Kris Carr

Kris Carr

Wellness

How to Have a Healthy and Loving Relationship with Food

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Hi Friend,

Every time I see a cardinal, I know my grandmother is with me.

This regal, red bird was Grandma’s favorite. It reminds me of her fiery Colombian spirit and the blue flames that blazed in her restaurant’s kitchen. Grandma infused her food with love, captivating stories and copious amounts of butter. And everyone who slipped into a booth at The Village Gourmet in Pawling, NY felt that love from their taste buds to their toes.

I swear my grandmother’s been sending me flocks of cardinals in her absence. I think she knew I’d be needing these precious symbols of her love. Two weeks before she died, I received my own walloping wake up call. Incurable cancer. I needed a lifeline. I needed my Grandma. So I went into the kitchen—and I’ve never left.

Although Grandma’s passion had led me to the power of food, not all of her recipes were healthy. I kept her gusto and the love that she put into her cuisine, but ditched the ingredients that bought her a one-way ticket to arthritis, diverticulitis and a host of other inflammatory conditions.

I also ditched my own addictions and compulsions around food.

Aura

At one of my lowest points, sugar had a painful grip on me.

I’d buy/binge and then beat myself up over my behavior. Sometimes the only way out of my drug trance was to mutilate my stash before burying it in the trash. This step was very important. If I didn’t jam cigarette stubs into the pints of Ben & Jerry’s or spray them with cleaning products, there was a 50/50 chance I’d rummage through the rubbish to rescue my heroine.

One thousand donuts could not fill the suffering growing inside me. Which makes a lot of sense, because, since when are donuts miracle workers? Miracles require an overall, tectonic shift toward love and life’s sweetness, which couldn’t be further from processed sugar’s deceptive and fleeting high.

My kitchen was (and still is) a peaceful haven — fully stocked with nutrient-dense, plant-empowered, whole foods. It’s my direct connection to spirit, and of course, my juicer! Slowly, as my time in the kitchen deepened, I started to feel better.

 

While I may never be in remission from cancer, I am currently in remission from an unhealthy relationship to food.

For more than 15 years now, I’ve been teaching others (like glorious you) how to thrive by filling their bodies with energizing vitamins, nutrients, minerals, antioxidants and phytonutrients. Not a day goes by when someone doesn’t write me to say, “Thanks, I feel better too now.” Those letters from my readers are my digital cardinals.

The fact is, we need help and we need each other. We’re a nation riddled with preventable, lifestyle-driven diseases. We consume far too many animal products, processed and refined foods, saturated fats and empty calories. Industries that profit from both our ignorance and our misfortune spoon feed us confusion and deception. We’re taught to solely blame our luck-of-the-draw genes for our health issues, rather than our daily habits, dietary choices and interplay with the environment that surrounds us. The real truth lies somewhere in the middle and the good news is that we are more capable of turning around our global health crisis than we think.

Change your plate. Change your fate.

If you learn anything from my story, let it be this: Don’t wait. But I get it, change is a pesky notion. For many folks, the biggest challenge in changing their eating habits isn’t money, time or education, it’s reframing their connection between food and love. Love is healing. Love is comforting. Love is holy. Food can be all those things too. But as I mentioned, food can also be harmful. The goal isn’t to be restrictive or tight about what passes through the altar (your mouth) and into the temple (your body), it’s to create sustainable and consistent energy for every deserving cell in your body. That, my friends, is true love.

I dedicated my book, Crazy Sexy Kitchen: 150 Plant-Empowered Recipes to Ignite a Revolution, to Grandma. It’s my way of saying thank you for introducing me to the kitchen—the place that has become my pharmacy and transformed my life. I’m just sorry that I didn’t have the chance to share my decade-long health odyssey with her. I know that the knowledge in Crazy Sexy Kitchen would have improved her quality of life. I also know she would have gotten a real kick out of my friend Chef Chad Sarno, who helped me create the glorious recipes. If Grandma could sit at my dinner table today, perhaps she would have realized that you don’t have to compromise pleasurable cuisine for nourishment and good health—they actually go hand in hand.

Let’s do something together.

