The Real Reason You Can’t Change People (video)

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Hiya Gorgeous!

Over the years I’ve been lucky enough to work with lots of wonderful people as they make positive change in their lives. Whether it’s through Crazy Sexy You, at one of my wellness workshops or events, or online through this very blog—I’ve had the chance to hear (and sometimes even be a part of!) lots of inspiring stories of transformation.

Here’s something interesting I’ve noticed: Once people start making those changes and reaping the rewards, they want to share the news with everyone. It’s like they’re suddenly privy to this exciting new way to feel and live better—one that really works—and they want everyone else to get a taste of it, too.

I think many of us can relate to that feeling. When we find something that makes us glow from the inside out, we want to shout it from the rooftops. Sometimes the people in our lives are receptive and even grateful for the help. But often, something else happens: They don’t want to hear a word about it.

I’ve definitely been there. For me, the story starts on the first Thanksgiving I attended after going vegan (fellow plant-based pals, this one might sound familiar). I just could not stop talking about my new plant-based lifestyle! And I was so darn jazzed all the way up there on my soapbox, I didn’t even notice that my (preachy) message was falling totally flat.

There I was, talking about how compassionate my choices were, all the while failing to extend that same compassion to my family.

No matter how loving and selfless our intentions may be, telling someone else how to live their life rarely goes over well, especially when they’re not asking for advice.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t share those wonderful healthy tips and experiences with the people you love. You’ve just gotta know the right way to do it! And lucky for you, that’s exactly what my new video is about.

Press play below to find out how you can share your passions with compassion.

The bottom line is this: People are not projects. I know it can be tempting to offer advice, but remember to lead with compassion and leave judgement at the door. Love will take you miles further than pressure ever will.


Your turn:  If there’s someone in your life who could benefit from this, how could these ideas help? Or if you’ve already had the chance to positively impact someone, how did you approach it?

Peace and compassion,

Kris Carr

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