Kris Carr

Kris Carr

Wellness

How to Have a Healthy and Loving Relationship with Food

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Hi Friend,

Every time I see a cardinal, I know my grandmother is with me.

This regal, red bird was Grandma’s favorite. It reminds me of her fiery Colombian spirit and the blue flames that blazed in her restaurant’s kitchen. Grandma infused her food with love, captivating stories and copious amounts of butter. And everyone who slipped into a booth at The Village Gourmet in Pawling, NY felt that love from their taste buds to their toes.

I swear my grandmother’s been sending me flocks of cardinals in her absence. I think she knew I’d be needing these precious symbols of her love. Two weeks before she died, I received my own walloping wake up call. Incurable cancer. I needed a lifeline. I needed my Grandma. So I went into the kitchen—and I’ve never left.

Although Grandma’s passion had led me to the power of food, not all of her recipes were healthy. I kept her gusto and the love that she put into her cuisine, but ditched the ingredients that bought her a one-way ticket to arthritis, diverticulitis and a host of other inflammatory conditions.

I also ditched my own addictions and compulsions around food.

Aura

At one of my lowest points, sugar had a painful grip on me.

I’d buy/binge and then beat myself up over my behavior. Sometimes the only way out of my drug trance was to mutilate my stash before burying it in the trash. This step was very important. If I didn’t jam cigarette stubs into the pints of Ben & Jerry’s or spray them with cleaning products, there was a 50/50 chance I’d rummage through the rubbish to rescue my heroine.

One thousand donuts could not fill the suffering growing inside me. Which makes a lot of sense, because, since when are donuts miracle workers? Miracles require an overall, tectonic shift toward love and life’s sweetness, which couldn’t be further from processed sugar’s deceptive and fleeting high.

My kitchen was (and still is) a peaceful haven — fully stocked with nutrient-dense, plant-empowered, whole foods. It’s my direct connection to spirit, and of course, my juicer! Slowly, as my time in the kitchen deepened, I started to feel better.

 

While I may never be in remission from cancer, I am currently in remission from an unhealthy relationship to food.

For more than 15 years now, I’ve been teaching others (like glorious you) how to thrive by filling their bodies with energizing vitamins, nutrients, minerals, antioxidants and phytonutrients. Not a day goes by when someone doesn’t write me to say, “Thanks, I feel better too now.” Those letters from my readers are my digital cardinals.

The fact is, we need help and we need each other. We’re a nation riddled with preventable, lifestyle-driven diseases. We consume far too many animal products, processed and refined foods, saturated fats and empty calories. Industries that profit from both our ignorance and our misfortune spoon feed us confusion and deception. We’re taught to solely blame our luck-of-the-draw genes for our health issues, rather than our daily habits, dietary choices and interplay with the environment that surrounds us. The real truth lies somewhere in the middle and the good news is that we are more capable of turning around our global health crisis than we think.

Change your plate. Change your fate.

If you learn anything from my story, let it be this: Don’t wait. But I get it, change is a pesky notion. For many folks, the biggest challenge in changing their eating habits isn’t money, time or education, it’s reframing their connection between food and love. Love is healing. Love is comforting. Love is holy. Food can be all those things too. But as I mentioned, food can also be harmful. The goal isn’t to be restrictive or tight about what passes through the altar (your mouth) and into the temple (your body), it’s to create sustainable and consistent energy for every deserving cell in your body. That, my friends, is true love.

I dedicated my book, Crazy Sexy Kitchen: 150 Plant-Empowered Recipes to Ignite a Revolution, to Grandma. It’s my way of saying thank you for introducing me to the kitchen—the place that has become my pharmacy and transformed my life. I’m just sorry that I didn’t have the chance to share my decade-long health odyssey with her. I know that the knowledge in Crazy Sexy Kitchen would have improved her quality of life. I also know she would have gotten a real kick out of my friend Chef Chad Sarno, who helped me create the glorious recipes. If Grandma could sit at my dinner table today, perhaps she would have realized that you don’t have to compromise pleasurable cuisine for nourishment and good health—they actually go hand in hand.

Let’s do something together.

