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Kris Carr

Emotional Health

How to Stop Forcing and Start Having Faith

Hiya Gorgeous!

Happy Valentine’s Day! I was hoping to write something about romantic love or heartbreak today, but I couldn’t decide. Should I re-tell the story of how my biggest heartbreak made space for my greatest love? Nah. Wasn’t feeling it (shout-out to my hubby, Brian, though!)

Perhaps, I’d write about cancer. Today is my cancerversary, after all. Fourteen years living with cancer and still going strong. Nope. Wasn’t feeling that, either. Politics? Hell no. What about how to make a smoothie or take a good poop? Meh. The clock was ticking (we publish every Tuesday) and I was coming up snake eyes.

Well, I could write about a much bigger love—the universal love that’s always available to us. Call it God, Goddess, the Divine, Natural Order, Higher Consciousness—whatever works for you.

But to really do that, I’d have to talk about how I’ve been blocking this love and support (when I need it most). Ooh, that’s juicy! Alrighty, here goes…

I’m a fixer, a problem solver, a get-the-job-done type of gal.

I like to manifest the crap out of life. I get an idea, gut check it to make sure it feels good and then spring into action, creating a multi-tiered plan to make it happen, captain.

Now, I’m not saying that this is always a bad thing. It’s helped me be successful in many areas. But when my behavior is out of balance, it’s exhausting.

So lately, I’ve been easing up. Less doing. More being. I re-calibrated my goals and focused my energy. I declined speaking opps and social engagements. I even expanded my team, which allows me to delegate more. Yay!

Yet no matter how much I took off my plate, I was still overwhelmed and I didn’t understand why. My conscious, solution-oriented mind was coming up short.

Hmmm. Maybe it was my adrenals? Could Ashwagandha help? Nope, tried it. Jeez, what was wrong with me? Screw strategy! It was time to tap into spirit and ask for help.

So, I prayed on it. I prayed and prayed and in the stillness of meditation, I heard this:

“You’re pushing your way through life, relying on force vs. faith.

You’re depending on your own strength vs. Divine timing.

You’re not alone. There are unseen forces working on your behalf.

So, stop trying to control everything.

Instead, show up for your life and the people in it with love. The Universe will do the rest.”

Now, that’s what I call a big medicine message from spirit!

In essence, my spirit was telling me to surrender my need for certainty.

For control freaks like me, that’s a hard pill to swallow. Control can feel so good when we have it. It’s orderly and cozy. Our ducks are in a row and stuff is buttoned up. But, is it really? In my case, control was masking anxiety. Drive was disguising fear.

Life doesn’t always want to be tucked in like that. We’re human beings, not human doings. So when we’re overly obsessed with controlling outcomes, it’s a sign that we’re out of alignment with both our inner guidance and our connection with the Divine.

Constantly plotting, planning and trying to figure things out on my own wasn’t working. My schedule wasn’t exhausting—my mind was! If this sounds like you, the following solutions may help.

How to move from force to faith.

Start by quieting your mind and connecting with spirit. As your thoughts and breath settle, ask for Divine assistance. You may say something like, “Please help me arrange this situation, I can’t figure it out on my own and I need your help.” Then, let go.

Each time a fearful, controlling thought pops up, replace it with a loving, confident thought. Rinse and repeat. Daily, hourly—whenever you need.

Remember that love is patient. Love is trusting. Love is unshakable—even in a shaky world. When we’re aligned with love, we’re aligned with the Divine and with the natural rhythms of life. We create from a place of sacred synchronicity rather than scarcity.

We believe that what’s right for our highest good is being coordinated on our behalf. Therefore, we don’t always have to strategize, force outcomes or figure everything out. Instead, we can do our part and then relax.

Again, this doesn’t mean we passively float through life letting everything happen to us. It means that we find a balance of action and allowing. Sometimes, it’s enough to just hang out with the vision we want to create for a while. We don’t have to jump on it right away. We can sip it like a fine wine. Swish it around and allow the flavors to reveal themselves.

Case in point: Have you ever worked your butt off to reach a goal but for whatever reason, it didn’t happen? Maybe you wanted this goal so badly that it was kinda hard to bounce back after it didn’t work out. Perhaps not getting what you wanted, what you worked so hard for, made you sink into a depression and even doubt your abilities.

Then, out of the blue, months or years later, the unmet desire suddenly happens. You didn’t do a darn thing, it just showed up. Why is that? Because the seed you planted blossomed while you were doing other stuff. Basically, the universe worked on it’s timeline, not yours.

Or maybe, what you wanted showed up in a different, more wonderful way than you actually imagined. Maybe your vision was smaller than what the Universe had in store for you!

