Hiya Gorgeous!
Today I want to share some life-changing advice I was given. We all experience fear of taking a risk and self-doubt. You know, that naggy inner voice that whispers negative nonsense that makes us feel insecure about standing out or doing things differently?
Well, sometimes we can trace that voice back to what other people have said to us (or about us). And this is what I want to work on with you today—because nobody puts baby in a corner!
Ready for one of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received? Here goes…
What other people think about you is none of your business.
Ha! Yup, it’s their business, not yours.
The thing that matters most is what YOU think about you.
What you think about your dreams, about who you love, how you live, how you contribute to the world and so on. That’s what matters—your healthy opinion of you.
The more we rely on outside permission and validation, the less empowered we’ll feel to go our own way, share our unique gifts, or rise up to challenge injustice.
Sure, feedback can be a good and useful thing. I’m not suggesting we live in a self-indulgent bubble. I’m absolutely grateful for the times my best friend (and even my mother) have pulled me aside and encouraged me to look at things a different way. But not everyone has our best interests in mind–even when they think they do.
Therefore, discernment is really important.
We’ve gotta sift through the feedback in order to decide what’s valuable and what’s the other person’s baggage or boo boo.
Folks who like to flex their nasty or frightened muscles are often acting from a place of their own wounds. Have compassion for them but don’t let their drama dull your sparkle, dampen your dreams or plant seeds of doubt!
Again, if it’s the opinion of someone you truly trust and value, carefully look for the nugget of wisdom that could help you. But remember—their feelings aren’t your facts.
And no matter what, just keep doing your best and spreading your magic.
I’ve got a lot more to share on this topic, so press play to get my take on how to stay in your power, so you don’t let other people’s opinions tear you down.
In this video you’ll learn:
- How self-doubt plagues us all
- More nuggets from the best advice I’ve ever gotten
- Tips for staying focused—not afraid
- How to deal with haters and rise above negativity
Feelin’ inspired? I sure hope so! You are meant for great things, sweetheart. Believe in yourself. This is your one great life and you get to decide how you want to live it.
Your turn: How would your life improve if you weren’t so worried about what other people thought? Or if you have advice for how to handle criticism, please let us know! Leave a comment below.
Peace and kindness,
Always great to hear you Kris. May thaks I do have trouble trustig my own voice or even hearig it at times! Many thanks Julia
Sending you lots of love Julia! xo, kc
Love your inspiration and encouragement on just being you and not letting anyone dull your sparkle! You definitely have lots of spark and I am reclaiming my spark and passion for life and focusing on my dreams and not what others think!
Go for it Dani! xo, kc
Love this and love you Kris! You always make me laugh; great way to start the day!! I good friend of mine said that very statement to me a few years ago when someone said something that really bothered me. It was like a light bulb went off in my head and allowed me to see things in a different light – literally; I was able to let it go! We are so blessed you allow your true self to shine upon us! xxoo
Thank you Donna xo, kc
Very helpful and inspiring thank so much to remind me that feelings are not fact, thats one of the most important truth we all need
Thank you! I needed to be remainders of this. However, I am over sensitive and do get easily hurt but what people say or how they say it. It’s a journey for me. I hope to transcend hurt and be as grounded as you are one day!
You’re on your way Iva. Sending you lots of love xo, kc
Amen. I agree, always look at the ultimate intention of the criticism. Then say a prayer for them and for your dreams.
Love you Kris! ❤️??????
And I love you, Pam! 🙂
Brilliant! Thanks Kris
I have learned that critical people are truly only speaking about themselves. I have become aware that what they are pointing their fingers at or are accusing others of is either their actions or their fears. My best way of dealing with them and to stop and recognize where they stop and I begin, boundaries are necessary. To identify when in my life I too was so unhappy I blamed others for everything I didn’t like about myself. I hear their judgement and feel for them as they are only acting out on self hatred as I once did. Knowing happiness is an inside job I recognize that I am powerless to change their feelings and negative thoughts. The freedom this provides is immeasurable and with it I leave them with their own “stuff” and don’t carry it with me. If I compare myself to them instead of trying to identifying where their angst/fear/yuck is coming from I join their pity party. Comparing translates to defending myself even if just in my head. What I feed grows so with the identification I recognize how far I’ve comes since the days I acted as they are and I praise my progress and use that motivation to move on.
Incredible, Danielle. Thank you.
Good morning Beautiful Soul!
You make my day, thank you!
God Bless 🙂
Hi, I’ve learned not to ask what people think but instead I ask what people like and wha they’d like to see or learn more of. This is my way of keeping the negative words away and focusing on all the good we can accomplish together.
Thank you for sharing your message!!!
Great advice, Soula. Thanks for sharing it with us.
Hello Kris, thank you so much. It was something I needed to hear right now, having a hard time myself at the moment.
Kathrin
Thank you, Kris, you rock! Your beauty and light lifted me up this morning. I had lived most of my life so concerned and worried about what others thought about me. Giving al of my power away to the validation of others. Believing that my inherent worth and value was in everyone else’s eyes.
With a lot of hard work in my 12 step programs, prayer, meditation, EFT, and support, I have come to a place where I am more internally referenced and ready to let my spirit be free! Free to be of the highest service to myself and the world. Thank you, again. Xo
Right on, Kelcy! I can see all the hard work you’ve put into your healing––it’s really paying off!
Thanks for always putting the positive out there for us to catch. It’s so fun how they show up when you seem to need them.
Kris, that’s the BEST advice! I have learned that the reason I was listening to these naysayers was because I had my own sh** to deal with–I was keeping my own self down. Knowing yourself is your best defense!
Hi ya Gorgeous Goddess! The Universes never ceases to amaze that a message I need to hear, that I didn’t even know I needed to hear, comes through at the moment I need it and only from the Angel that can deliver that precise message in a way that I can hear (that would be you in this case, smiley face). Today is not so much a day about worrying what others think of me however it was a morning when my dream career seemed so unattainable until I saw this video! When I see you smile and you share your experience, strength and hope, I am reminded that no matter my “conditions” or “circumstances” I will and can achieve anything I desire in my life. Thank you for being the Light that you are and sharing that said Light with the rest of the world… rock on sister!!!!
What a powerful light bulb moment! I’m happy I could play a part in turning it on, Karen. xo!
Great advice! I’ve been following you for years. I’m wondering if I can somehow get access to the SARP videos again. They changed my life. I still hold my hands out frequently and say “miraculous person please find me.” You are one of them. Thanks!
Beautiful advice! I made a life changing move and during it, I chose kindness and compassion as my guide to dealing with the ones who it would affect most – myself included.
Kris, you are a beautiful lady. I am going out today with a smile on my face. Thank you. Marion
Smiling back at you, Marion. 🙂
Thank you for this! I needed this today, this week, this month!
Well said! If I would care what other people think, I would not start my wellness website and I would listen to my parents, both conventional doctors, struggling with autoimmune disease, that the road to health leads only via conventional medicine.
Good for you for being so courageous, Hana!