First, I want to ask you a few questions. How does the food you’re eating make you feel? Energized and happy or sluggish and guilty? Are you treating your body like a temple or a trash can? Sit with these questions for a few moments and then ask yourself this:

What’s one thing you could do to honor and love yourself at your next meal? Let me know in the comments below! No need to get overwhelmed by the idea of renovating your entire diet. Let’s just take a small step together and see how that feels.

Play in the kitchen. Light candles. Experience each bite. Take in the colors and smells. There are countless nourishing recipes right here at KrisCarr.com, or pick up your own copy of Crazy Sexy Kitchen.

Peace & cardinals,

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  1. Mette Themsen says:

    your grandmother is so beautiful, and so are you and your message to the world.
    Thank you, Mette, Denmark

  2. Anne Metro says:

    Hi, love your book Crazy sexy diet I am on day 13 and I am starting to feel great,I was only going to try it for the 21 days ,but I plan to eat this way forever. Thank you for this book and thanks for being you ,love your videos, you make me laugh take care. This is the kick start I needed .Thanxs again

  3. Kristin says:

    I stumbled upon you after reading some of Gabby Bernstein’s work, and picked up your CSD book. I am about to embark upon your 21 day challenge and I’m nervous/excited. There are many foods I have never had and or heard of! Your work truly inspires me and I look forward to becoming a part of your Community!

    Warmly,

    Kristin
    Calgary, AB, Canada

  4. Laurie says:

    Cardinals make me think of my Colombian papa who is also gone from this realm. Love all your stories. Nice website!

  5. Tammy says:

    My Aunt Marie was the one who introduced me to cooking and a love of homegrown veggies. When she passed away, nearly ten years ago, it broke my heart. She loved hummingbirds and that is the symbol I use for her. There is nothing more beautiful than a hummingbird enjoying the flowers in our backyard.

  6. Susan says:

    I have been trying to introduce healthier eating habits into my life and struggling with it. One person I know is advocating “Meatless Monday” and another brought a delicious vegan spread to an event I attended, so the subject has been on my mind. Some days I do better than others. I know all about addiction and binges! But even on days when I haven’t done so well I make sure I eat a healthy vegetable salad or a green juice so I know I’ve put something healthy in my system.
    Re/ the cardinals: my mother used to tell me that she saw certain birds at the funerals of her relatives. She even wrote a poem about it. When my father died we saw a hawk. When she died I wondered if she would send me a bird sign. At the burial, my husband was reading aloud one of my mother’s poems; when he recited a line about a crow’s call, we heard, as if on cue – a crow call! Everyone present gasped with amazement. We didn’t actually see the crow, but since I’m a singer, I’m not surprised that my mother would send me an audio sign.

  7. abhaya says:

    Once again you seem to be in the right place at the right time.

    After my diagnosis and a year of being a conscious eater the bad habits have started to resurface.

    Your new site and fresh attitude are just what I need right now to rekindle the spark..

    Thank you thank you!

  8. Tanya Willis says:

    Oh Kris, how similar your sugar addiciton is to me- I candidly wrote about mine in a blog- it took me along time to be able to tell my story because of the shame that I carried with it. “Cookie Dough in the Dark” was a step in freeing myself!

  9. I like to call the way I eat health conscious. I seek out the best quality whole foods, mainly from my local farmers market, some I grow during the summer months here. I eat a high plant based diet filled with medicinal herbs and mushrooms. My day always begins with a fresh quart of green juice, many times I’ll have 3 quart in one day. I love this way of eating, my body and health is in the best shape, I am truly happy and motivated in my life.
    Cheers to green juice.

  10. Tracey Davies says:

    Kris, you are one of the most evolved people I have come across! You are so beautifully authentic and honest and doggedly persistent in keeping healthy and vibrant each day. I have read your entire site and every blog post and video. You make me laugh and smile! I love the magic chicken! What a beautiful post about your grandma. She must have been, and still is in my opinion, such a beautiful soul. My beautiful grandma passed away when my daughter was 1 month old and my mom, my best friend and soul partner passed away recently, the day before I realized I was pregnant again. Your site and green living has helped me to heal and grow. My mom sends me Canada geese! The cardinals that your grandma sends you must be so beAutiful. I adore your new site, I love your work and the person you are. As I write, I’m preparing to give my 11 month old a green smoothie. He loves them. Big hugs to you and much, much love.