You will be led to exactly where you need to be—to the right people, doctors, business opportunities, romantic relationship and decisions.

“Life loves you,” as Louise Hay would say. It’s on your side. It wants you to be unapologetically you. But, life also needs you to have faith in the unfolding.

I hope this topic resonates. If so, are there outcomes that you’re forcing? Can you try to apply a little faith and trust to the situation? Understanding that your muscle pales in comparison to the power of the Universe.

Peace & prayer,

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  1. Ira says:

    I just found this in my tough days. My relationship is broken bcz of my negativity which i dont wanna do it again.
    Im so helpless and i found this post. Grateful. So hard to let go and surrender. But your post uplifted me 🙂 thanks xx

  2. Lee says:

    Dear Kris, I’ve just met you a couple of months ago (through the Food revolution summit), but for the last week you have been showing around a lot! I’ve been reading your posts, watching your videos, learning more about you and you have really inspired my a lot!!! Your strength, your vitality, your positivity resonates a lot with me and gave me the strength and trust to start something new that has been for quite a while inside of me, but maybe because of fear, I’ve never had the courage to start!
    Today I feel like it’s a new beginning for me and trust that you came around to give that force, or the Universe put you on my path.. We are miles away of distance and speaking a different language (literally, I’m a native spanish and portuguese “speaker?”) anyway I understand you and “hear” everything you say!!
    Hope to hear from you and hope one day we can meet or talk it would be fantastic! I send you lots of light and good energies! With love and gratitude, Lee

  3. r says:

    Kris, thank you for this. As a struggling actor I find that if I didn’t send a hundred emails a day I would never get a single audition. No one is hustling for me but me. How can I change this? It seems impossible to sit back.

  4. Breanne says:

    Love this post — so right for me right now:) Forcing body and mind.. this reminded me to know that I do have support (Universe and people) even if they can’t do my work for me, if I show up for them, they’ll show up for me

  5. Pat says:

    Wow! Words of inspiration I really needed. I keep getting stressed out trying to make things happen (good things) but its not fast enough. Sometimes, I’m really overwhelmed with my life in general. Thank you for reminding me that its better to do my best but know that my time table is not necessarily the best one. If I let go and trust in God things will be better and I will develop greater faith. Thank you for being real and sharing your positive, healing energy with the world.

  6. Chris says:

    Hi Kris,
    I’ve been inspired by you for years. Your journey helped me wade through the pain of PTSD – sleepless nights, panic attacks – all of it!! I’m curious…. You speak of “god” and the “divine” in very general terms frequently. Who is your god? I know my spiritual self is the foundation of my very existence and gets me through the day. It gives my life purpose. Who is your god? Thx for al you do!!

  7. Bryn says:

    Love this. I’ve spent many years as a forcer and am finally learning to live with more trust and grace. Can’t be reminded enough!

  8. Sandra Johnson says:

    Dearest Kris, you always speak to me. I thank the university for slipping you into my life. You have great wisdom, and that wonderful edgy wit. Namaste.

  9. Faith says:

    Oh girl!!!! From your lips to God’s ears. I have been praying for guidance around a certain situation that this ego keeps wanting to control…and even using angel cards. The angel card that keeps coming up is TRUST…and it describes EXACTLY what you are saying- “life also needs you to have faith in the unfolding.” Things happen in their own time, in their own way-and maybe when we let go, and live in the moment appreciating our own life!. And loved this insight of yours, “Or maybe, what you wanted showed up in a different, more wonderful way than you actually imagined.” That has happened many times to me. Thank you for this reminder!!! Thank you for reminding me to simply have FAITH, have TRUST, relax and enjoy my life…follow my intuition and trust that God has my back!!! Everything unfolds as it should…and always for the highest good of all. With hugs!!! Pax et Bonum.

  10. Nancy says:

    Kris, you’re totally reading my inner mail! Thanks for this.

  11. Berni Nelson says:

    Kris, I am at present having the good fortune of receiving many Miracles and this blogg of yours
    Is another Miracle. Thank you for setting down your Spirit ideas clearly from the Divine spark you are.
    You light up my days and you say “Good Morning Sweetheart!”every day to me. Thank you for your
    Wonderful meditations!! Sending you Peace and joy. xx

  12. Meg says:

    Can you write about how your biggest heartbreak made way for your greatest love, though? I’m experiencing a horrible breakup and need to hear some hopeful stories

  13. Erin says:

    Thank you! You are wonderful and uplifting . I wish you eternal health and happiness?

  14. Raelene says:

    Beautiful post, Kris. Life is conspiring for us, I forget that from time to time, but it feels much easier when I remember! Thanks.

