I’m a classic rock kind of gal so when I woke up this morning singing “Soulshine” by The Allman Brothers. I thought why not write a little more about the glow. Remember that bluesy tune? “Soulshine, better than sunshine, better than moonshine, damn sure better than rain.” Well those fellas were on to a deliciously universal truth.
Ever since the TLC commercial for my film started playing, the Crazy Sexy word, is rippling out to the ocean of people experiencing adversity. We’ve been getting hundreds of emails a day, 99% of which are EXPLODING with love and big thanks sista! But, what about that 1%? Since I am a story teller, the 1% of folks who don’t understand the name (which I’ll blog about next week) or HATE the sunny message (and love to tell me where to put it) make me think long and hard about the human condition. I learned pretty early in my acting career that if you believe the good reviews you have to believe the bad ones too. As soon as someone says you’re the next champagne supernova someone else will let you know you’re a turd. No thanks!
My friend, the celebrated and beloved author Marianne Williamson had me on her radio show “Oprah and Friends” the other day and Marianne said something about the book and film that made me giggle a big Amen, Aho! Yahoo, she said, “you catch the beam and shine it out girl”. Very cool right? So why did it make me blush and feel uncomfortable? Because happy can be spooky! I used to think it was arrogant to show my happiness, like I was bragging if I shared the good things in my life. So I joined the hurd and bitched with the best of them. It’s just so easy to do. Politics, the environment, the economy, the war, you name it, there is plenty to complain about! Then I got slammed by hurricane canSer, my levees broke and my world was drowning. In that moment I realized that the secret to happiness is the decision to be happy.
CanSer is here so now what? Fold up Kris, or find your eagle feathers? Happiness doesn’t come from a permission slip. When I focus on what’s wrong in my life I some how seem to get more of it! There’s no question, canSer changes your life forever, there will always be a BC (Before CanSer). Yet, I have chatted with so many people who say it was the best thing that happened to them. Why is that? Because if you let it, canSer will take you to your zero point and teach you what it means to live like you mean it.
The Talmud says, “During the time of the darkest night, act as if the morning has already come.” Act as if. Buddha (the ultimate dude) taught that the purpose of life was suffering and the end of suffering. Which to me means that when the sh@t hits your personal fan, swim deeper than you’ve ever been willing to go, where blue becomes black, that’s when you’ll find a buried treasure of diamonds (and oxygen).
The opportunity for happiness is staring you in the face right now. Wink back.