5 Tips for Crazy Sexy Manifesting
You know those women who seem to get absolutely effing everything they want? Admit it. Even the most enlightened of us have moments when you see another chick’s success and think “Lucky blank!” Am I right?
Whether it’s the abundant lifestyle, glowing yoga body, hot boyfriend or just the shiny hair you covet, you have just as much chance as the next girl of getting “lucky” too.
Take it from someone who has manifested bank errors in my favor, unexpected scholarships and 6-months- all-expenses-paid travel around the world (after struggling and being generally unlucky for years). Manifesting is just a muscle, and anyone can learn to be lucky.
Here’s how you can experience even more of those “OMG; guess what I manifested?” success stories for yourself:
1. Keep shedding that baggage.
It’s easier to manifest when you’re convinced at a cellular level that you deserve it. The truth is – everyone’s good at manifesting (it’s not an arbitrary lottery system), but despite your best efforts, any lingering emotional baggage will muddle up your cosmic order.
Dig into dream boards, EFT, meditation, affirmations, afformations (not a typo), past-life regression, juice feasts, kinesiology, The Work, The Journey, Landmark, therapy, counselling, life coaching, energy healing, Reiki, forgiveness …What’s the best thing to do?
Everything. Try it all, and keep trying.Throw everything you’ve got at freeing yourself from your past. Some things will work for you better than others – we’ve all got our own complex set of insecurities and problems. One tool might loosen your heart; another might tug free a complex chain of memories, and each will help in its individual way to lighten you up and leave you free to consciously create a beautiful life.
By the way – forgiveness is non-negotiable. If you’re frustratingly repeating shitty patterns or relationships, forgiveness is the biggest gift you can give yourself. It will change your life, and your resulting manifesting ability will blow you away. Trust me.
2. Get ridiculously literal when you make requests to the Universe.
Sending out a vague and random request just leads to a random result. You’re not going to go to the juice bar and ask for a “nice juice” because everyone has a different interpretation of “nice”. You gotta be careful what you ask for!
Ditto if you’re merely asking for a “new job” or a “nice guy” to come along. Even just asking for “more money” might result in finding a few coins in the street which is probably not quite the flood of abundance you had in mind.
It’s OK to be specific.In fact, be like a spoiled little kid with an unlimited Santa wish list. If you want the new man, list out everything your heart desires in your soul mate. Spell out every perk you want in your new job (even down to the length of the commute or the relaxed dress code) — you might not manifest everything on your list, but you may as well ask, right?
3. There will always be someone who thinks you suck.
Seth Godin calls it “The mathematical impossibility of universal delight” – you can’t achieve any level of success while being 100-percent loved every second of the day. But it doesn’t mean we won’t try, right? Have you ever tried to convince some random person on the internet that you’re actually a really nice person? Frustrating, and it’s never going to happen. Some people won’t like you, and some people won’t be happy for your success.
Asking the Universe for the big dream but on the proviso that you never ruffle a single feather is not only unrealistic; it delays the manifestation of your real desires.
If a public criticism sends you into spirals of crippling self-doubt, do yourself a favor, and limit your exposure to it. Or celebrate your first hater as a sign that you’ve arrived! Send them a big thank you – it will confuse the hell out of them.
If it makes you feel like crap, don’t read it. Total denial? Not necessarily. It keeps you feeling fabulous about yourself, and when you feel good, you’ll manifest like a mo-fo.
4. Become a “reverse paranoid.”
Decide that the Universe is conspiring to create miracles for you. Every random coin in the street is proof of your incoming shower of cash; every positive blog comment is proof that your message is resonating with the right people; and every kind stranger is playing his cosmic part in the fulfilment of your dreams.
Even “bad” events can be interpreted as a sign that the Universe is looking out for you – money drama is a gentle nudge to sort out your taxes (so you can accept more), a minor car accident just a sign to slow down and a health hiccup a good excuse to get juicing again.
5. There’s no “lucky” time, so don’t wait.
Don’t wait for the full moon or a sign from the heavens, because the day you actually do it is your lucky day, and action is always rewarded by the Universe (especially when you have a big, clear intention behind it).
Empirical studies on the phenomenon of “luck” show that those who are self-identified as being lucky generally are luckier than others – it’s the self-fulfilling prophecy at work. So luck is so much more about attitude than timing (or the Universe “giving” you anything).
Lastly – it’s totally ok for you to be that extraordinarily lucky woman. When amazing things happen to you, share how you manifested it and shout it from the roof-tops. It gives everyone else permission to manifest even the craziest dreams too.
No lottery ticket required.
Denise Duffield-Thomas is a biz + life coach and author of ”Lucky Bitch.”
Photo credit: Chris Schoenbohm