  15. Virginia says:

    I Love You !!!

  16. Jamie says:

    I definitely needed this today. Beautifully written. Thank You!

  17. Anna says:

    Thank YOU dear Kris!!!! It’s an amazing message! So true & at the right time!!! That’s right we must learn a new art of surrender, and I guess we can teach this our kids… Years ago I wasn’t ready to see this clearly, sure deep inside I knew I must cherrish every single moment and let things happen at the righ time and space sequence on the Universe’s schedule. Today I know it. I just know it! Thanks! You are an infinite sourse of love, inspiration and wisdom!!! Love, Anna xo xo

  18. Erin says:

    Thank you so much Kris. I have felt those same feelings at times in My life and it feels empowering and freeing to allow the Divine control in my life. As I turn my will to Gods will I actually feel more calm and peaceful and in control than when I am trying to control everything alone. Thanks for your inspiring post!
    Erin

  19. Monica says:

    Thank you so much for these words, I just had a big fight with my husband because after a long time of trying to quit smoking he gave up and that frustrated my so much… and now that I feel all of the angry in my heart I just read “So, stop trying to control everything, Instead, show up for your life and the people in it with love. The Universe will do the rest” … I can’t stop crying… You are amazing

  20. Needed that, as a Doer with a capital D, I needed to be reminded of that.

  21. siri jostad says:

    you are beautiful, Kris.

  22. Sherri says:

    Thank you Kris for these words, they are exactly what I needed to hear right now – thank you, thank you! Faith & trust.

  23. Judit says:

    Thanks Kris for another great post, you are my spiritual and wellness guru! Can you tell us more about how do you pray exactly? Thanks a lot in advance! Peace and love:)

  24. Anna-Maria Bent says:

    Wow Kris!
    One of your best blogs yet! It all feels so right and true to me!
    Thanks for this! Gonna show up with Love and let the universe do its thing. Xo

  25. Nikka says:

    I love knowing that I am in control of my life & I love creating my reality. Those are powerful words, “The universe loves me” and “The universe supports me.”

  26. Laura says:

    Thank you Kris. This was a lesson for me today. I sincerely appreciate these words…

  27. Wendy Irene says:

    Just what I needed to hear. Thank you, dearly Kris.

  28. darlene says:

    Kris I love you lol. I am doing doing doing and spent time today and gave it up to Divine Universe. I have been so busy doing… all good things mind you, but spinning my wheels, and feeling frustrated. I work full time as a server at a 5 star restaurant/Hotel, and it is tiring. But I cant give my job up yet, 🙂 I am doing the writers course online with You and the rest of the gang, which I am lapping up, loving it, I am writing my story as well, I am also doing the Hypnosis course called “Uncompromised Life” along with other things like learning to play guitar etc. and my thought process is like…Sleep is highly overrated haha. I thought to myself this morning. Why don’t you try something you haven’t tried in awhile, be still and go within and ask for help. So, I did, I went to the beach with God and surrendered it to him. In return I received 3 words…LOVE followed by Trust, and Believe…and then the real clarity came. Go clean your walk in closet today and then you will be free to see what is next. Haha I love the Universe sense of humor. I needed to declutter in order to be free. I then came across your blog. Wow I am speechless as to how I manifested this along with your confirmation. Ty you are my favorite. Love is in the air Happy Belated Valentine’s Day

  29. Irene says:

    This really hit home and my heart. It is for our family of “doers.” Honestly one of the best things I’ve read in a long time. What a wonderful way to start the day.

  30. Bee says:

    Thank you so much for your wise words Kris – I completely identify with this. Need to let go, striving is a very stressful state to be in………x

  31. Annalise says:

    Yes, I’m feeling the resonance. Thank you for this post. Thanks for being candid and honest and insightful. You are a shining example!

  32. Rachel says:

    A reminder to

    “Let go and let God”

    Xx

  33. Chris says:

    Happy Valentine’s Day, Thanks for the wonderful message of loving yourself, taking the time to tune into yourself and your connection to the universe. I have so many people I love in my life, but this year I decided to send a Valentine’s wish to someone I never had before. Someone who needs love as much as all the others who have been receiving it from me for years. I sent a Valentine’s wish to me and spent part of the day treating myself. Doing things for me as well as those I love. The best gift to myself, a beautiful walking meditation in the woods with snow gently falling. Love to all on this Valentine’s Day. And don’t forget to take care of loving you.

