6 Ways to Transform a Bad Experience
Think about a small flame on a birthday candle doing its absolute best to light up and glow.
In the bright of day, its flame is lost. Against the backdrop of the sun or a glaring light bulb, it almost becomes insignificant.
So what do you do to maximize its effect? You create darkness by turning off the lights, and you carry the cake into the room for the excited birthday boy or girl.
Because that’s how the flame glows its brightest. That’s how you notice the contrast.
So just as the light of a candle shines brightest in the darkest places, the light of your soul and your strength glows brightest in the darkest of circumstances.
If you allow it.
Do you curse the darkness? Do you curse your circumstances? Your childhood? Your parents? Money? The government? Life?
Most of us do. It’s a condition — one not found in The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. We may even take prescribed drugs such as anti-depressants and anti-anxiolytics for it. It’s called the “poor me” syndrome.
And it’s keeping you poor, my love. Poor and missing out on the spectacular, priceless riches your life offers you right now.
Yes, right this instant. And, no, I’m not crazy. So listen up.
What do you really control in this life? Not much, right? Yet you probably spend much time trying to control circumstances, people, and even the bigger picture.
Delusions of grandeur? No, I don’t think so. Your behavior is just fear-based. You don’t want to get hurt, rejected, left in the dark … and that’s understandable. But I ask you to indulge me for a moment — although if you’re reading this, you already have — thank you!
You do control your responses. You do control your reactions. You do control your perspective. And while that comes with huge responsibility, it also comes with enormous freedom.
Freedom from victimhood. Freedom from destructive relationships. Freedom from self-sabotaging behaviors. Freedom from devastating food choices. Freedom from the chains you have incarcerated yourself in.
When you recognize this, darkness becomes the gift. Hell on Earth becomes the opportunity for your shift to happiness and wholeness on the most monumental level.
Think about a kaleidoscope. Do you remember the enchanting experience when, as a child, you first saw those pretty colors and patterns shifting, dancing magically? What had changed? All the pieces inside were the same. Nothing had been added or removed. Nobody else had stepped in to recreate your vision.
It was you. You turned the dial. You altered your position. You shifted your perspective, my love.
That’s your power; that’s your golden key.
Bad days and shocking life events are real. But what they do to you is a matter of choice. A matter of your perspective. Because nobody and nothing does anything to you on the inside. You, me … we do that to ourselves.
If I offered you a fresh, clean $50 bill right now, would you accept my gift?
If I threw it on the ground and stomped on it, crumpled it up or even spat on it, would you take it?
The inherent value of that money never altered. No matter who or what in life seems to have trampled or cursed you, your intrinsic value has never, ever changed either. And beautiful one, it absolutely never will.
Nobody can do that to you. Only you can choose to buy into that. Only you can give away your power and your worth.
So what is a bad experience?
It’s nothing more than the decision to not see a good experience.
A fantastic experience, in fact.
The opportunity for you to shine your light on the entire world. The opportunity for you to dig deep into your treasure chest of gifts, strengths, courage and beauty and bring all of that forth to embrace the reward that life is offering you.
The opportunity to rise to wholeness. To be your best you.
Because honestly, when the sun is shining, when life is music and laughter, you don’t notice or express all those gigantic talents buried within you. Just like that little candle on the cake.
Darkness and difficult circumstances offer you the opportunity to radiate and illuminate all who you are.
And my darling, that all-who -you-are person is spectacular.
· Welcome that next bad experience.
· Shift your perspective.
· Shine out your strengths.
· Find the treasure being offered.
· Embrace the opportunity for growth and wholeness.
· Bless it.
And bless you!
Kerri Baruch is a soulful, savvy woman living out the path of her purpose and dreams every day. Suddenly widowed at 27 with two toddlers, Kerri decided to find life’s gifts, do the healing and embrace her Journey with love. Officially, she is a Holistic Life and Nutrition Coach but what it really boils down to is that she inspires and empowers women throughout the world to ditch their Inner Critic and self-limiting beliefs.
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