First, I want to ask you a few questions. How does the food you’re eating make you feel? Energized and happy or sluggish and guilty? Are you treating your body like a temple or a trash can? Sit with these questions for a few moments and then ask yourself this:

What’s one thing you could do to honor and love yourself at your next meal? Let me know in the comments below! No need to get overwhelmed by the idea of renovating your entire diet. Let’s just take a small step together and see how that feels.

Play in the kitchen. Light candles. Experience each bite. Take in the colors and smells. There are countless nourishing recipes right here at KrisCarr.com, or pick up your own copy of Crazy Sexy Kitchen.

Peace & cardinals,

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  1. Christine says:

    Loved this! and yay to bella abuela.

    I feel so good when I drink lots of water+a lil squirt of lemon, a yummy smoothie of fruit+veggies, or green juice and food that I cook or healthy love filled simple cooking. Lots of veggies, grains, and a nice desert with no sugar and mostly fruit+dark chocolate. That’s when I feel best 🙂

  2. Sarah Roseberry says:

    Amazing post! I am currently kicking/overcoming the addictive hold that dairy has had over me for some time. Sounds like serious phrasing for an iced chai latte, but it’s amazing the things that have control over us, not the other way around. When you know something is not good for your body or your wallet, it’s time to reassess. Thanks for being here to offer a vision of what’s on the other side, Kris.

    • Dina says:

      I can relate to what you’re saying. I went cold turkey, or rather, cold turkey-less, when I switched to a vegan diet. I could not imagine life without cheese, but decided I had to give this crazy sexy diet my all. I truly felt so much more alive eating a plant based diet. Pure, clean energy…..there’s nothing like it! Feeling better and watching documentaries on the meat and dairy industry helped me stick to vegan (even with lots of wonderful cheeses sitting in my refrigerator). Dairy no longer has the powerful hold it once had in my life.

  3. Alicyn says:

    Amazing post. There are a lot of people who struggle with an unhealthy relationship with food. Can’t wait for you cookbook!

  4. Malia says:

    Hello Kris,

    Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom, energy and recipes! I struggle with food/mood and am curious about juicing and/or making smoothies. My biggest struggle is finding foods that sustain me. I have done smoothies in the morning, with plant protein powder, only to feel light headed/low mood about an hour later. I am curious if you are in the habit of snacking between juices to feel satiated and sustained throughout the day. Does your new recipe book dive into healthy snacks?

  5. Regan Perry says:

    Every tme I read what you are up to, my brain comes out to play with new ideas – like remembering how to make mung bean or lentil sprouts. Thanks for being the muse leading the dance to dissipate lifelong eating disorders. I am fifty. I am a two year breast cancer survivor. Your grace, humor and kindness have led me back to loving my body – finding faith I can find my new answers – make better decisions, love myself through the mistakes. At my six month check up – not only had I lower tumor markers, but the glucose and cholesterol have come down , too. This was a shift fueled by exercise and WAY LESS animal fat and sweets, and a whole lot more self love. Rock on, sister friend. You are leading us back to our inner wisdom. I met you through a breast cancer center that has now closed – sadly. that is an other frontier.

  6. cyndi says:

    Hi Kris, I see cardinals all the time (love them too) they are our state bird. You have been an inspiration in changing my lifestyle..thanks

  7. Danielle says:

    I love this story of you Grandma. You have her eyes 🙂 My Grandma passed away this April and I miss her so much. We were kindred spirits. I love your blog – thanks for inspiring so many to live a better, healthier life.

  8. Marie says:

    Hi Kris,
    I am so grateful for your books and web site! Having been dealing with a new cancer diagnosis myself, I am so happy to have found you. I travel often for business and have to eat out often even while in town. I do not have the choice in which restaurants to eat at when it come to business meetings. I am having a very hard time because I am concerned about what is in the food that is offered in restaurants. I would appreciate any suggestions you have?
    Thanks!

  9. Heather Hale says:

    This is exactly the kind of message I needed to hear today! Thank you Kris…I will fill my plate with love today and forgive myself for starting with sugar. Deep healing breath! With love, blueberries and gratitude, Heather

  10. Angelina says:

    Thank-you for your sharing about your Grandma.
    Today, I am starting Round 2 of your cleanse and needed the inspiration.

  11. Your grandmother is lovely! She looks like someone I would want to gather around my table to energize my dinner party!