  34. Nina says:

    Kris, thank you so much for your loving, open-hearted and authentic communication. I can take it in, ponder it and integrate it without resistance. Lots of love back to you! Nina

  35. Teresa says:

    Thanks Kris for sharing. I’ve been really struggling with this myself & yes it’s very hard for us control freaks to just let go. Besides making a New Years resolutions this year, I decided to choose one word like author Jon Gordon suggests. Choosing just one word allows us to focus on a particular something that we want to improve in our life and that’s a lot more obtainable than regular resolutions that we never end up keeping. My one word for this year is “surrender”, because I wanted to try to work on using “faith not force” all the time like you discussed. Your suppose to allow your one word to reveal itself to you by opening your heart and mediation with the Spirit. I finally decided on the word “surrender” and I have been wondering if I might have forced my word (yikes! I can’t even make myself not control one simple word!). Did I let faith have anything to do with it? After reading your blog article on the exact same subject and it touching my heart so, I’m sure that I chose correctly. Your article really hit home with me and I believe your article was my sign! I’m still very much struggling, so I’m going to try your suggestions on how to let go and let God drive sometimes. I wonder how many blessings that we miss, because we’re not letting God drive and we’re forcing things to go a certain way? Hmmm. Anyways, Keep up the great work Kris! I really Love your articles and thank you for all you do!

  36. cherie says:

    This is so hard to do when you grew up in a very strict religious household where spirit was obscured by rules and guilt. I am learning to lean into spirituality little by little for the first time through meditation. It’s working! I still can’t use the word “God” but I can use some substitutes and they are working fine. It can be done, people:-)

  37. Andrea says:

    So clear and uplifting words. In the hardest of times it is necessary to let go…. almost everything, so it may come back with abundance. Thanks for sharing the love. Need to remember: let go, let God… and exhale

  38. Chazz says:

    I had a conversation recently with a friend about faith and trust and how hard that all is. Then I took the dog out to potty one last time before bed, just after getting off the phone. I looked up at this beautiful full moon that was encircled in a double rainbow–something I had never seen before around the moon or at night–and I heard, “There are forces in motion you can’t even begin to understand.” It’s hard sometimes, but every time I look up at the moon now I try to remind myself of that.

  39. Catherine says:

    Hi Kris

    That was a beautiful email to read. It was exactly what I needed to hear in my life right now.

    Thank you so much.

  40. Rayanne says:

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for this wonderful blog on a subject that is so happening in my life right now! You definitely were a messenger from God today, Kris! I’ve been wondering and waffling, and waiting, and doubting my own guidance about this exact subject. You, my friend, spoke the words of the Divine right to me for validation! It is truly the Glorious Unfolding!! “Just Be and let it flow to you.” This was exactly what I needed to hear and feel. Love ya sweet friend!

  41. Lucinda says:

    unbelievable how much I needed to hear these words at this time in my life Kris…. you are a gift. thank you x

  42. Angela Bohinc says:

    Thanks for this! Much needed right now! <3

  43. Tanya says:

    So it’s Valentines day, and I bought way to much sushi for us to eat. Mostly because I’m just sad deep in my core, my marriage is shit, so I wasn’t feeling hungry. I felt more like crying. After dinner we sat om the couch, my thoughts were out in space, I’m just so freaking sad. My husband wanted to make out ( is that the term?) I was just trying to hold it together. Then I sort of mentioned how do we move on from this? He didn answer me, chose to take a nap instead. I waited a long time for some sort of respons? Then I asked again, well maby I asked for a reply, and he said he didn’t think I would like his reply. And BTW he thought I would have sex with him ( that was his reply ..) and he was fed up talking about problems. This is the second time in 2017 I wanted to talk about out marriage. So he blamed me for all sorts of things, got up yelled some more. And at 9 pm I went to bed. We have seperate bedrooms. So I now have a very expensive cake in the fridge I bought to be nice. I dont even like cake, and I’m in my bed on Valentines .. anyway .. sometimes life sucks! And no I have no one to talk to. And therapy is to expensive – my husband says .. sure hope you are having a wonderful evening ? Last time I’ll ever celebrate Valentines again. Oh ya’ he completly f*** up my birthday in nov, but managed to blame me. So birthdays are out as well, but who wants to get older anyway ? Party or not it will happen .. oh! The thing on top – you are not alone, that made me cry. Cant hold things together anylonger. Sorry for my english… and not to worry, I’m not an immigrant. I’m in my bed crying in Denmark ..

