Tips for a Better Life

By Rory Freedman   |  41Comments|

With 2 million books sold, Rory has taught us how to eat better. We’ve asked her for tips on how to live better, based on her own life experiences. Here are Rory’s top twenty ways to make every day shine brighter…

1. Don’t say “yes” when you mean “no.” It’ll make you resentful. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

2. When driving, if someone wants to get in front of you, let him in front of you. And do it with a smile. It’ll make his day better, and it’ll make you feel good. You just changed the world.

3. Try to make a gratitude list each day. Include big things and little things. Invite your friends to make their own lists; you can all email one another each day, sharing your gratitude.

4. Don’t be a problem solver when a friend just wants you to be a listener.

5. Call your parents or grandparents. Sometimes, a five-minute phone call is all they need to feel loved.

6. Be a good neighbor: Be considerate inside and outside your home/apartment so your noise doesn’t bother those around you. That includes opening and closing your front door quietly.

7. Pee in the shower. If we each did this once a day, it would save an enormous amount of water and toilet paper (trees).

8. Write a “fan letter.” Tell someone you know, or someone you’ve never met, why you admire him or her. You’ll make someone’s day.

9. Curb your jealousy. Be happy for others.

10. Be willing to be wrong. If someone has a grievance with you, really try to see her point of view. If called for, apologize. It’s hard to do, but it feels really good and makes life so much easier.

11. If you are in a room with someone you don’t know, introduce yourself right away. It takes away the social discomfort immediately.

12. Pick a cause close to your heart, and get involved. You don’t have to quit your job and dive in headfirst. Just get involved on some level and do what you can when you can. Go slightly beyond your comfort zone but don’t overextend yourself.

13. Be a good friend to your friends. Tell them what’s good about them, that you appreciate them, and make the effort to spend time with them.

14. Go vegetarian. Animals raised and slaughtered for food suffer immeasurably. Visit for a free vegetarian starter kit.

15. Do your best to think good thoughts. They affect your health, happiness, and the people around you.

16. Do something frivolous for someone you love. (It doesn’t have to be extravagant.) It feels so good to do nice things for other people, it’s almost selfish!

17. Practice accepting compliments. The person complimenting you is giving you a gift. Receive it graciously, even if it is difficult.

18. Be generous with your compliments. Don’t blow smoke up anyone’s ass. Just say nice things when they occur to you.

19. Forgive those who have wronged you. Holding onto anger and resentment poisons your body and your life. There are no benefits in staying mad. Let go. It’s okay.

20. Forgive yourself. It’s okay to be imperfect and to have made mistakes. Try to do better, that’s all.

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41 responses to Tips for a Better Life
  1. Love your books, Love your list!!!! My husband has finally given up meat because of reading Skinny Bastard, I guess hearing it from the man’s perspective did the trick! Thanks!!!

  2. Excellent advice! Especially about forgiving people who did you wrong, it makes you almost giddy to let go. Love your books, hope to meet you someday.Thanks for all you do. (I did have to put a cover over the title to take it to school with me, as a teacher I couldn’t have kids see the title-hee, hee…it did make them very curious though!)

  3. You rock Rory!! Thanks for all you do

  4. I have always loved your writing, ever since I picked up a copy of Skinny Bitch. You’re an inspiration, and I am so thankful to have read this article today. After having lost a job this week, your words have helped me put everything into perspective. Thank you!

  5. Great list! :) I just love Rory!!

  6. Rory Freedman just started my day :)

  7. I am sending this list to everyone I know and tacking a copy to the bulletin board in my office. As for number 8 – my “fan letter” is going to Rory! She rocks!

  8. thanks for making my day Rory, love ya :)

  9. I am so grateful for YOU and all that you share…. Thank you.. I hope to meet you one day… Healthy Blessings, Marina

  10. Thanks for this wonderful list! I told dad I love him!

  11. What a wonderful list of advice.

  12. That just made my day!! Thank you!!

  13. Number 7 made my day. It brought a much-needed smile to my face. (And, it’s so true!)

  14. Perfect.. I love it.. Thanks. Callie

  15. Rory, you’re great, thank you xxoo

  16. Thank you for reminding me!

  17. great rules to live by every day

  18. Peaceful living…love them

  19. I really enjoyed this great yips for a better life.

    Peeing in the shower was funny, I’ve never done that, but will. :-0 Rory, you have guts. That’s so great.

    I especially liked this one:

    “If you are in a room with someone you don’t know, introduce yourself right away.”

    Recently, I did a weekend intensive. I knew no one, and I was on crutches with one leg. Everyone was quite friendly, but one women came up and introduced herself, “My name is Elizabeth …”, that made me feel welcomed and I really appreciated it. It actually made my day.

    Thanks for the reminder, Rory. I’m going to remember (and practice) that one!

  20. Thanks for such wonderful wisdom!

  21. So AWESOME! Good to have a list for the times we “forget”…

  22. Great list! Now I can pee in the shower to save the world..that makes me feel better 😀
    Must remember the same does NOT apply to peeing the bath. I should put a note up by the taps for that one 😉

  23. Numbers 9 and 10 really rang true for me. They are both ideals that I struggle to abide by every day, and I see a lot of animosity and ugliness due to the stubborn protection of one’s ego, by never admitting one’s faults or another’s accomplishments. It truly is a sad, lonely way to live!

  24. Peeing in the shower is a disgusting suggestion. Unfortunately I once got into a shower after someone had peed in it – the smell lingers forever unless way too much water is used to get rid of the odor, thereby eliminating the reason for peeing there in the first place. Please stick to the toilet for peeing.

  25. Is it rude to tack tip #6 on the doors of all my neighbors? 😉

  26. you rock, i wish (fantasy) that you weren’t married and i wasn’t either.

  27. I love anyone who spreads positivity. There is no better way to live than in an attitude of gratitude! Bravo!

  28. #21 post this list where you can read it at least ten times a day.
    Thanks Rory. I needed that!

  29. this is wonderful – and i appreciate the reminder!

    i would love to see an article on how to forgive and let go (re: 19).

  30. Thankyou so much for this

  31. I love this! Thanks Rory!

  32. Hey Rory,

    Thanks for the list. My girlfriend and I love your book— its featured coffee table reading :-)

  33. This was awesome and exactly what I needed in my life.

  34. And I thought I was the only one that thought peeing in the shower was a great idea! :)

  35. this is one great list.
    thank you for it. xx

  36. Thanks for the great post! I would not have found this myself!

  37. This is fantastic — Not sure why I’m just coming across this blog but I love it <3 Thanks Girl!

  38. This is a good list, but I’m not sure about the shower one. I don’t think that’s very hygienic. A better life starts with you. The basics of it is you need a good attitude towards every day. The more positive you think, the more happy you will be.

  39. WOW ~~ Love it, going to share the list with everyone I know! Hopefully each and everyone takes it t
    to heart as I did! :)

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