  11. Kris,
    I love the questions that you pose. What a great way to easily break things down, “are you treating your body like a temple or a trash can?”
    My Grandmother’s favorite bird is the cardinal. I am blessed that both of my Grandparents are still living, but they live very far away from me. I have a male and female cardinal that come and visit me often in my backyard. They are always together (just like my Grandparents), they come and say “hi” and hang out until I say “Hi Grandma & Grandpa” and then they go about their business. They always make me happy and remind me what’s important…just like your post did 🙂
    Thank you! Have a great day, Heather

  12. Amber says:

    I came across your book, “Crazy, Sexy, Diet”, a little over a year ago. When I read it, a lot of the information blew my mind in regards to how I was actually feeling and what harm I was doing to my body by not eating the right things. A little over a year later, I can’t say I feel any better about myself since I can’t get off the sugar and dairy product band wagon. Being a French Canadian (cheese!) AND a type 1 diabetic, I should know how to fuel my body so that I can control my diabetes and feel good about myself each and every day. Even when I ask myself, “How do I feel now that I’ve eaten all that, etc.”, it is mostly a negative answer. I have since started to read your book again and find new motivation to push towards the right/positive direction. As you mentioned, don’t wait. Any little thing I can do now can be a healthy “deposit” for my body and my temple.

  13. “We’re a nation riddled with preventable, lifestyle-driven diseases. We consume far too many animal products, processed and refined foods, saturated fats and empty calories. Industries that profit from both our ignorance and our misfortune spoon feed us confusion and deception. We’re taught to solely blame our luck-of-the-draw genes for our health issues, rather than our daily habits, dietary choices and interplay with the environment that surrounds us. The real truth lies somewhere in the middle and the good news is that we are more capable of turning around our global health crisis than we think.”

    This couldn’t be truer. I am ashamed of what we’ve become. Thank you for making me realize it’s not too late to turn it all around!

  14. Regan Perry says:

    love to you all – but no more messages, pls

  15. Darris says:

    Love the bright, cheerful look of your website . . . Your grandma was gorgeous . . .

    Yep, I’ve sprayed gnarly stuff on food in the trash, flushed it down the toilet, dumped junk food into the big, ‘green’ (nasty) bin, and I’ve even dumped it into a store dumpster.

    I’ve had to show a great amount of restraint for several years because my darling husband brings home monstrous bags of See’s candy, bags of barbeque chips and sweetened popcorn, pints of Hagen Daas ice cream and loaves of crusty french bread and sickly sweet cookies. It’s a challenge to stay away. He’s got it stashed everywhere. Even knowing that I’m susceptible to another recurrence of malignant melanoma by eating sugar I sometimes fail to restrain myself. Sugar is addictive and damn it, it tastes good! I’m using the technique of visualization to shore up my lack of will-power. I visualize the candy squirming with maggots and, well, I’d better stop there . . .

  16. Diane Briseño says:

    One word: Awesome!

  17. Shireen L says:

    Love all your efforts Kris and it just shows in your smile.

    A book that really helped me to heal my food addictions was “A Course in Weight Loss” by Marianne Williamson.

  18. Matt says:

    Kris,
    What a beautiful story. It’s so difficult to talk to people, or be talked to, about changing something as intimate to us and our daily experiences as the food we eat. You’ve done such an amazing job of getting the important points across while bringing real authenticity and compassion to the table. This is the stuff that really changes behaviors.

    Thank you.

  19. Jules Pelaez says:

    My grandma loved cardinals (she lived in St. Louis and was a big baseball fan!) and whenever we see one we know she is with us. Love your new site! Great photography! Can’t wait to get the book! Thanks for sharing your radiance with us!

  20. Abby says:

    Love your article! I am an artist and most of my work centers around the mythology and symbolism of birds. I have been dealing with chronic illness for many years, and I am very very cognizant about what I put in and on my body. I don’t eat sugar at all- I really don’t miss it. Looking forward to checking out your book 🙂

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