  44. ShannonRose says:

    Ahh yes, Perfect timing for me… Here’s to trusting more and opening up more to Divine timing.. Deeply appreciating your presence and inspiration in my life. Congratulations on your important anniversary. Thank you for Shining Your Light, love ShannonRose

  45. José Marques says:

    Good one Kris. Inspiring stuff. ❤

  46. Adele says:

    Love this message. I don’t have this problem , but boy does my husband! I am going to read this to him and see if he gets it. He is a very spiritual man and reads his bible and prays often. His need to be in control of situations can sometime be overwhelming . Thanks for the words! Happy Valentines Day! ?❤️

  47. Lisa says:

    Thank you so much Kris. This comes to me in perfect divine timing. I resonate with everything you say. Sometimes the harder things become the harder we try to fix them until we find ourselves in a vicious circle leading to what can be a huge downward spiral with what appears to be no way out! Doing nothing at this point really does feel so counterintuitive and the very last thing we want to do when everything we care about appears to be slipping away. But you’re right, asking for and having faith and trust in divine guidance is actually the only thing to do. Your words are such a brilliant reminder X

  48. Aura Carr says:

    Beautiful beautiful post.

  49. Dawn Engler says:

    Wow wow does this sound like me Kris. Doing too much, backed off and still overwhelmed. Thanks for the words of advice.

  50. Ceren says:

    I just needed to read that, it is a wonderful reminder for me. Just go with the flow and trust the universe and yourself. All is well, thank you so much ?

  51. Anna says:

    Thank you Kris for posting this message.
    This was spot on and timely for me and hit home what I was thinking was going on!!
    Glad to know I’m not that crazy!! 🙂
    Thanks for all you do and God bless you!!

  52. Barbara says:

    This SO resonates for me. I too am a planner and like to manifest the crap out of life. I’ve been working hard on be-ing more, doing less, being in the flow. But what I find so challenging is my health. I’ve been struggling with Lyme for 2 1/2 years. Have done tons of inner work and have several amazing doctors to help me. But when it’s your health, it’s so hard to let go and let the universe take its course. Sure, I can wait for a new house or a new creative project, but I want to be well NOW! I want my life back, and I can’t just say, “OK the universe will bring good health to me on its own schedule and if it’s mine to have.” How can you not care about the outcome when it’s your very life that’s at stake? Any suggestions?

  53. Thank you so much, Kris. This is just what I needed right now. You showed up at the right time, like an Angel of the Universe.

  54. Kris,
    Good one:). I have launched so many projects/ideas out into the world, and while they got kudos, they all stopped at a point. Yes, I’m a doer! So I’ve been praying to surrender to the Universe and the message I keep getting is HAVE FUN and let them come to you. I’ve been doing that and interesting things are unfolding, so thanks for the reminder. AND this is a much more FUN way to do it.

  55. Christina DeSalvo says:

    From a control freak, this blog really speaks to me. I always seem to be exhausting myself every day trying to accomplish tasks. I am not happy and I don’t enjoy life. I need to simplify.

  56. Jan says:

    Kris, thank you for these prayers and wise words, today of all days. Time to step in the river and flow with life again. I’ve been paddling upstream lately and I’m exhausted. Divine timing?

  57. Sue says:

    Right on Kris! This is just what I needed today. I can’t thank you enough.

  58. Louise says:

    Thank you Kris! Your post showed up in my inbox just when I needed it. Really loved reading about what came through for you following your meditation … force “v” faith, our strength “v” divine timing, wonderful words of wisdom channelled from the Divine. What a gift … thank you!

  59. Joan says:

    This was an amazing message Kris!! Much needed in my life – thanks for all that you do!! xoxo

  60. Kris Carr your knowledge is truly enlightening and amazing and has lifted my spirits on so many different occasions and I am so thankful for the light you give this world. You are truly Gods gift!

  61. Deb reidy says:

    Kris,
    sharing this tonight as a Valentine present to my love who works so hard and still feels like she just can’t get it all done. This helps me think about how I can be to help the situation vs. pushing solutions at her and wanting her so badly to “do what I say”.

    Agree, the being is a wonderful part of the day & yet not celebrated in our times..

    PS. thank you so much for not talking about politics 🙂

  62. Kat says:

    That was stellar Chris! Thanks for the reminder. I really needed to hear that!
    Happy Valentine’s to you!

