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It’s so incredibly easy to fixate on our flaws and imperfections. We have thousands of thoughts every single day, it’s no wonder many are self-judgements. But these negative thoughts can be mentally and physically draining, and they truly limit our potential. So, what if you made a conscious effort to focus on everything that’s right with you instead, because my friend, there is so so much.
Today, I encourage you to celebrate all of the magic already inside you. I share my strategies and tips for guiding your negativity bias, self-criticism, and limiting beliefs to be more kind, productive, and mindful of your well-being.
WE DISCUSS:
- (2:28) The insidious (and often hidden ways) that self judgment impacts your physical health
- (5:53) The benefits of focusing on what’s right with you (and there’s so much!)
(9:22) A powerful personal story of how I overcame punishing criticism and self-doubt to book a career-defining opportunity - (21:18) What success looks like and how to define it for yourself
- (23:12) Practical advice for transforming limiting beliefs to be productive and kind
- (28:42) Strategies for raising your standards for how you treat yourself
Key Quotes From the Show
“If you always put limits on what you can do physically or anything else, it’ll spread over into the rest of your life.”
“Joy isn’t just a feel good emotion – it’s essential to our health.”
“By making a conscious effort to focus on what is working, the things that are going well, the progress we have made, the strengths and abilities we do have – we’re consciously choosing to direct our attention to an upward spiral of loving thoughts, emotions, and outcomes.”
“You have a one of a kind magic inside of you.”
“Notice your harsh self talk and choose a kinder thought.”
“What does love see? Love doesn’t think you’re worthless. Love doesn’t think you’re incapable. Love doesn’t think you’re lazy. Love doesn’t think you’re unintelligent or weak. Love doesn’t think you’re too big or too small. Love sees you for who you truly are – a valuable, lovable, beautiful person.”
The Profound Perks of Positivity
Piles of scientific research highlight the seriously transformative benefits of a positive mindset:
- Less stress, anxiety, and depression
- More motivation and productivity
- Stronger relationships with others
- Enhanced brain power for problem-solving and creativity
- A boosted immune system
- Greater resilience to bounce back from setbacks
Honoring All the Feels
But this isn’t about toxic positivity or bypassing the tough stuff. True self-acceptance means making space for all the feels — even the messy, uncomfortable ones. We dive into how to mindfully process heavy emotions like sadness, anger, and grief with self-compassion instead of judgment. Because reconnecting with your infinite self-worth amidst the ups and downs? That’s where the real magic happens.
Your Thoughts Shape Your Reality
Our core beliefs, self-talk, and inner narratives impact way more than just our mind. Research shows every single cell is tuning into and getting shaped by our thoughts. So we’re sharing real-world tools to upgrade your inner software, like:
- Understanding flawed thinking patterns
- Reframing unhelpful habits like rumination and self-criticism
- Fostering self-appreciation for your unique talents, strengths and amazingness
- Cultivating a kind, loving inner voice that reminds you of your worthiness
The Power of Focusing on Your Light
There is a personal story I go back to whenever I feel lost or uncertain about what to do next, especially in my career.
Back as a struggling actor, my managers constantly reminded me of my supposed shortcomings — not being pretty, talented or destined for success enough. I had absorbed their limiting beliefs about my potential. However, one pivotal experience showed me the power of focusing on my strengths over perceived flaws.
Against all expectations, I booked the lead role in a new Arthur Miller play. When I met Arthur during the audition, I unexplainably burst into a weird giggle-fit. As it turned out, this unplanned outburst helped me land the role! I didn’t realize it at the time, but exuberant laughter was a key part of my character’s introductory scene, capturing the spirit of Marilyn Monroe’s ghost.
This experience made me realize my managers’ baseless opinions were holding me back. By focusing on my so-called “flaws,” their low expectations became self-fulfilling. From that point on, I committed to embracing my strengths and quirks, which began to unlock even more opportunities.
Living in Radical Self-Acceptance
We revisit the 5 Pillars of Wellness from Episode 1 and go deep on optimizing your thought life (Pillar 3), with powerful affirmations to rewire limiting beliefs, visualization practices to create self-love on a cellular level, mind-body techniques for realigning with your worthiness, and insights for staying empowered through any challenges or failures.
At your core, you are an ever-evolving, awe-inspiring miracle — a complex system that’s literally keeping life happening. By intentionally redirecting your focus to the profound aspects of your whole being, you open up to a life of authenticity, vibrancy and fulfillment defined 100% by YOU. Your unique light, strengths, growth and gorgeous imperfections are all celebrated and worthy of being tenderly nurtured.
Enjoy the episode!
With all my love,
Resources
- Join my wellness community
- Download your FREE Wake Up Rested Toolkit
- Download your FREE Wellness Tracker
- Download your FREE Hot Mess Recovery Kit
- Read the self-care affirmations in my Thriver’s Manifesto
