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Are you the person trying to fix everything for everybody all the time? Even with the best intentions, your meddling could be costing you and your relationships more than you realize. I couldn’t think of a better guest to unpack this with me than my old friend Terri Cole. I’ve sought her advice for years and after today you will too. She’s a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert with over 25 years of experience helping people set clear and healthy boundaries, and now Terri turns the mirror on ourselves with her new book, “Too Much.” It’s a powerful wake-up call to how and why we undermine the people we care about by overdoing, over-fixing, and playing the hero––a behavior that she refers to as “high functioning codependency.” And most importantly, she lays out a clear roadmap for breaking out of this cycle and towards more balanced and rewarding relationships––with others and with ourselves. So tune in fellow control-freaks and people-pleasers, this episode is for you!
WE DISCUSS:
-(02:05): Defining high-functioning codependency
-(05:05): The fine line between caring and meddling
-(11:32): How codependency impacts you and others
-(23:10): The importance of self-consideration and learning to say no
-(31:24): Breaking free from “good girl syndrome”
-(35:38): Balancing ambition with self-care in different stages of life
Key Quotes From the Show
“True health isn’t about shrinking yourself, it’s about growing into who you’re meant to be. – Kris Carr”
“Codependency is when you’re overly invested in the feelings and outcomes of the people in your life to the detriment of your own internal peace. – Terri Cole”
“We have to learn to let the chips fall where they may, especially when they’re not our f*ing chips!” – Terri Cole”
CONNECT WITH TERRI COLE
Terri’s book, “Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency”
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