    Thank you again for infusing your readers with hope that health is a few spoonfuls (or sips) of green goodness away! Sounds so simple in your elequount words…

    Scrappling daily not to use food to fix my woes,

    Suzanne Sersun

  12. Dana says:

    thank you for that message…

    I did the 21-Day Crazy Sexy Cleanse and felt phenominal. Then, the parties started. Wine. Cheese. Desserts. I succumbed and now I’m having digestive problems again. I feel lost and overwhelmed. Today, one step for me will be breaking out my juicer and the greens.

    Thanks Kris! XOXOXOXOXO

  13. “Change your plate. Change you fate” <- these words can/will change lives. Thank you Kris for all your work and dedication to wellness. Light + Love.

    Namaste.

    Alicia Mathlin
    Toronto, Ontario

  14. I hope that in the future I can share my love of cooking much the way my Grandmothers shared it with me, but sharing it in the way I’ve known to grow and love my relationship with food. It’s a long journey to make peace with your plate, but it starts with one day at a time – truly you’ve shown that with your own journey, too.

    Love the ‘digital cardinals’, too! Such a sweet sentiment.

  15. Danielle says:

    Hi Kris Carr!

    New to your website as of yesterday- and I love it!!! I’ve just started eating vegetarian, using my blender more and stashing up on vegan recipes for the future. My biggest obstacle is that I am in university- and tend to camp out there Mon-Fri all day. I would like to use Sundays to cook/bake/prepare mass amounts of healthy food for the week so I can bring lunches that are healthy and in line with my diet. Do you have any suggestions on food that is can be brought to school and still taste good as leftovers? Thank you so much and I look forward to getting to know you better through your wonderful work.

  16. Kait says:

    Oh this one hit the soul this morning. The things passing my mouth lately…well they fall more into trash than treasure (albeit vegan trash but still…trash). I keep yo-yoing with the CSD…once I allow one or two things past my lips, it begins a chain. Thanks for the LOVING reminder that each time I eat, I have the choice…the power. xoxo

  17. Samara says:

    It’s hard to avoid Starbuck’s when you work there. I’m on day 3 of your 21 day cleanse…and the hardest part is saying NO to shoving my mug under the spout and letting coffee pour into it. Especially when it’s unlimited…and free. Thank goodness we have herbal teas…and I’m sticking to those while I’m on shift. I don’t even look at the pastry case…I used to press my nose against it…MMM Pumpkin muffins, and cheese danishes…not anymore. I bring my own food. And so much raw veggies that I’m stuffed…better said, satisfied; too satisfied to care about a stupid ole pastry! Bringing extra ‘green’ juice and a gigantic raw salad to get through today. Thanks again for the inspiration! Can not wait to purchase your new book. I will be eating my way through all 150 recipes. I even got my fiancé on board 🙂

  18. Lisa Longfellow says:

    Happy to know I am not the only one who has gone into the trash to retrieve my “I can beat this, I don’t want any more sugar” cast-offs! There should be a rehab center for sugar addiction. Treating my body kindly resignates with me. Thank you for wording it that way! It helps & makes one want to try new things!!

  19. Liza says:

    I read your blog and can relate to the whole sugar thing. While I have made improvements in the way I eat, I recently have found myself falling into bad habits again and feeling discouraged. Your blog encourages me to get back on the horse, so to speak.

  20. Tamisha says:

    Hi beautiful Kris. This is such a great article. I signed up for your mailing list after watching your recent episode on MarieTV just to “see what you were about.” Little did I know, meeting your awesome work would create a bit of an uncomfortable scenario for me.

    The next time I slapped some beef into the pan to have dinner, I felt weird about it – like I shouldn’t eat it (in a good way, not in a “because Mama-Kris-would-be-mad” sorta way). The next time I went grocery shopping, I didn’t even want to buy it. Still since then, I find myself becoming much more conscious about what I’m ingesting – much more than ever before in my life.

    I love the section where you spoke about our nation and the state of our health & diseases. It reminds me of the segment in The War of Art by Pressfield, where he also discusses this, but in light of resistance. For myself, I am learning that resistance in one area creates excess in others. What?! Revelation.

    As a healthcare analyst by day, I know more than ever, beyond my own consciousness, that you have knowledge and passion that can really help us get where we need to be health-wise. I so appreciate your work and heart.

    My favorite line of this piece: “The fact is, we need help and we need each other.”

    Yes.

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