Today I wanna chat with you about something that’s been on my mind. With the winter holidays in our sights and the end of the year fast approaching, this feels like the perfect time for a good old heart-to-heart. So, whaddya say—ready to open up and get a little deep? I think I see you nodding your head over there…
I want to talk about forgiveness—and where it really comes from.
There’s so much to say on this subject, and I’ve explored it on the blog before, but today I want to look at it from a different angle. I want talk about how to move on, whether or not we get the apology or resolution we’re looking for.
We often sit and wait for apologies. We tell ourselves we’ll move on when we get answers or as soon as things fall into place. But we don’t always hear “I’m sorry,” and those unresolved situations don’t always tie themselves up into neat little packages.
When we’re faced with that reality, many of us aren’t sure how to move on. So, we might hold on to those feelings and let them weigh us down. And that sort of thing can really block our joy and mess with our trust (in people and the universe!).
Getting burned or bruised sucks. There’s no doubt about it. And you’ve gotta give yourself a chance to process the anger, sadness, disappointment and whatever else you might be feeling. Or, as Rev. Iyanla Vanzant put it:
“You need to go ahead and give yourself permission to be angry. Stuffing it down creates a cocktail for disaster.”
Ain’t that the truth!
How to Move On, No Matter What
But, here’s what I want you to know: You don’t have to carry those crappy, unsettled feelings around with you. And you shouldn’t! You’ve got plenty of other things goin’ on in your world. Why not lighten your load?
You can learn how to move on and heal painful wounds—and you don’t need anyone or anything else to make it happen. Because guess what? Forgiveness starts and ends with wonderful y-o-u.
I know that the idea of moving on without an apology or resolution might have you raising an eyebrow. And I won’t sugarcoat it—this stuff takes some real work on the soul level. But I also know how strong you are, so I don’t doubt for a second that moving on—and the relief that comes with it—is possible.
That’s why I made this little video love note for ya. Because even though the next step is up to you, you’re not alone. I’ve got your back—think of me as your forgiveness cheerleader! And I bet that there are lots of other people in your life who would be happy to lend their support as you figure out how to move on. Sometimes all you have to do is ask.
Press play below to hear a personal story of forgiveness from my life. I also share how holding on to the past can affect you on the cellular level, so don’t miss it!