Do you get fired up to start a new exercise routine, meditation practice or eating plan only to sputter out within a day or two? Pretty common (and deflating). If only motivation was something you could bottle! Well, today I want to share how I sidestep this pattern and stay on my game, year after year.
We all want lasting change. We want to start something and victoriously push through the finish line. But motivation rarely comes from force. More often than not, it’s a mindset—a way of thinking that creates a way of being. Below are a few simple practices that have helped me tap into this mindset. Let’s break it down so you can continually meet your goals in a fulfilling way.
#1 Get Clear on Your “Why” (The Reason Behind Your Goal)
When I’ve stayed motivated for the long haul, it’s because I was clear on “why” I was doing what I was doing. The underlying reason is my fuel. A great example is veganism. I’m deeply committed to my “why” because it’s better for my health, the animals and the planet. My “why” is my north star. And thankfully, there are so many amazing vegan options out there and ways to deliciously veganize recipes so that there’s zero deprivation. Win win!
My “why” has to be 100% mine—not someone else’s or it doesn’t work. Which means, I can’t compare my life, dreams or goals to others. It’s about how I want to feel, not how I think I should feel or what someone else thinks I should do. Those “why’s” always exhaust me.
My “why” has to serve my highest good. Because if I’m falsely motivated by my ego, fears or wounds, the results are a disaster. I wake up wondering why the hell I did what I did. The answer: I wasn’t connected to myself.
Now when my actions are in alignment with my “why”—my values, feelings and what I want to create in the world—my motivation never sputters out. I can lean on it whenever I need more fuel—and so can you.
Your why is your power center. And the more you spend time contemplating what drives you, the easier it is to cut through the noise and create the life you want to live. Plus, when you reinforce your goals and why you’re doing them, you strengthen your chance of making them happen. It’s how I’ve created better health (in the face of crappy cancer), built my amazing business and created a life that I adore (most days!).
#2 Get Traction
Whenever we start something new, it takes a bit of time to create momentum. We’ve been stuck in an old way of behaving and need to develop new muscles.
For example, when I fall off the workout wagon there’s a good chance I won’t want to lift a finger. I’d rather complain about how tired and gross I feel then do something about it. But when I challenge my resistance and strap on my sneakers, I feel better. String that behavior together and now we’re talking. I begin to love how strong I feel and how much energy I have. Before ya know it, I’m in a better mood to boot. Nothing can make that experience happen but me.
Movement in our bodies creates movement in our lives. Just a little traction helps us change our emotional state and thus our physical fate. So instead of cursing the past or begrudging the future, get the ball rolling and be willing to show up a few more times. Before you know it, you’ll be in your groove and motivation will be second nature.