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the declaration of deserving…just because you’re here

September 6, 2012
By Danielle LaPorte
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I’ve been asking around: “What do you think you’re entitled to?” “What do you know that you deserve?”

Holy-loaded questions will get you some passionate answers: “I’m not entitled to a damn thing. But I deserve love.” “I don’t deserve anything, everything needs to be earned.” “I’m entitled to be on the planet, I work for the rest.” “I deserve right pay for right work…a foot rub and to be fanned and fed grapes…no less, no more than another…to be seen, heard, acknowledged…love, respect, fun, and money. Love…Love…Love…”

We’re such hard workers. Hardened, some of us, from working so hard todeserve what we want. Working to earn. Earning more…work. Earning your keep is a vicious cycle, you know. Where as, believing in your implicit worth liberates you to create more value for the world you serve.

Of course, people with entitlement issues are goddamn irritating. They want more than they’re willing to give upfront. They operate in a fog of hunger and conflicting intentions. Entitled types are frantic below the surface because they don’t trust that they can feed themselves. What they need is a long hug and then to be sent off for some solo time, without credit cards.

Deserving and worthiness…these are the notions that get to the pulse of our consciousness and esteem.

If you don’t believe you have the right to be here, there will never be enough space for your true self to show up. If you think you need to earn your actual desires, you’re putting miles, years, between you and fulfillment. So many of us don’t even give ourselves permission to want what we want. This is the great tragedy of a malnourished spirit.

a declaration of deserving:

You are worthy of your desires. Really wanting what you want gives you the power to get it. You were born free. (The more you try to earn your freedom, the more trapped you become.) You are worthy of love and respect. Lovable.

You deserve
: eye contact
: smiles in the morning
: food made with pure intention
: clean drinking water, fresh air
Hello, Please, Thank you.
: time to think about it
: a chance to show them what you’re made of
: a second chance
: an education
: health care, including dental
: multiple orgasms
: weekends and the summer off
: 8 hours of sleep
: play before work
: to change your mind
: to say no
: to say yes
: to have your deepest needs met
: to be seen
: to be loved for what is seen.

You deserve all this just because you showed up.
Yep, you’re that monumental.

Photo credit: Jennifer



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4 responses to the declaration of deserving…just because you’re here
  1. So true and sometimes so hard to remember. It’s always good to come across these reminders!! Thanks!

  2. Thank you for this post Kris. When you sick, you think you’re sick because you don’t deserve to be healthy. Your post reassured me, that I deserve to be healthy and live in the healthy body. I’m battling Lyme disease, which is a nasty thing. I’m open to try anything to get rid off it. I got tested in California and seeing a doctor in Toronto, Canada.

  3. Wow, Danielle has provided so many insights into this seemingly simple statement. Simple in language, but not so simple in ideology. I have to be honest that it took me a few times to re-read to realize I still did not understand the anonymous statement entirely.
    The article begs the question , “What happens when you don’t get what you feel you deserve?”
    Reading the book When The Body Says No by Gabor Mate helped me immensely with my personal and health issues and this question , in particular. His seven A’s to healing helped me to see my health in a different light. This resulted in a lot of self reflection and as a consequence I started to slowly implement some life altering changes.
    For me personally, I had to realize and admit that I was enabling people and situations to happen in my life. In order to get what I deserve, I have become more assertive in a kind and gentle way, I don’t yell and scream when I don’t get what I want, instead I try to communicate more clearly in a way that does not attack the other person so it’s mostly with the “I”.
    I could go on more, but I won’t. Simply put, read his book if you’ve experienced any anti inflammatory disease and learn some strategies that will help you to heal inside and out.

  4. So gorgeous. I really love Danielle LePorter!
    ox