  63. Lisa Longfellow says:

    This was the greatest Valentine ever, today! My dad died last Saturday and am a huge control freak. Can’t control that, now can I? Your blogs have helped me tremendously this week.
    Love you!
    Lisa

  64. Fern says:

    I really enjoy your posts. You are one of two people I follow and actually read what you say….my life is busy but I really enjoy your thoughts. What you’ve expressed here I’ve thought about and you express it so well. I try to live this. But I’d like to offer you another concept to think about. I’ve been studying the bible with the Jehovah’s Witnesses after a life time of new age study starting with Louise Hay and going from there. I’m 60 now. The Witnesses came into my life by chance or was it by divine gift? Over two years ago, and a year ago I decided to take them up on it and study the bible with them., something I had never been able to make srnce if on my own. I told myself as soon as something seemed”off” “unreal” “propaganda” etc I would stop. But every week it gets better and better. I’ve been attending meetings, studying and pre-studying. Jehova God, who tells us his name through his word, inspired and recorded in the bible….is not longer as “I ” conceive him to be, and through the bible, I am coming to understand that what “I” conceive him to be , and what his purpose is for us and the planet is, is just the tip of the ice berg. I ask you to consider this… this God that you have faith in, that loves you and cares for you…. how do you return that love to him? I’m not talking about extended his love that you received out into others and in the world here… which of course is our natural and necessary path… but to him? Do you know what God wants from us? Do you know that his message , what he wants from us, is so very clear in his word?…. I hope you’ll think about that…every time you see a marvellous aspect of his creation, and he created all this for us… and for the most part, throughout history we’ve given him nothing but trouble….. there are so many good people, like you and I and millions more… but there is more at play in the world . The issue is bigger than creating our own little wonderful circle and bubble. Do you really believe that if there were enough loving circles they could overcome the earth. History has shown differently. Can man direct his own step? Or does he need to be obedient to the one who is Love. And what would that mean? These are the things I am learning about, meditating on, reasoning with…and it’s expanding my world, bringing me peace and security and “fruitage of the spirit”… in ways that nothing ever has before., in ways I’ve never dreamed of.. I hope this little comment gives you some other questions to ponder upon and wish you a happy journey with it.

  65. Nancy says:

    Hi Kris
    As a fellow Stage 4 thriver Id like to thank you for letting me hitchhike on your strength and positivity. Sounds like a lot of people think you are cancer free, but the truth is you live and thrive with cancer. Everyday I try to do the same . Almost 3 years here. No one except other thrivers know the depth of the hell we’ve gone thru and the physical and emotional strength it takes to live a full life despite this diagnosis. I struggle daily to.live abundantly and.not.get.sucked into.the sinkhole of fear and depression. You have made all the difference. Hearts and hugs to you on this Valentine’s Day!!!

  66. Perfect Love casts out fear!! Be still and know . . . LOVE!!! Happy Valentine’s Day, Kris and all!!

  67. Kathy says:

    Thank you, Kris. I definitely needed to hear this today. I am helping to take care of my elderly parents & my husband who has health issues. I am 65, & he is 77, and we both still work trying to make ends meet. Sometimes I agree with the saying that “money is the root of all evil.” I am ready to simplify, but it’s hard to let go. Thanks for the encouragement to take the first step. Congratulations on 14 years!

  68. Bonnie Robinson says:

    Kris,

    This was exactly the message I needed to hear. I am a cancer survivor and I am realigning my world. Your wonderful message gave me courage to slow down and let God & the universe work things out. You are an amazing woman!

  69. Kim Gorga says:

    I love this. It is much of the essence of another visionary I follow that you might enjoy (if you don’t know if him already) – Mike Dooley – tut.com He has a daily mailing called A Note from the Universe that resonates like your message you received in your blog. It always seems to know the right thing to say and I swear that the Universe sees into my soul and he publishes exactly what I need to hear.

    Definitely take care of your beautiful self. You’ve done such a wonderful job of caring for your body. Glad you are taking the time to look after your soul now as well.

  70. Stephanie says:

    Perfect Kris, thank you. 🙂

  71. Jill says:

    Congratulations Kris!!!!
    Filled with gratitude for you sharing your gifts❣
    Learning (many times the hard way) what the universe has in store is soooo much greater and grander than anything I could imagine or control into creating.
    It is ok to let things come to you…wise words. Our inner knowing our intuition tells us when to move into action. So thankful for prayer and meditation, for stillness to hear that inner voice.

  72. Thank you, I really needed to hear that!

  73. Boy howdy, did I need this. “Controlling”, or the myth thereof, is my biggest challenge … spent the night worrying about my nephew that’s back in the hospital for a surprise MRI. Four years after emergency surgery and multiple rounds of chemo and radiation to battle stage 4 glioblastoma, last month he got the word, “remission”. We rejoiced and savored the miracles that surround this young man. So yesterday was a bit of a jolt. Awaiting word as to what’s going on and there’s not a bloody thing I can do … then I remembered to pray. Reading this post helped me ease up a bit, remember that he is a walking miracle and that God is working through and for him. Thank you, Kris. with deep gratitude and light filled blessings …

  74. Charlotte says:

    Thank you for this Kris! This is something that I really struggle with, being brought up in a very anti-religion family (so much so that any kind of spirituality was seriously frowned upon), so my gut instinct has always been skepticism… but I’m also a perfectionist and workaholic, and definitely need to learn to let go a little, and also to embrace failure and not beat myself up for it. Do you have any tips on how I can overcome this barrier on day-to-day basis? I’m already meditating 15 minutes a day, but the idea of getting on my knees and praying seems so bizarre and alien… What else can I try? Sending my love xx

  75. Cheri says:

    So true ?

