Every time I’ve moved, started a new job, improved my wellness routine or ended a relationship, it was because I was ready for more. I’d learned what I needed for my soul growth and it was time for the next lesson. If your current situation feels stale or no longer fulfilling, it may be a sign that life has a bigger vision for you. Quite simply, you’re ready to uplevel.
Maybe you’ve been feeling itchy for a while. Perhaps you’ve fantasized about new opportunities but wanted more certainty before risking it. I mean, what if you change your current habits or situation and life actually gets worse? How do you know you won’t be making a huge mistake?
Well, sometimes it does get worse before it gets so much better. For example, when you improve your diet, there’s a really good chance you’ll have some detox symptoms. They’ll suck, ‘tis true. But once you’re on the other side of them, you’ll be shocked at how amazing you feel.
And get this—no matter what happens, every action we take teaches us more about ourselves. That is the essence of the awakened path and it’s how we become more of who we truly are. Even a step backward can catapult us forward, as long as we’re conscious about it.
Plus, growing pains are inevitable and mistakes are necessary. But certainty, no matter how we try to plan for it, is impossible. And that’s what makes life so creative, educational and very alive.
Cue some trusty Oprah wisdom: “There is no such thing as failure. Failure is just life trying to move us in another direction.” Cheers!
So how do we decide if it’s time to try something new? Necessary life shifts often come with aches, pains and trackable symptoms. What used to feel good or help you unwind now feels unhealthy. What inspired or challenged you now feels tiresome. The behavior that got you by is no longer working. Your head says “stay put” but your heart says “move on”. And I can really relate to this one: your curiosity and browsing history have taken a new, alluring direction.
If this sounds like you, then whether you’re aware of it or not, you’re already starting to change. Yup, it’s happening. The train is leaving the station and in subtle ways your consciousness is pushing you to grow.
Other people could be noticing your shifts too. If so, they may want the old you back, because when we change it often shines a light on other people’s blocks or limitations. Folks don’t always like that and they might not understand why things can’t be the same.
They can’t be the same because you’re not the same. While you were sleeping or dreaming or driving, you started to have a vision for a new way of living. Once that seed was planted in your psyche there was no turning back. It was just a matter of time before your head came into alignment with your heart—and that’s a good thing!—no matter what discomfort it creates.
If this sounds familiar, it could be time for you to spread your wings.
This doesn’t automatically mean that what you have isn’t good enough or that you need to totally renovate your life. It just means that you have more potential than you’re currently using and it’s time to step it up and do the work. Apply for the job, join the gym, do the cleanse, get your butt into therapy, try online dating and so on!
You know what you need to do, I’m just here to gently nudge you.
Will it be scary? Fuck, yeah! Fear will always show up in these moments. Part of fear’s job is to keep you safe. But fear doesn’t understand that in certain situations it may not be keeping you safe at all, what it’s really doing is keeping you stuck.