Talking To Kids About Cancer
January 5, 2012
By Guest Blogger
Six weeks ago, totally out of the blue, I was diagnosed with incurable metastatic bone disease. My spine and pelvis were apparently riddled with tumors that were the cause of my recent backache. At 38 and as the active mother of two very young children, I had put it down to a pulled muscle from making up the top bunk bed. I’m an elementary school teacher, too, so I have loads of opportunities to pull… Read More >
Turn Your Financial Fear Into Financial Freedom
November 18, 2011
By Terri Cole
When you think about your finances, what word immediately jumps into your mind? What feeling do you get in your body? What visuals do you see? Does money have the power to constrict you? Recent studies confirm that financial distress remains the top stressor in Americans’ lives and is the number one reason for marital discord. As a therapist in New York City for 14 years, I have learned that having money does not necessarily… Read More >
What to Say to a Newly Diagnosed Cancer Patient
November 9, 2011
By Guest Blogger
Today I got the news that someone I love has cancer. I’m not going to call for a few days because I remember the initial hit of the diagnosis. It is a panic that doesn’t show any signs of subsiding. I remember trying to wash windows several hours after I heard the news and getting mad at the people who told me to stop. I was looking for a brief escape from the words, “You… Read More >
The Omnivore Marriage: How To Coexist With Your Meat-Eating Man
November 2, 2011
By Guest Blogger
I’ve been married to my omnivorous husband for three years now. We’re soulmates in every sense of the word. We grew up in the same town and went to high school together; he was captain of the football team, and I was a cheerleader. We share the same affections for gourmet food and travel. We both love spending evenings in with a glass of red wine and, after knowing each other for 15 years, we… Read More >
When Sex Hurts
October 27, 2011
By Guest Blogger
“We can work this out. If we can just push past the pain, it will be OK,” I told him. I was 27, newly married, and I had never had sex before. I thought sex might be a bit painful the first couple of times, but the pain was awful! I felt like my husband was hitting a wall inside of me. Soon, the constant attempts and subsequent pain created a cycle. I would tense… Read More >
The Blessing of Difficult People: It’s Not What You Think
October 25, 2011
By Guest Blogger
When you get on the path to fulfill your dream, pursue a cherished goal or commit to an inspiring project, there are two kinds of people that you’ll meet: allies and adversaries. Both are inevitable. There will always be allies and adversaries. There will always be people who cheer you on as well as those who challenge you. There will always be people who get what you’re up to and those whose minds are nailed… Read More >
In Praise Of Women: Adoring, Fang-Baring, Fiery Witnesses
October 14, 2011
By Danielle LaPorte
Michelle at Wicked Whimsy inspired me to go deeper with a comment that I made in an interview: I often hear “women are our own worst enemies” in terms of our culture. I’m tired of that argument. I think everyone is their own worst enemy, and I don’t think it’s about something women have specifically against each other. The uh, broadness, of my experience with the women throughout my life leaves me humble, optimistic, proud… Read More >
Get More Greens in Your Kids: 5 S’s for Success
October 10, 2011
By Guest Blogger
As a mother of four, one of my biggest pleasures in life is feeding my kids nutritious meals. Unfortunately, it’s not always as easy as I hope it will be! I tend to romanticize while making my evening meals, thinking to myself, “My family will all love dinner tonight! They will wipe their mouths, clear their dishes and give me a hug to say thanks for your efforts, Mom! And then I’m reeled back into… Read More >
Finding My Authentic Self
September 29, 2011
By Guest Blogger
I remember going to my parents’ house with a black and blue mark on my arm. As soon as my dad saw it he said, “What is this?” My response was, “Oh, my bike was leaning against the wall in my apartment and it fell on me.” He said, “Well, it looks like a hand mark.” I just denied it, but in reality my dad was right. My boyfriend at the time had grabbed my… Read More >
Embracing the Unknown
September 22, 2011
By Leslie Carr Psy.D.