  76. Donna says:

    Wow this was just what I needed to hear today have been working so hard on my business but losing my own balance in the process and missing out on precious time with those I love time for me to get quiet. Thanks kris for all you do and those whose lives you touch with your message!

  77. Kathryn says:

    That was awsome !!Thanl you kris?
    Happy Valentines day?

  78. Linda says:

    I got everything I needed here to get my day going. Now that’s the Power of the Universe! Thanks, Kris.

  79. Laura says:

    This was fantastic and spot on! I have been feeling so “helpless” and on auto pilot… I have to tell myself to have faith in my doctors- ” when they say “no more cancer” I have to believe them – let alone have faith in my own life and abilities. today I pray for help in finding peace and calm!

  80. Martha says:

    Bless you, bless you for sharing this message of surrender.
    I’m a recovering manifester and push, push, push, do, do, do girl…

    I couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me that I couldn’t manifest or pray my way to to baby or a mate and then the perfect storm hit, a tumor grew and I had a break-up so I was taken to my knees to learn how to let the Divine take the lead. My soul was speaking loudly and I heard her. Thankfully during the storm your work found me and I learned how to reduce the inflammation in my body (I’m so grateful for the CSY experience this fall). Tosha Silver’s (Outrageous Openness and Change me Prayers) and Meggan Watterson’s (Reveal, Soul Voice meditations) work also appeared in perfect timing and I’ve learned practical ways to surrender my life to the Divine and to help change my negative thought patterns. I learned about Parabdha Karma, my soul’s curriculum and how to shift a raging desire into a deep preference. Surrender is definitely not passive, I listen for guided action and when it’s go time, I’m fully supported!! Life is still full of challenges, my soul signed up for quite the challenging curriculum, but I’m not as exhausted by the pushing and doing as much any more. On this Valentine’s Day I can say that I’m free from the prison of longing for a mate, woo hoo!!!!

    Love and blessings to all for the highest good xoxoxo

  81. Terri says:

    Wow…just what I needed to hear today! Thank you and congrats on your C-versary. I just celebrated by 15 and 5!

  82. Amy says:

    Wonderful post, Kris. Thank you for all you do.
    What a wonderful coincidence that this morning I was reading a book, and in the section on “What is Your Higher Purpose” the sentence: “That is your higher purpose – to be radiant for no reason other than being alive”, stood out. Then your post. Nice way for the Universe to reinforce its message to me.

    l&l,
    Amy

  83. Candice Hobon says:

    This is exactly what I need right now. My frustration level is unreal. I had gotten a “temp-to-hire” job, and just recently gotten myself and my son into an apartment after having been homeless for several months. I was hoping the job would be permanent, but it didn’t work out that way. I blamed myself fully. I analyzed the situation over and over in my mind, trying to figure out where I went wrong. At the same time, I am going through a divorce. So here I am, sitting here at 5:30 in the morning after another of many sleepless nights, trying to figure out what the best course of action is on my job hunt as well as in my life. Then I saw this post. The timing couldn’t be more perfect. Thank you, Kris, for reminding me to hold on to my faith. I don’t have much time to find another job, but I now feel that I will be led to the right one. Congratulations on fourteen years of being cancer free! Namaste!

  84. Molly says:

    So beautifully said at such a perfect time. Thank you.

  85. Staci says:

    Love this post. Thank you for the reminder! Perfect timing too.

  86. Cappy says:

    I read this and cried!!! I have been doing, doing, doing for a very sick husband for over a year. Been trying to force it in every way I can. He is on hospice with multiple issues and although I pray daily., I am NOTletting it go ,I am trying to make it happen.. Your message came when it was most needed. From one cancer survivor to another it takes us places we would not have gone and makes us more than we thought we could be!

    • Barbara S says:

      Cappy, I have compassion for what you are going through. A friend was in a similar situation and there was nothing she or anyone could do to change it. I wish you peace in this part of your journey.

  87. Danielle Wu says:

    Very wonderful article. You probably realize this, so forgive me, thatvyou are describing the Daoist concept of Wu Wei (often translated as “inaction”) from the Lao Zi’s Dao De Jing (often translated Lao Tsu’s Yi Ching)? If not, definitely give it read! Love and peaches!

