving itself.
4. Practice The Daily Ten
You feel better when you move your body. There’s no denying it. But it does feel challenging to fit in a daily workout, doesn’t it? So let’s start with something more attainable: Just move for 10 minutes. Even when you can’t do a full-blown gym workout, you do have 10 minutes to move. Let this be something easy and something that feels good to you. Take a stroll, stretch on your living room floor, or turn up the tunes and shake what your mama gave you!
5. Cultivate what nourishes your soul
Your plate doesn’t contain all the answers when it comes to nourishing your sweet self. We all need soul-nourishment, too. We need to make space for the activities that bring us joy and fulfillment. Without them, we wither.
These go beyond our daily routines, too. You may enjoy your job, but it won’t always satisfy you. I’m sure you love your family, but they can’t always be around (or pleasant!) to encourage you. So what’s one thing you could do that would bring you some smiles this week?
Maybe you should take a few minutes to draw or paint or dance. Perhaps you could call a friend, take a bath, or love on your pet (or foster a new one!). It can be anything that renews your spirit. So what is it for you? What nourishes your soul? What makes you feel more connected, happy, or of service? Whatever it is, do more of it this week.
6. Have compassion for yourself
Unfortunately, suffering is a natural part of life. We can’t avoid it—especially now with the collective challenges we’re all facing. The trick is to acknowledge your struggle and then bear-hug it with compassion. Compassion is the medicine. Once you apply compassion you’ll be able to take the lessons and move through the discomfort. Residual ouchies may remain, but they won’t harden you. We all have scars. They give us character. I have old wounds on my knees from bike crashes and canoe flips. And then there are the cancer scars. All of which are a part of me now, neither pretty or ugly, just there—inviting me to practice some self-compassion.
If you do nothing else to love yourself today, start by offering yourself a bit of kind compassion.
Breathe. Smile. I love you. You love you.
Progress Not Perfection
I’m done with the pressure-packed, “do all the things” definition of self-care. Aren’t you, toots? It’s just not worth staying on that treadmill.
Our new mantra for self-care is progress, not perfection. Often, when we start from an extreme place and seek extreme results, we set ourselves up for extreme disappointment.
Instead, let’s reimagine a new, gentle kind of self-care. One where a few healthy habits make our lives feel more steady. One where we feel nurtured—body, mind and spirit.
As you step forward in self-care this week, remember: Simplicity. Ease. Grace.
Let the turtle be your guide. Slow and steady, my glorious friend. From a spiritual perspective, there is no race, anyway. There’s only growing.
Your turn: What’s one simple thing you’ll do to nurture yourself today?
Growth & grace,
Thanks Kris again for your great sharing.
Today I received my “Crazy sexy kitchen” book and I´m so agog to start with the recipes.
Bliss
Madelaine
Sweden
Thank you for offering some alternatives to the traditional “resolutions” that pressure us to revamp our whole lives in one month. Now I see that has been the reason I always feel like a failure…because it’s totally unrealistic! Duh!
SImple small steps. Now I can handle that.
Namaste! 🙂
You make me…happy! I love reading your thoughts!! They are funny, inspirational, endearing, uplifting, truthful and full of love. Thank you for taking the time to share all your wonderful goodness with us, you help us heal and become stronger everyday!! Hugs!!
You are so inspiring and fantastic to follow! Namaste!
Hi Kris, Wow! That really hit the spot. I’m so inspired by what I just read. Thank you for continuing to share your journey with us in the form of these very moving blog posts. They are truly words to live by – and compassionate to-do’s. Santa bought me Crazy Sexy Diet and Crazy Sexy Kitchen for Christmas and I haven’t been able to put them down. Between your books, these posts, and your Tweets on a daily basis – it’s shaping up to be an excellent year. Thank you for ALL you are doing!
Namaste,
Kat
Kris, you are inspirational! Thank you for shaping minds of this world in a possitive, loving and healthy way! Love you back! 🙂
Kris,
You are a very bright light in my life. Your book I’ve gotten for several people because I know you are on the right path. My wife, Nancy, and I became vegan in March ’09 after reading “The Face on Your Plate”. Discovery of Truth especially about how we have all been taught (wrongly) how to live by our parents and the “authorities disinformation” is priceless. Keep up the great work. I love you.
Dave
Your are contagious. I feel better and I feel motivated to be better just reading your words. Thanks!
Kris Carr! You are such a cool chick. What you said about compassion really struck a chord with me. Thank you for that!
Really inspiring post! I will keep many of these tips in mind for the upcoming months, especially the morning kiss idea and the daily ten objective. Your writing and books are amazing!
You are my hero for just being you and doing what you do. Everytime I read one of your notes, I can feel the energy in it. I also thank you for giving me the advice I just needed to kick start this year on my right foot.
Are you planning to work on a spanish version of Crazy Sexy Kitchen? I hope you do! I would looove to share it with my mom and aunties, but non of them speak a word of english!
Fascinating info about the addictive properties of dairy. Thanks for sharing this information which was totally new to me!
A great post in its entirity Kris, thank you for sharing. No.6 is beautiful, for me it epitimises what makes you so satisfying and whole to read – your wholistic approach and loving realistic energy. Happy New YEar lovely lady! xxx
We can´t be grateful enough. Thank you, thank you! Your book Crazy Sexy Kitchen is awesome too ! We love You! <3 Greetings from Slovakia ! 😉
I love everything you write, you give me goose bumps every time!
Thank you for your beautiful words.
Juliana
I LOVED this. especially number one, and, it makes so much sense dairy is addicting!
Thank god this seems to be the current theme for this year’s resolutions!! All my sources of inspiration are telling me to slow down, and make subtle changes each day that make you feel good and bring you back to loving yourself, not shoulding all over yourself.
Loving that we’re finally letting ourselves be, rather than pushing to be someone ‘better’!
Thanks Kris, your posts make my week 🙂
Thank you for being you, Kris. LOVE.
Inspiring ideas! My favorite headline ‘I know you love sugar but you are sweet enough’. 🙂