Recently in my life I have been faced with a considerable amount of uncertainty. As my partner and I decide whether we want to have children and, pending our conclusion, whether we should get married, I’m forced to confront the fact that I do not currently know what the future has in store for me. When all of this came up a couple of months ago, it was a shock for me. Until that point… Read More >
My Sister’s Hand in Mine
September 20, 2011
By Guest Blogger
It’s December 2010. My 74-year-old mother had just made it through her grueling battle with stage-2, aggressive HER2-positive breast cancer. She had her lumpectomies, her radiation, her chemo, and she had come up clean. She had tested negative for the gene that my sister and I could have potentially inherited, so I wasn’t particularly worried when the doctor found a lump in my cystic right breast that very week. But as fate would have it,… Read More >
Join the Pleasure Revolution
September 2, 2011
By Regena Thomashauer
Have you ever just flat-out celebrated the privilege of being a woman — for no reason? Have you ever partied with your Inner Bitch? Owned and operated any men lately? Would you like to make ecstasy your reality? Welcome to the Pleasure Revolution at Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts. The Pleasure Revolution is a complete redux of the paradigm called woman. Women were never taught to guarantee their joy. They were taught to guarantee… Read More >
The Power of Now: Transforming a Low Point into a Turning Point
September 1, 2011
By Guest Blogger
Two years ago, both of us knew what it was like to question our own worth – to wonder why our lives weren’t turning out the way we’d wanted them to back when we were bright-eyed little girls with all sorts of big bold plans. And both of us inherently knew that there’s nothing better than channeling raw, negative energy into something that’s mind-bogglingly awesome and unexpected. There must have been something in the air… Read More >
Redefining Depression
August 19, 2011
By Leslie Carr Psy.D.
For a couple of months, two years ago, I was depressed. A profoundly rainy San Francisco winter, coupled with the heartbreak of yet another failed relationship, just left me feeling blue. Three-thousand miles from my family and my closest, oldest friends, it also left me crying in jags, with a lonely, nagging ache inside. This time in my life would have been relatively unremarkable (in the sense that I wouldn’t otherwise feel inclined to blog… Read More >
The Missing Link
August 16, 2011
By Rolf Gates
The connection between compassion and human happiness is woven into all of the great spiritual traditions. The Buddha, the Yoga Sutras and Jesus Christ were all quite specific about it (to name a few). The cultivation of gentleness and compassion for others and ourselves has the capacity to set our minds and our hearts free. Wow. That’s big. Unfortunately, it also appears to have been buried in the fine print of human civilization. Or maybe… Read More >
It’s Not Going To Turn Out The Way You Thought
August 15, 2011
By Kate Northrup
It will happen later. His best friend will ask you out instead. You’ll be kissed in the movies instead of on a beach. You’ll end up going to a different school because the one you thought you’d get into didn’t work out. She’ll move away. Someone else will move in next door. She’ll be a little weird at first, a little more shy, but ultimately really good at riding bikes and playing dolls. That part… Read More >
Every Woman Is Orgasmic
July 27, 2011
By Guest Blogger
When I was a graduate student, I taught a class in sexuality for women. On the first day of class, I handed out a questionnaire asking students what they wanted to know most about sex. I was shocked when almost every single survey came back asking some form of the same question: “What’s wrong with me?” “So much for our so-called sexual liberation,” I thought. In our fight for equal rights, we’d neglected to ask… Read More >
Three Ways to Support a Friend Who’s Dealing with Infertility
July 19, 2011
By Guest Blogger
You know that your friend has been trying to get pregnant, so over lunch you ask how it’s going. You’re just about to dig into your quinoa pilaf when you see her eyes drop and you know she doesn’t have good news. As she tells you the latest, you scramble for something helpful to say, but nothing feels right. What do you do? Infertility affects one in eight couples in the U.S., so odds are… Read More >
Lessons Learned on My Transgender Journey
June 28, 2011
By Guest Blogger
In my late twenties, I started to explore the possibility that I was transgender. I read books, essays, academic theory, medical texts and legal documents on the subject. I also spoke to many people on the transmasculine spectrum. I learned that trans people contend with discrimination, health insurance issues, hate crimes, employment difficulties, paperwork nightmares and often lose friends and family. I learned about hormones and surgeries. I learned that the medical establishment considers gender… Read More >
How to Be an Amazing Lover
May 31, 2011
By Guest Blogger
By Kim Anami Being a fabulous lover is a constant commitment to growing in that area of your life. Like sculpting your body and maintaining a nutritional regime, being an adept lover in the bedroom (or the elevator, or the park) is a cultivated skill and art. It requires openness and knowing there is always something more to learn. Despite living in a society where sex is everywhere – in films, television, advertising and pop… Read More >