  88. Deborah Anderson says:

    Thank you for sharing your love, Kris. I had a similar experience of sharing with Spirit just last weekend. Everything we need to heal and be well is given to us. Some of us don’t know how to listen, apply, and be THANKFUL. What an awakening cancer is when you realize it is a part of your Being and that the journey to health is a beautiful occurrence, not a fight to the finish or a conquered battle. All negative energy spent is a waste when trying to heal. Blessings to you, always and in ALL ways. Deb

  89. Sue Arnott says:

    Congratulations on 14 amazing years Kris. I call them ‘amazing’ because you have thrived where others possibly wouldn’t. Kudos to you!! Your words are, as always, much needed and very relevant to me…..thank you so much. I talk to my angels every morning and every night and believe it or not, they told me something this morning that was such a surprise and that I really needed to hear. It brought happy tears to my eyes and made my day for sure. Works all the time doesn’t it?

  90. Laurie says:

    Right now at work I’m being reprimanded for things I did not do. I’ve been shaken to the core after sixteen years of working my soul to the edge of exhaustion. I asked for the support and character statements from my fellow employees and the response has been overwhelming and humbling. In another week I have to present my defense and character statements from these folks to a mean and manipulative woman and I’m still feeling crushed and defeated. Letting go seems to be my only option, searching for faith in a terrible and life altering situation.

    • Danielle Wu says:

      Oh yeah girl, let go! Go somewhere that supports and treasures you! I went through a similar experience 3 years ago but I didn’t hang around to defend myself; I realized that was a losing battle and got out! Really, your life is to precious to be a player in someone else’s script (especially when it’s a shitty one!)

    • Terri says:

      As an HR professional, good for you for standing up for yourself and getting support. So often bullies are left in the workplace because everyone is afraid to stand up to them. Your complaint may not help you and it may cause you to move on but my experience has shown that it will help others. Hang in there.

  91. Denise says:

    From one control freak to another, thank you for reminding me that I am right where I need to be and I’ll be just fine! I really have to make time to start journaling again. It has always served me well in the past. Peace and love to you ❤️

  92. Karen says:

    Thanks for posting this message. It hits home. Grateful.

  93. Elizabeth says:

    Kris, thank you for posting exactly what I needed to hear. Another Louise Hay affirmation I like is “I am open and receptive to all the good and abundance in the Universe.” I sometimes say “I am open and receptive to all the good and abundance that God has for me.” Either way, it’s a reminder that there really is a wonderful life out there. It can be even better than we ever imagined, we just have to be open to it. Like you, sometimes I get frustrated because I am working hard to meet some goals I have set but they’re just not falling into place. God’s divine timing is more perfect than anything we could ever come up with on our own. Thanks for sharing your wonderful message with the world.!

    • Mary says:

      Thank you Kris for these wise words and inspiration to start my day. I’ve chosen this day to reboot my thoughts and perceptions, so your blog post is just what I need. My mind is always spinning and I spend so much energy and time trying to control outcomes that I am left completely spent at the end of the day. Thank you again and congratulations on 14 years of being cancer free!

  94. Jess says:

    You are incredible, and it’s nice to know that others have crappy periods too, you have such strength, thank you for always making me feel good with ‘ Hiya gorgeous ‘ and spreading your love x

  95. Congrats on 14 years … cancer truly was a gift , look want you have created . I adore you , love your blog , books , everything. My Bff went thru her cancer journey 2014 and in that inbetween time of next steps in career and building a new life . You serve as an amazing example of listening to guidance and having faith . I am eternally grateful. Be the light , be the One . We are all One . Happy love day !

  96. Catharina says:

    thank you for your shared thoughts and encouragement… very appreciated in a tough situation — family in Central Italy without a home after the earthquakes, the earth here is still moving… our beloved work, handmade paper (nightcloud!), at a still moment… we have to recreate our lives — hip hip hurray for recreating yours!

  97. Almas Taufiq says:

    Unapologetically Me!!! Yes, that’s it! Thank you, Kris ?

  98. Sarah Prescott says:

    Thank you Kris. This is just what I have been struggling with. How to work and how to let go and let Godess into my life.
    Congratulations on 14 Crazy Sexy cncer-free years, you have helped me be a Vegan (all 4 months and counting!!) XO

  99. Cailín Bean says:

    Hi Kris, I’m reading this at 02.30am on a sleepless night and these words are a gift. Over the last few months I’ve noticed that the right people (doctors, teachers, bosses) have shown up whenever I’ve prayed and then simply let it go. When I worry and ruminate about something it just leads to stress and no other discernable results. Thank you for the wisdom! X

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